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I ask my dad, a rabbi, this all the time. "Am I a good jewish boy, father?"

This is a story I was making up to my brother about how Jewish teens, such as myself, think. A lot of times we look for purity. Looking for purity is a part of our culture. We don't want watered down coke, we want the real coke. We don't want salty cake, we want a sensational cake. We don't want a piece of heaven, we want all of heaven. Most of all, we don't want our spouse's to have had sex before marriage.

Did you know that 50% percent of families are split in two by divorce. Something we all have trouble with. My first hug to anyone other than my family was to my friend George. George was 10 at the time, and his family was in complete cival war. Chris, George's brother rebelled many times. And George many times was alone. That was because of a divorce.

And many times like George's the argument is worse. And sex becomes a hell on earth. Sex is meant for after marriage. It is meant as guidelines, not rules. God is so amazing. Do you know why? Cause he gives us the will to have sex and he gives us the choice to do it when we want to. But over, and over again, we miss what we say in the Synagogue. The Shema. God's greatest commandment. LOVE the lord with all of your heart, and to follow all of his commandments. And by breaking that commandment we disobey God.

I don't think a person is defined by the things they do wrong unless all that they do is wrong. It's unfair to generalize that your relationship will be horrible if you have premarital sex. Not that I condone it, I just feel it's an indiviual choice and that you should do what you think is right. I won't have sex until I'm ready, and I might be wrong, but that could be before or after I'm married.

That's just my opinion

I believe that people can do whatever they want, be with whoever they want, and do it whenever they want, with their bodies. Its their bodies and they should not be judged by people on what they do with their sexuality. If they are good people what they do in their bedroom shouldnt define them as who they really are.

If you used some grammar to talk about your Lord that would help me a lot. Judiasm is commiting to God, not ignoring it. No matter if your Messianic Jew or an Orthodox.

You know, there are nicer ways to get your point across. sweatdrop I appreciate grammar as much as the next person, but a nicer warning might be a little better.


A note before this gets out of hand: This is a discussion. People state their own views; while they may not be the same as yours, respect them and don't turn this into a yelling match. On a similar note, don't presume your opinion is the right one and be unreceptive to others. BE OPEN MINDED, and please watch how you phrase things. Also, don't preach to others- they are many different forms and levels of Judaism, and some that are barely related to it at all. Just because something is right in your beliefs doesn't mean that everybody agrees.


To join in this discussion with my opinion (and I repeat- just my opinion, not law), I feel it is wrong to have sex before marriage, and I would be rather upset if my spouse did as well. What you do in a bedroom is part of your life- one needs to have enough self control to hold themselves back, and enough sense not to fool around randomly and get an STD or something. Besides, waiting makes it all the more worthwhile in the end; if you don't really care, why would such an act be any different when you're married, even though it's supposed to be holy?

However, I'm a little biased, as I hear all the time the personal life of random girls in a gym class at my school, and am moderately disgusted by it. stare


I hope nobody takes offense at anything I stated, and if you are offended, sorry- it was not my intention. sweatdrop

Exactly what I think, thanks for putting it into words. mrgreen

what a great moderator.

Me personaly, im not attracted (emotionaly, like for a relationship) to a woman whos not a virgin, why?! i dont know. But who knows who im gonna marry.
Me ive been around the block and back, yes ive hade sex. But theres one thing your missing out. When you get married, you do it, whether youve done it before or not, whats the difference?........ love.
when i get married(if i get married) im going to make love to this woman, not care about the past or future, care about the present, and once youve made love, i beleive, there is nothing purer.