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 Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 9:57 pm
Okay. If you feel uncomfortable with this issue, I suggest you... click the back button. BTW, if I did type something that is inappropriate, just PM me and I'll remove it and replace it with less inappropriate words.
( Excuse my misspellings. My brain has shut off from too much studying.)
For the past three years, I've been struggling with lust. Internet porn has been one of my constant struggles. Some of you may think that's a little wierd, considering that I'm a girl. It happens. I've read bible verses about lust, and I really love God.
My problem is, I can't feel guiltyness (sp.) and therefore, cannot feel if I am doing anything totally wrong. I've told people about my problem, people that I am completely close to, but I still do it.
Masterbation hasn't been much of an issue as it had been a couple of years ago. I still struggle with it, but my main thing that I need help on right now is unclean thoughts of others.
As I look at other people, sometimes I visualize inappropriate things. I try to divert my mind, but it goes back to the visuals. I don't know how to stop it, and I've been praying about it for a while now. I've heard "visualize God looking down at you now", but since I can't feel guilt, I don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong.
If anyone has any advice to this, please share. >.<
As of recently, I've been feeling like I'm alone on this issue.
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 6:11 am
krnchichiri Okay. If you feel uncomfortable with this issue, I suggest you... click the back button. BTW, if I did type something that is inappropriate, just PM me and I'll remove it and replace it with less inappropriate words. ( Excuse my misspellings. My brain has shut off from too much studying.) For the past three years, I've been struggling with lust. Internet porn has been one of my constant struggles. Some of you may think that's a little wierd, considering that I'm a girl. It happens. I've read bible verses about lust, and I really love God. My problem is, I can't feel guiltyness (sp.) and therefore, cannot feel if I am doing anything totally wrong. I've told people about my problem, people that I am completely close to, but I still do it. Masterbation hasn't been much of an issue as it had been a couple of years ago. I still struggle with it, but my main thing that I need help on right now is unclean thoughts of others. As I look at other people, sometimes I visualize inappropriate things. I try to divert my mind, but it goes back to the visuals. I don't know how to stop it, and I've been praying about it for a while now. I've heard "visualize God looking down at you now", but since I can't feel guilt, I don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong. If anyone has any advice to this, please share. >.< As of recently, I've been feeling like I'm alone on this issue. I understand what you mean. It's like...your thoughts automatically drift in that direction whenever you don't pay attention. Everytime you see a drop-dead gorgeous guy in tight clothing...It's hard not to think of this kind of stuff. I tied a string around my ring finger. It's a constant reminder that Jesus is my Lord and Savior, and I have to remain true to him. Everytime my thoughts drift in that direction, I just look at the string on my finger, and suddenly, my mind changes course and I suddenly look at it from a Christian perspective instead. It helps alot, but it doesn't stop completely Don't worry, it's normal. As long as you restrain yourself, you're fine. Jesus understands 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 12:00 pm
Thanks, AoS...
That really comforted me. 6.^
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Posted: Thu Sep 07, 2006 5:33 am
well first off ofcourse,it is very wrong,but it is just the same as a lie,all sin is equal,but do you tell lies...guilt finds you in a lie,always,now,lust is a bad thing i myself have had to deal with from a guys side of things,try imagining what your boyfriend would think,if you had one...would you want someone you liked ,to look and lust..its just wrong,its not a sensitive topic though,its real,its not a comfortable setting that lets people hide from reality,i hope you get more replies
God Bless
(through God all is great,and all can be achieved)
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Posted: Thu Sep 07, 2006 8:01 pm
D: I don't really understand your post, Nameless Angel.
Are you saying that the "boyfriend" would lust at others, or just me? If he was dating with an intention of marriage as I also am, but he was trying to stop the lusting, then it would be fine by me. He's trying, and that's all that really matters. ( I don't dress skimpy much... aside from my swimsuit and spaghetti tank tops. )
From the obvious, I know that its wrong. >.>
Occasionally, I tell lies. I still feel no guilt.
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 7:03 pm
yea you know you feel guilt that little twist in your gut its guilt,you feel but i dont think you wanna understand it... its a consious it tells you when you have made a mistake,maybe you dont wanna be wrong??? maybe your trying to makii your own right and wrong,you cant,you will lose your fight,just pray,its between you and God,nothing i say will change you,you have to do it yourself...
God Bless
(ill pray for your strength)
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Posted: Sat Sep 16, 2006 8:06 pm
Woah, woah. All I can say is just to stop making assumptions about me.
I don't feel guilt at all. I don't feel a twist in my gut, and I do understand it. God gave me wisdom through my trials, and I understand me more than anyone else. I trust in God, and my faith my falter, but I do not try to make my own right and wrong.
You are right, however. Nothing you can say will change me. ( I still can't tell what you are saying because of your typos... >.>)
(I am harsh and I am very honest to others. So... sorry if I offend you. )
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Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2006 4:59 pm
i dont take offense and sorry im not always clear when typing but im trying i guess thats alli can do though,you know right from wrong,you trust in God,just go from there,it can't be too bad
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Posted: Tue Oct 17, 2006 6:13 am
Wow u have a doozie here. I personally have never had to deal with this issue, so let's see how i go. I believe that noticing a good looking guy is okay and thinking wow he's nice. But what i get from what i've read is that sometimes u mentally undress them. Plz correct me if i'm mistaken. Now the sin of lust is just as bad as murder - all sins are the same in God's eyes. To receive forgiveness for this u need to repent, but to repent u need to feel remorse, and that's something u say u don't feel. Well u've admitted u've got a problem - u do see it as a problem don't u?
U know it's wrong, u want to fix the prob. Even tho u don't feel the gut-wrenching guilt, i think u do feel guilty otherwise u wouldn't have asked for help.
As for how to stop lusting, i'll have to think about that one a bit more, but keep praying. "Through contant prayer and petitioning.....damn i can't remember the rest but it's got something to do with getting an answer. It's the devil that's causing u to be like this, so pray to that his hold on u will be romoved so that u can be what God wants u to be.
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 11:32 pm
Thanks, Goldmouse.
Although this thread isn't much of a great expansion of the "problem" I see... whatever.
I see it as a problem because I feel pissed off because I know that I'm wasting my time and I should try my best to be "righteous and blameless" in the eyes of God.
( also, Goldmouse, I think you should only try to help others if you know what it feels like... otherwise you would be called a hypocrite. >.> )
I am well aware that all sins are the same in God's eyes.
Progress now:
I suppose I have slowed down in my problems of this problem, but it still goes on. I justify my actions by stupid reasons, yet I know it is wrong. (ITS CALLED MORALS)...
The visuals have haltered rather abruptly and I am not staring... much anymore. God has helped me significantly by finding no attraction to men whatsoever. (I'm not lesbian but I had been considering that option for a while.)
I'm now considering celibacy, but I'm scared to commit to that huge promise.
However despite this amazing "progress", I'm beginning to become the person I was three years ago. I am starting to SM and also become filled with malice and maintain my composure so well that nothing will excite nor dissapoint me. Perhaps its from the stress of school, or just my parents getting a divorce and my brother going to Iraq.
We'll see how this turns out.
I would still like some random feedback/advice on any of this... just please try to attempt correct grammar/spelling.... >.>
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Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 2:24 pm
I know where you are coming from. I have been in the same fight for a while now.
What I try to do is if I see porn or anything on the internet I try to pray to God and ask him to forgive me and the girls in the pictures. Sometimes I feel like it's no big deal but every night I beg and pray for God to forgive me.
I always try to tell myself this and it might work for you. God is you daddy and he sees everything you do. You wouldn't want your human daddy see you doing this so why are you doing it when you heavenly daddy is right there in the room? Does that make any since?
I hope I have helped. Please remember that you are still God’s child and if you ask his forgiveness and mean it he will forgive.
I’ll be praying for you.
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Posted: Tue Nov 28, 2006 5:25 pm
Wow, this is a subjet many people (including myself) have struggled with. The internet is horrid temptation now that more and more people have become addicted to porn.
But you are admitting your problem to people whom you trust, which is an important first step torwards recovery. A few webpages I recommend for people struggling with addiction is http://www.christiananswers.net/q-eden/edn-f016.html
http://www.christiananswers.net/q-eden/sexaddictiontips.html
http://www.christiananswers.net/q-eden/edn-f017.html
http://www.christiananswers.net/q-sum/sum-f001.html
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Posted: Mon Mar 12, 2007 2:51 pm
After a while of doing something wrong, the guilt fades. That's with everything. With lying, with doing drugs, with having sex before marriage. After a while, it doesn't matter. Your situation kind of sucks all around because you are in a situation where you are addicted to something, can't stop, but know it's wrong. Now, I'm not comparing you to a druggie, but usually, they need to go get real help. Professional help. They can't stop on their own. So, first I would suggest you take one close person, that you know totally has your back and loves you, and make a plan. Such as: every time you look at porn, you have to tell them. It's hard enough telling people, but it's hard to tell them constantly because you'll disappoint them constantly. It's a situation where you have to be totally honest. Now, if this doesn't work, then you should seek professional help. It's a serious addiction. You can't get married or go on in life without carrying it and messing everything up. It will. You really have to be committed. Completely. Get real help. Go talk to your pastor about it and ask him what you should do. That's probably the best thing.... I have someone extremely close to me who is going through the same thing. I'm trying to help him as well. It's really hard on both of our parts, but especially on his. I feel for you. I'll be praying for you too. *God Bless*
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 10:12 am
wow...this is a late reply... sweatdrop sorry! well, i seriously know how you feel. i was once in your place. i had issues with internet images...and yes, i'm a girl too. but the only difference was that i FELT GUILT. my heart pounded and my body throbbed with just the thought that JEsus was right next to me saying, "is this RIGHT, kelsey? look. these are people who are using the body that i created for good, and using it for an immoral, defying way...." yeah...well, eventually my parents found out. we had a serious discussion, but they weren't really mad at me....they knew that the consequence for me would be my after-thoughts and regrets. they knew that that was gonna be enough for me. but they also know that God can take that sin and somehow mold it for His will, His plans (i know this may sound totally weird). and He did....the following year, He totally changed me. i have no desire left to look at porn and all that...crud. now and then i still pick up past images and things i saw in my head, but i hand it to God, refusing to picture it any further. you can't do this on your own...you need a supportive family...you need GOD. even if you don't have a christian, supportive faimly, or if your family doesn't even know, God's there for you to lean on. He always will be. you know why? look at the cross....he loves you so much! like my username says. his love is unconditional, countless against all the images your eyes glanced, stared, or blinked at. sometimes we give up on certain issues thinking, "God can't help me....nobody can...i'm in this alone...i have no more strength...no more power...." and we don't even confront with God. we may mumble a simple prayer, but not actually mean it and yearn for his guidance from the sincerity of our hearts. that's something to think about....my parents were really supportive of me. they DID set a lot more boundaries. at first i was furious because i wasn't able to go on clean sites for homework and i had a time limit for internet use...i was like a baby all over again! but then, God woke me up....i'm glad my parents restricted me. you can't recover in a blink. you can't recooperate and bounce right back up without falling back into it again. it's a gradual thing...you have to set your own boundaries and seek God for strength and power to resist temptation. these things aren't of God....but God can certainly help you out. you have to have faith...you can't say, "oh...but it's still hard! i mean, i'm with God and all...but the urge is still there!"....God is fully capable of taking this all away. that's where the factor of trust comes in. you have to have discipline too. you can't expect God to do everything for you, YOU have to put in a lot of effort too. it's not gonna be a walk-in-the-park....it's a process that you will have to take with God by your side the whole time. but when you put your effort in and you still feel weak, God will be there. stay strong in Him. that's what i've learned....God has taken this away from you multiple times, but when doubt or sin creaps in your life, that becomes a hole for Satan. and Satan will bring that back to you. you know, Satan's gonna do whatever he cans to make you doubt yourself and think there's no guilt. you actually have to let that guilt sink in, in order to fall back on God. sometimes guilt is from the Holy Spirit, nudging you towards the light. but inside you're actually blocking it. so it's not like guilt isn't there.....just ask the Holy Spirit for power to overcome these things, and it will certainly be given to you in God's time. everything will work out...light defeats darkness. we will win! heart you know...the more i think about it...God could've used to black past to help you and others out. because i went through the problem, i have a better position in understanding and comprehending these bitter feelings. anyways....take this verse and engrave this on your heart: Nahum 1:7 - "The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust Him..."
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 5:04 pm
possibly it could be a spirit. if u really loved god u woud stop this. god doesn't want any impure person in his kingdom. you need to pray and fast about this cause ultimately if u keep going down this road this could cause your eternal death. Jesus shed his blood for you. Don't make it go to waste.
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