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for at least two weeks. I got in trouble with my parents when my friend got caught smoking weed and said I bought it and gave her some. My dad said he and my mom were actually going to seek legal guardianship of me because I can't make my own decisions, and I can't communicate with people online until further notice, starting tomorrow. I just wanted to tell you guys so you wouldn't wonder why I disappeared.

That sucks...sorry to hear. I'll be waiting for ya. 3nodding

and me.... *been forever since we've had a chat w/each other on pms*

that sucks........what do u mean your parents are going to seek legal guardianship of u? they're your parents.....don't they have that already? yeah maybe u are over 18 but.....i dunno hmm.......at least u were honest! can't they just be happy that u don't keep secrets from them? well good luck with all this and u better come back after 2 weeks! i will be counting down the time.......

Did you buy it and sell it to her?

Damn, this pisses me off; I guess it the west coast Canadian coming out in me, but DAMN IT! Pot is *NOT* the doorway to hell like everyone thinks it is. Stupid ******** (not your parents, just people in general). I don't smoke pot, I actually never have; but it doesn't mean that absolutely everyone else I know hasn't done it at one time or another, and their lives aren't ******** up. And seriously, you are allowed to ******** up, even if it is a lot, between the ages of 15 to 30... That's life; your parents cannot live your life and make your choices for you. I can understand punishments, or kicking people out, but not threats of ruling you. Unless you are mentally retarded or are a coke addict making meth in your basement can they really try and take over for you. Frankly, a little pot isn't an 'out of control' person. ********, now I'm all mad. mad mad mad scream scream scream mad mad mad evil scream scream stare

Come back soon 3nodding

yup you are allowed to ******** up here and there god your parents are like my mom... stupid, over controlling, and stupid

gah i'm mad too

that is so stupid, i kind of slightly understand, but then again pot isn't that mad. if it was like... hmm meth,... or some other bad bad bad bad drug then maybe SLIGHTLY understand, but still they are over reacting

Yes it is a drug, I'm not trying to glorify it, I'm just saying that smoking a bit, or even 'quite a bit' isn't going to ******** your life up... I don't mean in the way of law; it can screw you over in the way of the law, but it's not like it will mess up your brain or body like coke, meth, or heroin can. Just don't use it and drive. Frankly, it can do no worse harm than alcohol... I believe that alcohol is worse in fact. I am not condoning it, but I won't condemn it either.

It's more a matter of a legal problem in the States than here. I knew a person who walked up to an undercover cop and asked for light! The cop said "Uhhhh... I'm an undercover cop..." and my friend (whom we just so happened to call Stoner Bailey) said "Oh s**t!" Cop just gave him a verbal warning and confiscated the pot was all.
I'm not saying it is safe, another friend of mine from high school, Mike, whom I remember growing a marijuana plant in his closet in grade 9, collapsed a lung 2 yeas ago from taking too many bong hits... 10 years of everyday marijuana abuse, of course he'll have problems. I have had some friends waste their lives on the stuff, but I know others who have smoked it off and on the last 10 years, and some who have done it only once or twice. I am one of the few people I know who had never ever done it. But I want to point out that NONE of these friends has ever gone on to harder drugs, I just don't buy into the myth that it is a 'gateway drug'. I think it is a poor excuse to try and take over another's life or saying that they are unfit to lead their own. Like you said "a dumbshit move" Granted SPM might have given her parents lots of reasons to worry about her behavior... but she is 18! What do they expect?





You friend sounds very lame... she is either stupid for not knowing the consequences involved for you, or cruel for blaming you. Her parents probably didn't press charges because they probably already suspected the fact that she tried to shift the blame. And her parents got your parents involved so you could be punished in their own way. I don't think that your grounding is bad; I just have a problem with the taking guardianship thing. But I'm sure no judge would grant it, it's probably just an empty threat, but still lame at that. Parents saying there are disappointed in their misbehaving teen, grounding them, punishing them, guilt tripping them, that all works. However I think that what they said was a poor tactic... not only does it sound like they have no confidence in you, but it sounds like they think it you're hopeless. What a shitty message to send your kid.

I still live with my family, grandparents, aunt and mother... frankly ever since I graduated high school, I consider myself their equal, and unless I am bringing great trouble into their lives they can't tell me how to live mine. They understand that minimum wage is not living wage, and they need my income as much as I need theirs. We live as a community rather than a hierarchy. And just as you wouldn't tell your neighbour how to live, they don't and can't tell me how to live. I established these playing rules a long time ago, and they are generally followed. My grandfather can still be an a** at times, but he is old and he is a man, so what can I expect, really?

I totally understand you and appreciate your stalling on getting a job… I quit my last job because I was so sick of having to be fake happy for a bunch of people I couldn't care less about that I had no more energy to be real happy about being near friends and family. I began to avoid people and became increasingly isolated. I ending up slipping back into another one of my depressions, and quit my job lest I go mad. But I didn't even try to get a job for the first few months afterwards, because I would end up having to deal with the public again, and the public is full of assholes. I can't find a job now that I WANT one, but that's a different story blaugh

But enough of jaded bitter Zathura, time to get back into happy happy giddy Zathura blaugh