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Here I will be covering a nuber of topics all related to the well being of both mother and child. If there is anything that you think I have missed please PM me what I have missed and I will see about correcting it. Also if there is anything that you can prove wrong in what I have put. Note that the information that I put here is too help people in anyway.

Here is what I will be covering:

1. The psychology of the mother before pregnant.
a. Education
i. Schooling
ii. Knowledge
b. Emotion
i. Personality
ii. Environment
c. Family
d. Health
i. Food
ii. Drink
iii. Other habits
iv. Body
e. Partner (male)
i. His family
ii. Education
iii. Health

2. The psychology of the baby inside the womb.
a. Health
i. Food
ii. Drink
iii. Drugs
iv. Smoking
b. Emotion
i. Personality
ii. Environment
iii. Abortion
c. Personality development
i. Emotion
ii. Trademarks

3. The psychology of the mother after birth.
a. Environment
i. Partner
ii. Family
iii. Other people
b. Health
i. Food
ii. Drink
iii. Other habits
c. Emotion
i. Adoption
ii. Depression
iii. Partner

4. The psychology of the baby after birth.
a. Environment
i. Mother
ii. Father
iii. Other people
b. Health
i. Food
ii. Drink
iii. Vision
c. Emotion
i. Mother
ii. Father

5. Summery

Everything that a mother does affects the child, and it seems strange but everything that the babygoes through effects the mother.

ex: my baby had a birth defect that cause him to have a hole in his abdominal wall, because of this my appetite was very different than a normal pregnant woman so, the doctors told me that the reason I was eating so little was because his stomach could take it. I actually weighed less after I had him then i had before because my body was using my body fat to sustain him.

The psychology of the mother after birth.

a. Environment
i. Partner/Father
The father of the baby should be putting more effort into life at home. Yes ladies that means he has to do the cleaning etc and help with the baby. Life at home can be stressful without a baby and with one even more so. Its a good thing to share the stress of life at home. Hopefully it should bring both mother and father closer to the baby as well as eachother. If life does get stressful then please try and make life for the baby ok and leave the house to argue i.e. go for a walk or something. This will keep the babies temperment generaly good.
ii. Family
The family should be supportive and help. Young mothers and fathers if you are having a child please tell your parents, yes you might get shouted at but its probably because they love you (I'm sure you will find out yourself) and if they go to hit you then hold your stomach and cry "The baby! the baby!" You must trust in your family as the baby will be being born into it.
iii. Other people
Friends should help make your life less stressful. Talk with them and if you have a friend who has had a baby ask thier advice.

b. Health
Now that the baby is out of the womb the mother can eat and drink what she wants without the burden of a baby. Please try to think of the baby and what environment you want it to grow up in. Yes you can do drugs without it harming the child directly but think about when it grows and the life it has at the time. If you incapasitate yourself then you will not be able to tend to the babies needs.

c. Emotion
i. Adoption
This can cause the mother to go into depression which then if she decides that she wants the baby back she can but she must think of the child. Please mothers if you have put your baby up for adoption then do so with its future in mind, you must have done it for some reason so think past any depression you may suffer. The most important thing to do is to talk with your partner about everything to do with the baby, its future, and your future.

Summery

In general its the best idea to stay healthy and happy. I know it can be very dificult to do at times but please try your best.

Always think before you have a baby come into your life and if you are going to have one then think of the future for your child and yourself.

I sort of have a problem with the "His family" bit. In my life I do not feel the need to discuss MY body with HIS family. His mother did not raise me, his mother did not teach me about how the female body works, she did not comfort me when I had painful periods, they were not the ones who taught me what sex was and that is was not shameful. I don't discuss MY birth control methods with his family. Just as my husband never discussed his reproduction organs with my family.

Why should I feel the need to discuss having a child when we are thinking about it? In fact, I would not even ask for my mother's imput. Because, only my husband and I will know when and if we are ready. Not they. (Neither of our families.)

We are extremely close with both of our families. His mother is like my second mother. We have known eachother's family since we were 13. I just feel that it is of only my business and his.

Does anyone else feel this way?

I can't say I'm digging this topic. It has too much bias to it to be factual and it's relying too much on a psychological slant for some issues that are more physiolgocial ones: like your emotions while pregnant and during the teenage years. Hormones play a much larger role in that then temperment.

I also would like to see where the factual evidence for men with lower intelligence are more likely to cheat on their partners. That's a personal observation and biased: intelligence does not affect morality.

As for the part about telling your family: if you're over 18, it's none of their business to be quite blunt. If it doesn't financially affect them and you're out of the house, there's no reason you need their blessings. My husband and I are very close to our families and we didn't tell them anything about when we decided to start thinking about getting pregnant or while we were trying. They all got to find out after we finally knew we were pregnant.

I think this has the potential to be a good topic, but it needs to be reworked as actual facts and the writer's personal biases need to be taken out. This is coming off more as key's ideas on the subject rather then what is really known.

I agree as well. Definitely very well thought out and your heart is in the right place, but some things I'm iffy about.

Like the health/food issue. Yes, it's important to eat healthy and right, but the fish example may not be accurate. Some fish are discouraged for their high mercury contents. Adding "Did you know..." would be better if it was more like "Did you know 'according to the [insert reference here]'"

I think the family bit would vary more person to person. I honestly feel more comfortable talking with my MIL rather than my own family about being pregnant, etc. The problem comes when a family member has an opinion on how you should do something. I know there's that saying "It's takes a village to raise a child" but some family members can be pushy and give contradicting advice to medical professionals.

Also, the education bit is well...a tad bit off. I know where you meant to go saying it's important to stay in school, but my mother was a highschool dropout and didn't go back to get her degree till after she had 6 children. I don't think she failed. Being that I am not currently in college, I do feel the need to focus on raising my family at the moment. I just think a little clarification on the high school education might clear that up.

Nothing wrong with that. ^_^ Everyone is different after all. It is not that I would not include them into it. I just do not feel the NEED at this moment to include them into my reproductive life.

Besides that, I imagine it would make trying to concieve more difficult and stressful, because you would have your families looking over your shoulder. "Are you pregnant yet? What about now? How about now?"