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 Posted: Sun Jul 30, 2006 11:26 am
welli am 15 and my boyfriend is 19 my family has accepted it i personally thought satitory rape was bullshit for the longest time. not becase i am in an illegal relationship but because no matter what that person will be 4 years older then me no matter if i am 15 or 18.there is still a difference.so please tell me what you think.
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Posted: Sun Jul 30, 2006 3:59 pm
there is just for it. like a 22 year old with a 15 year old. come now. thats WAY pushing the age difference right there. Now if its like a 17 and a 18 then i suppose long as its concent. you see what im getting at. its to protect kids.
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Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 11:33 am
Everyone here can tell you to stay or leave with that guy but I know that you will do what you think is right and you know your bf! If he is a good guy stay with him but if you feel awk ward..... do what you think is right!
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Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 11:42 am
Statutory rape is not bullshit because the laws are in place to protect minors - in this case, you.
If you are caught having sex with your boyfriend, he can go to jail. So this means that he might go to jail, he might be labeled as a child molestor for the rest of his life, etc. It has serious, serious consequences that you obviously haven't considered. Getting in trouble iwth the law would affect his family, his future career, what kind of job he can get, etc.
It would be advisable to wait until you're of legal age to have sex with someone older, unless you want to risk getting caught and him getting in legal trouble.
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Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 1:42 pm
Nikolita Statutory rape is not bullshit because the laws are in place to protect minors - in this case, you. If you are caught having sex with your boyfriend, he can go to jail. So this means that he might go to jail, he might be labeled as a child molestor for the rest of his life, etc. It has serious, serious consequences that you obviously haven't considered. Getting in trouble iwth the law would affect his family, his future career, what kind of job he can get, etc. It would be advisable to wait until you're of legal age to have sex with someone older, unless you want to risk getting caught and him getting in legal trouble. Agreed. It's incredibly stupid and naive to pishposh age as just a number. If love really matters, then looking and acknowledging the law is part of that. My husband and I are 6 years apart, but I would be disgusted and I would be ashamed of my son if he was 18 dating a 12 year old.
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Posted: Thu Aug 10, 2006 1:00 pm
I believe that law is a good law.
Even though I'm 19yrs and my boyfriend is 39yrs.
Yea, I know! 20 years age diff.
People underage can and have been taken advantage of. Having sex when they're pressured to, having babies when they're not ready to, not ever having a parents aproval, and being looked at distastefully while in public.
That law is there to protect the young and innocent, even if they're not so innocent as still being a virgin.
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 10:03 pm
its ok...
my boyfriend is 24 and im just 15..
the only good thing there is that we dont involve sex in our relationship..
i was raped once, i was 14 and the guy was 21.. acquaintance rape, or should we say statutory rape..
i tried to forget about it..
found someone who respected me..
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Posted: Mon Sep 04, 2006 6:49 am
myk17 its ok...
my boyfriend is 24 and im just 15.. the only good thing there is that we dont involve sex in our relationship.. i was raped once, i was 14 and the guy was 21.. acquaintance rape, or should we say statutory rape.. i tried to forget about it.. found someone who respected me.. It's still illegal. An adult dating a child, and being interested in a child is not normal, regardless of whether or not you want to believe that. A normal, healthy adult should not be romantically interested in a child.
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 4:29 pm
I had a 20 year old boyfriend when I was just 15 & 16. It didn't turn out well.
Just make sure he's a good guy and you'll be fine.
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Posted: Wed Sep 20, 2006 5:18 pm
Zamy I believe that law is a good law.
Even though I'm 19yrs and my boyfriend is 39yrs.
Yea, I know! 20 years age diff.
People underage can and have been taken advantage of. Having sex when they're pressured to, having babies when they're not ready to, not ever having a parents aproval, and being looked at distastefully while in public.
That law is there to protect the young and innocent, even if they're not so innocent as still being a virgin.
Just because someone is a legal adult does make them immune to being taken advantage of.
There is no secret book you get when you turn 18 that gives you all the answers.
It just goes by general maturity. Usually, 19 year olds are more sexually and emotionally mature than 15 year olds. 19 year olds have normally finished high school, and are starting college, while a 15 year old could very well be a freshman.
But there is a Proximity of Age law/clause/whatever, that if the children are within 4 years of each other's age, and neither are below 12 or above 18, then the law can't touch them.
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Posted: Sat Oct 07, 2006 7:40 pm
i really hate this law because there is alot of emotion behind it... i say it depends on the couple .. lets say theirs a 17 year old and a 20 year old thats ok to me because it only a 4 year difference... but when it comes to an age difference bigger than five theres a problem... i was in a relationship like PLENTY of times and from experience it only leads to heart breaks so its not worth it
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Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 12:06 pm
07_Rawr_19 welli am 15 and my boyfriend is 19 my family has accepted it i personally thought satitory rape was bullshit for the longest time. not becase i am in an illegal relationship but because no matter what that person will be 4 years older then me no matter if i am 15 or 18.there is still a difference.so please tell me what you think. it really depe3nds on where you live, i live in onatario and statory rape is anyone under 16, sio ifind it to be bogus because that meens if your raped by a 30 year iold its just having sex so its only a year in jail plus 6 months probation honestly if he loves you hell wait
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Posted: Sun Dec 17, 2006 10:58 pm
I know its against the law, but my boyfriend is 3 yrs. younger than I am and he has done things that a person my age would never do, for me. I'm 19 by-the-way.
I'm not saying it's right, but sometimes you cant help it.
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 4:30 pm
Famous_Youkai I know its against the law, but my boyfriend is 3 yrs. younger than I am and he has done things that a person my age would never do, for me. I'm 19 by-the-way.
I'm not saying it's right, but sometimes you cant help it. Hence the reason there's that law again where when it's within a certain range (four years, usually) that it's alright... so if you're 17 and so's your boyfriend, you can still have sex when he turns 19 before you legally, etc. I think the law is great. The legal limit is there because of the general maturity level of people under the legal age. When you're 14, no matter how smart or mature you think you are, having sex with an 18 year old is still not appropriate. You're on two completely different wave lengths, points in your lives, and more likely than not, you're being taken advantage of or peer pressured into it. They put that law in place to discourage underage sex so people will (hopefully) wait until they're old enough to handle any emotions or whathaveyou that can go along with sex.
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 4:49 pm
[Substance]abuse 07_Rawr_19 welli am 15 and my boyfriend is 19 my family has accepted it i personally thought satitory rape was bullshit for the longest time. not becase i am in an illegal relationship but because no matter what that person will be 4 years older then me no matter if i am 15 or 18.there is still a difference.so please tell me what you think. it really depe3nds on where you live, i live in onatario and statory rape is anyone under 16, sio ifind it to be bogus because that meens if your raped by a 30 year iold its just having sex so its only a year in jail plus 6 months probation honestly if he loves you hell wait I live in Ontario as well, and the age of consent is actually 14. The 16 age limit is for legally being allowed to leave home without your parents being able to do anything about it (ie. if they call the cops to take you home, the cops will do nothing). Just to get things straight. smile As for the law...I completely agree with it. There are laws for a reason. If you're really in love as you say, then like has already been mentioned, you'll take the law into consideration. Is sex really necessary in a relationship at that age? Does having sex mean the difference between him loving you and leaving you? Seriously, a relationship shouldn't be based on sex, particularilly not at that age. Don't get me wrong, sex is very much a part of a normal adult relationship, but at that age it isn't quite as necessary. The laws ARE there to help protect children. Despite what you or people your age may think, you are NOT invincible, you do NOT know everything, and life is NOT a fairytale. So...yes, I agree that the law is important and meaningful.
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