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So, I've been with my girlfriend for nearly six months now and actually this Monday will mark our six month date.

Well, when my parents found out I was going out with someone, and with another girl none-the-less, let's just say they were less than pleased. Why? They're almost-homophobes. And suddenly finding out that their daughter was at least Bisexual and perhaps even lesbian (haven't figured it out myself yet), they flipped.

Well, over the months, they seemed to be adjusting fairly well. I mentioned about a month ago to my mom about taking my girlfriend out on a date and to dinner after and she said "Well, I'm not worried about the restaurant because I know you two can't to anything there. It's the movie I'm worried about." Well, I took that as a semi-positive sign that she was adjusting.

So yesterday, I brought up the idea of (again) bringing my girlfriend to the movies and dinner for a six month celebration.

And you know what she said?


That was so incredibly insulting! I was also incredibly offended by this. And right now, I'm sensitive so I've been brooding over it a fair bit and I just wanted to rant and get some other opinions.

You and me both. I mean, what's so wrong with homosexuality?

Yeah... That's something I'd expect my parents to say if they ever do find out I'm bisexual...

If you read the bible closely, things did change a bit. When Jesus came down he NEVER condemed homosexuality. GO JESUS GO! xd

The bible was writen by humans, in an era of time where it wasn't accepted. I believe God will bring homosexuals into heaven with even wider arms, because of all the stuff we've indured.

Isn't there a thing in the bible saying that? Those who have harder lives, but still love God, will have a great life in the Kingdom of Heaven?

wow thats rude evil neutral

When parents find out their child is a different sexuality other than straight they go through the normal stages of acceptance, like death, you know?

Yes, it is innapproperiate what she said and I would freak out if my mother said that to me.
It's just that now your parents are in 'denial' about your "situation" and possiably believe it is a phase and/or they ignore your "lust" for another girl.

But as you come out more to them and they realize this is not a phase and you are serious with your girlfriend anger and possiable disownment is instore and finally, if your parents can get this far, acceptance and just realize that even though you are bisexual/lesbian that you are their daughter and they love you.

Still just like a death of their child this is something that can/will take time.

Look in society there is something called heterocentrism. This is a person aawtomatic asumption thats someone is strait. So because of this your parents grow up ASUMING that you will grow up, find a nice man, have children and you know the whole bit. When someone finds out you like women there is an automatic assumption you are a lesbian because most people dont consider bisexuals to be seriouse or even exist for that matter. So you can imagine the thought process going through your motehrs mind. First she would go "she likes girls!!!" (most liekly assume you are a lesbian), then she would realize you wouldnt get meet a guy that your would date, leading to no traditional marrage, the you wouldn't have a family (I knwo you can still addopt and what not but this si generaly what goes through a motehrs mind) and then she realises that cuts out the possibility of so many otehr things. So really Your mother was reacting to a set of thoughts(I'm not saying this is how it alwase goes just most of the time) that basicaly cut out several "normal" parts of life. So just think about the rational behind it all and then consider how your motehr must feel.

Mind you this all doesnt make it ok for her to say something like that. But it should help you have some insight into why she would. Oh and all these things dont neseccarilly go in that order or rigth behind each otehr. SO she might have been ok with it but then one day all these realizations dropped on her and she went into denail.

If someone denies existance of Bi, or uses that 'you can't strattle the fense, you have to be on one side or the other', then they don't understand bisexuality at all, meaning they don't understand their own sexuality either.