Most of my true friends are the kids my age at church. They don't judge me even though I am a dork (You never would have guessed, me being on Gaia and all) and they are all involved with sports. We go to different high schools because I live out of town, but we have all known each other since about 10-11ish years ago.
Last year at my first youth dance I found that I liked one of my friends. The "no dating until 16" rule must have created a barrier which this dance broke. I realized how truly attractive she was and I wondered why I had taken so long to notice it.
We are friends, but we don't do a lot of stuff outside of church. Sometimes we go to a movie as a group, we go to birthday parties and stuff, but I don't do a whole bunch with them. This is one of the reasons why I am so grateful that the church has so many activities for the youth.
Now I don't have a problem with the church's advise to teens about dating. There are too many pregnant girls at my high school because they get too involved too young. What I have a problem with is people who blatantly go against this rule.
A few months pass. I don't quite know how the events came to be, I believe it was at the one dance I didn't go to. There is a guy over two years older than us who started hanging out with us, more specifically the girl I like. He is an idiot in my opinion, a social reject from his group who must go down a level in order to get any respect. He has tried to get her to break the standards on multiple occasions, such as trying to get her to go to dinner with him before a dance. Instead of the parents refusing, and telling him what's what, they decide to compromise by going with them.
I don't know what to think. I don't know what she thinks. She doesn't seem to care much about any guy. I don't even know why I am telling you this. I just want some advice. Advice from those almost completely unrelated to the situation. Advice from people going through this.
Riffe
I guess that one of my main problems is the fact that she isn't very open about her feelings as far as I have seen. She refuses to comment on what she thinks about this other guy, but she goes on a lot more stuff with him than with me. And it is not because he asked. I don't know. I guess I can just think happy thoughts until I turn sixteen.
I also have a few reasons that I don't talk to her a lot.
1. We don't go to the same school.
2. I rarely sit with her at anything. (The main reason for this is that the other guy counts seats and makes sure he sits by her.)
3. Anytime we go anywhere in a car, she falls asleep.
I guess that I will just have to wait and see what the remainder of this final year is like. The deep breath before the plunge. /gandalf . Maybe it will all just blow up in his face.
I also have a few reasons that I don't talk to her a lot.
1. We don't go to the same school.
2. I rarely sit with her at anything. (The main reason for this is that the other guy counts seats and makes sure he sits by her.)
3. Anytime we go anywhere in a car, she falls asleep.
I guess that I will just have to wait and see what the remainder of this final year is like. The deep breath before the plunge. /gandalf . Maybe it will all just blow up in his face.
Riffe
Alright, an update on what happened:
I actually was able to ride next to her on the way down. But on the other side was one of her other friends and so we didn't talk that much. The dance was at a branch way far out in the stake, so not many wards showed up. We dance after half an hour, but it was so short that all we really got to talk about is what superpower I could have. (In case you are wondering, it was either ninja skills or extreme mind manipulation.)
Will finish later.
I actually was able to ride next to her on the way down. But on the other side was one of her other friends and so we didn't talk that much. The dance was at a branch way far out in the stake, so not many wards showed up. We dance after half an hour, but it was so short that all we really got to talk about is what superpower I could have. (In case you are wondering, it was either ninja skills or extreme mind manipulation.)
Will finish later.
Riffe
When we last left our hero, he was dancing with the love interest of the story. Let's find out what happens next!:
Alright so the rest of the dance, I flirted with her and messed around. We were the only ones that were really doing anything. I got tired, and tried to fall asleep in a chair, but the aforementioned guy unpinned the lights above me and woke me up. Then he tried to give me a "purple nurple". Jerk. I got up and pushed him into the wall, twisting his n****e cause I was trying to sleep. I was seriously about to punch him, but, I had my reasons not to:
A. It is the wrong thing to do.
B. She was around, and even though she didn't see the rest of this, she would have seen a fight.
C. I would have gotten my butt kicked...badly...
So I wrote it off as just playing with him. Have any of you ever watched Naruto? Ya' know that lightning stuff that goes on between Naruto and Sasuke in the earlier episodes. Yeah that's what happens between me and him.
So I resume me occupation with sleep until a song I recognize plays. I immediately ask her to dance with me. I don't know what the name of it is, but the lyrics were:
I don't want to run away, but I can't take it I don't understand.
Yeah, you know the song. I didn't talk to her the whole dance, I wanted her to hear the song because it pretty well described what I felt about her. (Well, not all of it.) Also, I was tired. But mostly, I was deciding whether or not to tell her that I liked her. Because of the advice of the people of this guild, I decided not to.
Alright so the rest of the dance, I flirted with her and messed around. We were the only ones that were really doing anything. I got tired, and tried to fall asleep in a chair, but the aforementioned guy unpinned the lights above me and woke me up. Then he tried to give me a "purple nurple". Jerk. I got up and pushed him into the wall, twisting his n****e cause I was trying to sleep. I was seriously about to punch him, but, I had my reasons not to:
A. It is the wrong thing to do.
B. She was around, and even though she didn't see the rest of this, she would have seen a fight.
C. I would have gotten my butt kicked...badly...
So I wrote it off as just playing with him. Have any of you ever watched Naruto? Ya' know that lightning stuff that goes on between Naruto and Sasuke in the earlier episodes. Yeah that's what happens between me and him.
So I resume me occupation with sleep until a song I recognize plays. I immediately ask her to dance with me. I don't know what the name of it is, but the lyrics were:
I don't want to run away, but I can't take it I don't understand.
Yeah, you know the song. I didn't talk to her the whole dance, I wanted her to hear the song because it pretty well described what I felt about her. (Well, not all of it.) Also, I was tired. But mostly, I was deciding whether or not to tell her that I liked her. Because of the advice of the people of this guild, I decided not to.
Riffe
Back at the dance---
So we were dancing, but I wasn't talking to her, however, I tried to make it clear I wasn't ignoring her. I tried to make eye contact, but she couldn't keep it. (Point one for the guys of the world!) In the car earlier, I had intentionally positioned my arm in a way that it would touch her to she if she was relaxed or not. She jumped/twitched, but seemed okay with it. So I tried the same technique on her hand. I squeezed my grip on her hand a bit, making it less loose. Her hand jumped but once again she was smiling.
The dance felt awkward, but I noticed something...She was smiling... I mean, she was smiling all night, but this was different. This was about me.
I continued to do stuff with her the rest of the dance, my dance with her reinvogorated me, so my occupation with sleep was gone. I didn't sit next to her on the way back, but she fell asleep, so it didn't matter anyway.
That night, I was devoted. I talked to my mom about it. (I have a very close relationship with her) I was committed to writing a note to her to give to her on Sunday, to tell her that I liked her. I wrote it. That's a step.
In the morning, during Sunday school, I said something to her sister about not knowing what Frogger was. (Seriously, I thought everyone had played Frogger, or at least heard of it)
Turns out that that and something else really depressed her sister, and later that day, her mom attacked me about it. Not something her mom would do usually, she's cool. Turns out I really really ticked her off. I apologized, but I still felt really bad. And I didn't know what she would think about me upsetting her sister. And I thought that she should still know what Frogger was.
After church, I got Frogger offline and sent her an e-mail apologizing again. This really helped. Turns out that some stuff in life had upset her and that it was not just me.
After Losing a bunch of Disposition points, I actually managed to regain above my previous level. How's that for extreme mind manipulation?
Whahahahahhahahahahhahahahhahahahha!!!
That's not even all of the story. I also found out that she doesn't like the other guy as much as I thought, it seems more like she could like both of us.
------------------------ heart And Riffe lived happily ever after until Tuesday Night. heart
P.S. I just realized that it was you that suggested I not tell her on the dance floor! Don't Yaaargh me!
So we were dancing, but I wasn't talking to her, however, I tried to make it clear I wasn't ignoring her. I tried to make eye contact, but she couldn't keep it. (Point one for the guys of the world!) In the car earlier, I had intentionally positioned my arm in a way that it would touch her to she if she was relaxed or not. She jumped/twitched, but seemed okay with it. So I tried the same technique on her hand. I squeezed my grip on her hand a bit, making it less loose. Her hand jumped but once again she was smiling.
The dance felt awkward, but I noticed something...She was smiling... I mean, she was smiling all night, but this was different. This was about me.
I continued to do stuff with her the rest of the dance, my dance with her reinvogorated me, so my occupation with sleep was gone. I didn't sit next to her on the way back, but she fell asleep, so it didn't matter anyway.
That night, I was devoted. I talked to my mom about it. (I have a very close relationship with her) I was committed to writing a note to her to give to her on Sunday, to tell her that I liked her. I wrote it. That's a step.
In the morning, during Sunday school, I said something to her sister about not knowing what Frogger was. (Seriously, I thought everyone had played Frogger, or at least heard of it)
Turns out that that and something else really depressed her sister, and later that day, her mom attacked me about it. Not something her mom would do usually, she's cool. Turns out I really really ticked her off. I apologized, but I still felt really bad. And I didn't know what she would think about me upsetting her sister. And I thought that she should still know what Frogger was.
After church, I got Frogger offline and sent her an e-mail apologizing again. This really helped. Turns out that some stuff in life had upset her and that it was not just me.
After Losing a bunch of Disposition points, I actually managed to regain above my previous level. How's that for extreme mind manipulation?
Whahahahahhahahahahhahahahhahahahha!!!
That's not even all of the story. I also found out that she doesn't like the other guy as much as I thought, it seems more like she could like both of us.
------------------------ heart And Riffe lived happily ever after until Tuesday Night. heart
P.S. I just realized that it was you that suggested I not tell her on the dance floor! Don't Yaaargh me!
Riffe
Well, it has been a while since I have updated this, but that is because nothing has happened really. But last night was another tri-stake dance.
The cool part of this dance was that these cards were given out with "Dance with someone that...
1.has a Different Eye color
2.has Same Birthday month as you
3.is in theSame Grade
4.in in a Different grade
5.is in a Different ward, same stake
6.has a different eye color
7.likes the same music as you
8.you think looks really nice tonight
I waited to dance with the girl until I had done all except number 8.
I told her that I thought that she looked nice tonight! And she seemed to be happy that I said it.
POINTS!!!
And she did stuff with me the rest of the dance more than she ever had.
POINTS!!!
"DOUBLE KILL!"
I'm now almost certain that she knows that I like her and there is a chance that she likes me too! BAM!
"KILLING SPREE!!!"
The cool part of this dance was that these cards were given out with "Dance with someone that...
1.has a Different Eye color
2.has Same Birthday month as you
3.is in theSame Grade
4.in in a Different grade
5.is in a Different ward, same stake
6.has a different eye color
7.likes the same music as you
8.you think looks really nice tonight
I waited to dance with the girl until I had done all except number 8.
I told her that I thought that she looked nice tonight! And she seemed to be happy that I said it.
POINTS!!!
And she did stuff with me the rest of the dance more than she ever had.
POINTS!!!
"DOUBLE KILL!"
I'm now almost certain that she knows that I like her and there is a chance that she likes me too! BAM!
"KILLING SPREE!!!"
Riffe
