Welcome to Gaia! ::

Yesterday my mom dropped my sister off at school and came over to watch my girls while I got a quick shower. Funny thing was once my mom was here I sudenly didn't want a shower. I wanted some adult company and conversation.
I went through this really bad when I had my first daughter because I left work (my social life) to stay home and take care of my daughter, but I didn't realize I was getting so lonely this time around because that was the life I was used to (more or less).
To make matters worse Hubby works nights so the friends that I do have are on a totally different schedule than I am and I don't get to see them very often.
On the weekends when Hubby's not working he wants to stay home and all I wanna do is go visit people!

Any other SAHMs? What do you do to keep from getting lonely?

I'm not a mom with a birth child yet, but what I do for summers (Since I AM home alone, and my dog acts like a human kid all on his own. O.o) I usually talk to a friend on the phone while doing chores and stuff, or maybe you could take your kids out for some fun in the sun like I do with Smokey out back. :3 With your other daughter, you could do what my mom did for me and have a little teaparty with her. Cut up some tuna sandwiches, or any kind, into triangles and have little cups with her favorite juice and dress up and stuff. I loved it when my mom did that with me.

Yup. *Very* hard to explain. I flip into dying-for-a-conversation mode sometimes too. This is usually when my husband's on evening shift (he swithces back and forth), since any time for a real conversation usually comes after/during dinner, but it was worse when my husband was in his last job and was at work roughly 12-15 hours every day - especially since, for most of that time, my son was pre-verbal. talk2hand I think it gets worse when the normal social hours are spent alone with the kids, because I rarely get the same loneliness when I know I'll get to talk to someone my age at dinner.

I can commiserate, but I can't say I have any special tips or tricks for getting over it. I have my best friend (another SAHM), who's got three girls of her own and a workaholic husband, so usually if I'm dying for a talk with a grown-up I call her. Visits work out especially well, because then our kids go play together somewhere else, and we can actually talk without screaming kids in the background. Not to mention the social interaction of getting to fix a meal together. I'd say we're each other's lifeline to sanity. Failing that, I usually go visit my mother. We share a lot of interests, so it's not like an endless lecture, which is helpful (and cannot be said of all mother/daughter relationships). And the best part is that my mom will fix us food too, so I can actually have a meal where I don't cook or do dishes. biggrin

To keep myself from getting overly sad, I have of course taken to conversing with my son as an equal. He's getting some decent vocabulary out of it, and I don't feel like my brain is turning into lumpy purple plush. Not to mention, we've gotten him into a few good movies, so if I'm having a horrible day and just want to hear something in an adult voice, I can plunk in Star Wars or Spiderman or Pirates of the Caribbean and watch it with him. It's not perfect, but it's a decent patch in times of trouble, when I can't reach anyone I know on the phone.

Oh yes, and I reread my favorite books if I'm going through a phase when I just really want intellectual stimulation and it keeps hitting late in the evening. After all, a good plot is *almost* as good as a stimulating conversation, and I don't have to apologize for waking anyone up. This has gotten to be such a go-to relief for me that I'm thinking of taking up freelance editing so I can make money off of keeping myself sane. mrgreen

Staying at home, has it's ups and downs...just like anything else in life. I am a stay at home mom. I would go back to work, but I refuse to because I don't trust anyone well enough to watch my little girl, that and i would feel like a bad mom >_< Anyways, I don't have many friends where I live, all my friends are down in Memphis, so, I really don't have many people to talk to around here. I spend my time, either playing with my daughter, talking on the phone with my mom or chatting online. It keeps my social life up, but I can still be around my daughter. It's kind of gay though, because I want to be out at times...like go to a club or something, and my fiancee wont let me..yes, he wont let me go....so, I just stick around here and do what I do best...Chatter online and all over gaia.

Yeah, I don't get out much either. I'm due with my second baby next Thursday (yep, Thanksgiving), and I actually got a lunch set up for tomorrow with my best friend where both of us got babysitters for our kids. I'm absolutely petrified I'll go into labor today or tomorrow, because it's been at least half a year since I got to go out on my own (I don't know exactly how long because, being pregnant, I've completely lost most of my brain sweatdrop ).

You don't know how jealous I was to hear that my best friend actually gets to go out for one evening most weeks....

I got to have a new, weird, exhilirating experience a few weeks ago, though. My son (age 3) actually said he wanted to spend the night at Grandmom's house...so we let him. I missed him horribly at bedtime, and I worried most of the time, but the morning was really good-weird because I got to take a shower while listening to music with inappropriate lyrics (YAY!) instead of leaving the door open and keeping an ear out for sounds of toddler injury. The boy had a blast and a good breakfast before I got him back. The only problem? He was super tired - he told Grandmom she had to stay in bed with him, and she obliged, so while she drifted in and out of consciousness, he yammered at her until the excitement finally wore off (around 12:30am). But he was overall well-behaved, he just took a long nap and went to bed without much fuss the following night.

im 21 and im a stay home single mother of two boys.

socialization is difficult, especially when people are on a different scedule, but ive learned to kinda warp my scedule to meet my social needs.

i go out with my mother every other weekend, either on a friday or saturday night, and i socialize with her and others then.

also i have a close friend who i have known since i was 5, she comes over 4 days a week just to sit with me and visit.

gaia is greerat for the social anxieties, but also i have found something to help me get through my problems of being alone all the time...sims

i play the sims 2 quite often, i learn if im sucked into something, my kids and my loneliness seem less stressful...my stress gets bad, but playing that for some reason gets me through hte toufh times...

my best advice is 2 join a mothers group or play group. all of my friends are single stay at home mums like me so we take turns visiting each other but some times i lon 2 hav a conversation with someone who has no kids there are only so many hours a day 1 can talk about different ways 2 potty trian b4 u go nuts

im at home 24/7, and my bloke works from 5pm till 2am everynight. and to be honest i dont get lonely. i dont know why, i just dont. people think i'm in denial when i say i dont want to go out, but i really would take sitting in with my son and fiancee and a dvd than go out clubbing or whatever normal girls my age do. i have every opportunity to leave; we have an endless hareem of family members desperate to have charlie, but i just love being with him so much. maybe i'm too much of a homebody, but thats the way it is.