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PostPosted: Mon Aug 21, 2006 8:08 am


Well....all that bitching and complaining I used to do about my daughter's father was kinda justified. He stole my baby and moved down south to Mississippi. No number, no address...just called my cousin and told her that he was leaving. It's nothing I can do at the moment because I don't have a way to take care of her....but it's still shitty that he could take the only thing in this world that is mine and have no qualms about it. I kinda got cussed out the last time I talked about him, so I'll spare you all about what kind of an a*****e he is...but I just wanted to update those that do remember my situation as to what happened as of late. You all have a good day.
PostPosted: Mon Aug 21, 2006 10:42 am


Can you call the police? Wouldn't that be kidnapping?

I hope you can get this straightened out.

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PostPosted: Mon Aug 21, 2006 12:49 pm


You let him get away with kidnapping? I hate to say it, but since you haven't done anything legally (even if you couldn't financially care for her), when you do get back on your feet and able to take care of her, it's going to be extremely hard to get her back. In the courts, they're going to ask that question.

I think it's past the just "talking" phase, this is the time you were supposed to get legal help. As for lawyer costs, most will do at least a free consultation or direct you to the pro bono offices. I highly suggest getting the legalties worked out if you want to see her again. There's a lot you can do at the moment.

I hope it gets worked out for her sake.
PostPosted: Mon Aug 21, 2006 3:26 pm


Aw Corro, you didn't get some of this taken care of already? I remember the last time you were worried she'd get taken. I'm sorry to see you didn't.



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corruption

PostPosted: Tue Aug 22, 2006 6:06 am


I honestly don't know what to do....if I go to court and say well "those bastards took my baby!" they'll be like...okay...wel you obviously want her...so take her...then I bust out and say...well I can't...I'm in school, I work, I don't have any money, I don't have a car...I don't have time to make sure she has all the things she needs, plus i'm on the verge of being homeless again...what the ******** am I supposed to do!? I'd lose that court battle.
PostPosted: Tue Aug 22, 2006 7:06 am


corruption
I honestly don't know what to do....if I go to court and say well "those bastards took my baby!" they'll be like...okay...wel you obviously want her...so take her...then I bust out and say...well I can't...I'm in school, I work, I don't have any money, I don't have a car...I don't have time to make sure she has all the things she needs, plus i'm on the verge of being homeless again...what the ******** am I supposed to do!? I'd lose that court battle.


Except that's most likely not what they will say. Since the child has been living with them her entire life and they have proof of being her actual providers. Doctor's files, school files, anything she's ever had to put her address on etc.

The problem being that you have defacto given up custody. Even if it's not legally documented in the courts. Courts don't like to break up family units that have actually...oh been together for the last five years on a consistent basis.

Just because you want the baby doesn't mean you get her.

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corruption

PostPosted: Tue Aug 22, 2006 9:46 am


Nopenname
corruption
I honestly don't know what to do....if I go to court and say well "those bastards took my baby!" they'll be like...okay...wel you obviously want her...so take her...then I bust out and say...well I can't...I'm in school, I work, I don't have any money, I don't have a car...I don't have time to make sure she has all the things she needs, plus i'm on the verge of being homeless again...what the ******** am I supposed to do!? I'd lose that court battle.


Except that's most likely not what they will say. Since the child has been living with them her entire life and they have proof of being her actual providers. Doctor's files, school files, anything she's ever had to put her address on etc.

The problem being that you have defacto given up custody. Even if it's not legally documented in the courts. Courts don't like to break up family units that have actually...oh been together for the last five years on a consistent basis.

Just because you want the baby doesn't mean you get her.
I already know that...but there's more to the story then them just taking her. *sigh* whatever....i'll keep you updated.
PostPosted: Tue Aug 22, 2006 8:24 pm


corruption
I honestly don't know what to do....if I go to court and say well "those bastards took my baby!" they'll be like...okay...wel you obviously want her...so take her...then I bust out and say...well I can't...I'm in school, I work, I don't have any money, I don't have a car...I don't have time to make sure she has all the things she needs, plus i'm on the verge of being homeless again...what the ******** am I supposed to do!? I'd lose that court battle.

Why do you want her, then? I DEFINITELY understand a mother wanting to be with her child [I can barely stand being away from Emily while I'm at work, and I'm only part-time]; however, there is no way for you to provide for her, and you KNOW it, so why on Earth would you want her to be with you when she is being taken care of where she is now? That is selfish, to put it lightly. Your child's needs should always, and I mean ALWAYS, come before your wants. If that means that she cannot live with you at the moment, then so be it. It's very sad it has to be the way it is, but it's best for her.

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corruption

PostPosted: Thu Aug 24, 2006 5:43 am


boombanda
corruption
I honestly don't know what to do....if I go to court and say well "those bastards took my baby!" they'll be like...okay...wel you obviously want her...so take her...then I bust out and say...well I can't...I'm in school, I work, I don't have any money, I don't have a car...I don't have time to make sure she has all the things she needs, plus i'm on the verge of being homeless again...what the ******** am I supposed to do!? I'd lose that court battle.

Why do you want her, then? I DEFINITELY understand a mother wanting to be with her child [I can barely stand being away from Emily while I'm at work, and I'm only part-time]; however, there is no way for you to provide for her, and you KNOW it, so why on Earth would you want her to be with you when she is being taken care of where she is now? That is selfish, to put it lightly. Your child's needs should always, and I mean ALWAYS, come before your wants. If that means that she cannot live with you at the moment, then so be it. It's very sad it has to be the way it is, but it's best for her.
FIRST of all.....I just said that I don't have a way to take care of her...that's why i'm not fighting it....but despite the fact. I DON'T KNOW WHERE SHE IS! He left the ******** state and didn't tell me where the ******** he was taking her....no number, no address or anything. I know that she is being taken care of....but that doesn't mean that I don't have a right to talk to my ******** child. I'm hardly selfish...if I was selfish, then when I was homeless I would have had her in the ******** shelter with me instead of having her live with him BECAUSE I am thinking of what is best for her....like I said....it's more to the story and you would have had to been here months and years ago to know what it is....but whatever...I'm done.
PostPosted: Thu Aug 24, 2006 5:24 pm


corruption
FIRST of all.....I just said that I don't have a way to take care of her...that's why i'm not fighting it....but despite the fact. I DON'T KNOW WHERE SHE IS! He left the ******** state and didn't tell me where the ******** he was taking her....no number, no address or anything. I know that she is being taken care of....but that doesn't mean that I don't have a right to talk to my ******** child. I'm hardly selfish...if I was selfish, then when I was homeless I would have had her in the ******** shelter with me instead of having her live with him BECAUSE I am thinking of what is best for her....like I said....it's more to the story and you would have had to been here months and years ago to know what it is....but whatever...I'm done.

Just because I didn't post in your former thread about this doesn't mean I don't know the situation [as much as you've told us, anyway]. I never posted beforehand because I consider/ed what you want/ed to do to be extremely selfish, but this time I decided to post. I guess this doesn't matter to you now, though.

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PostPosted: Thu Aug 24, 2006 8:42 pm


I am locking this thread and then moving it to our Archives.

If anyone would care to discuss this with me, then please PM me anytime. 3nodding
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