Itami_25
ummm......how do you know when you get an orgasim and how do you get one by your self if you can?
I just stuck up a thread about female masturbation, so I'll copy and paste some information for you from there.
3nodding ~
Taken from the "Female Masturbation" thread: http://www.gaiaonline.com/guilds/viewtopic.php?t=460631
"For the purpose of this section I'm going to use the bedroom as my setting as it's where most women choose to masturbate.
Although many of the techniques listed in this section of Clitical are tried and tested, it's important to remember that none of them are guaranteed. Just because something works for one women doesn't mean it will work for another. The secret here is to really lie back take the time to really get in touch with your own body. Many women are uncomfortable with the sight of their own naked bodies. One way in which you can begin to feel more comfortable about your own body is to stop comparing it with others. Remember that each of us is individual and our bodies are a simple reflection of that individuality. Getting comfortable with your own body is an important first step to a better sex life and masturbation can aid in this.
If you're one of the many women who feel uncomfortable about taking your clothes off and seeing yourself naked there are a few simple steps you can take in the comfort of your own bedroom to help overcome this. Remember that mirror I mentioned earlier, now is a good time to go and stand in front of it. Slowly begin to undress and watch each part of your own body as it's revealed to you. Once your completely undressed, begin to stoke your body, maybe caress your neck, still watching yourself in the mirror, now slowly beginning to move your hands down your body towards your breasts, still watching. Keep doing this and take it slowly, step by step and you will find that you will become more comfortable with not only the look of your own body but also the feel of it. You may even discover erogenous zones you didn't even know you had!!
Once you're naked, pull up a chair and sit on it's edge with your legs open and take a good look at your genitals in the mirror. See all those folds and curls? They are what make you as unique as the shape of your nose or the color of your eyes. No two vulvas are the same and taking the time to get familiar with yours is time well spent. In order to feel comfortable masturbating, you need to understand your anatomy, what it does and how it can make you feel. Try pulling your labia gently apart and examining your clitoris and vaginal opening. Try gently stroking your clitoris and watch what happens in the mirror. Insert your finger into your v****a and see how it feels, some women enjoy the sensations but many don't, just remember there are no wrongs here! Just gentle exploration and getting to know yourself a little better. This is your time and no one else, so there is no pressure and no reason to wonder if what you are doing is right. If it feels good to you then you're doing it right is the general rule of thumb when it comes to self-love.
Below I've described some basic techniques you might like to try as you explore your body a little more:
Place your thumb and forefinger on either side of your clitoris and gently roll it between your fingers. Start slowly and gently and explore until you find the speed that works for you. A variation of this technique is to use both hands and roll your outer lips between the fingers. If your clitoris is sensitive to the touch this can be a great technique to try.
With two fingers placed directly on your clitoris move them in a circular motion. As always try varying the speed and position of your fingers.
Try drawing circles around your clitoris with your middle finger. Again a great technique if you have a sensitive clitoris like many women do.
Trace the alphabet on your clitoris with your index finger. Another great way to discover how certain stokes may affect the sensations your body can produce.
You may like to try placing a finger inside yourself and thrusting it back and forth. A little lubricant can be useful here. Then take your fingers and tap them gently against your clitoris. Vary the speed and intensity of each tap, if you're playing music listen to it's beat and try to develop a rhythm.
Try changing positions. You'll most likely be surprised just how different the sensations of all the above techniques change as you change position. Try sitting, standing, squatting or laying on your belly as well as your back.
The key here is to have fun and become comfortable with your own body and the feelings it can produce as you explore it. This is a way of learning to communicate with yourself, get in touch with your sexual side without fear of rejection or getting it wrong because remember there's no wrongs here.
As I mentioned at the beginning of this section there are as many ways to masturbate as there are women masturbating. Being comfortable with your own body is the first and most important step you will take on this journey of sexual discovery."
Itami: If you go to the "Female Masturbation" thread and scroll down, there's a list of techniques you could try using, including things to do with your fingers, with water play (in a bath tub, etc), a vibrator, etc.
As for what an orgasm feels like...
Taken from the Clitical website: http://www.clitical.com/orgasms/orgasm-feel.php
The page I cited the link for is a page with readers' responses in reply to the question "What does an orgasm feel like?" so hopefully some of these will help you Itami.
smile ~
"I'd like to start by saying orgasms aren't all the same but they have range and I like to use the sea as a metaphore....Sometimes I have orgasms that feel like warm and flowing ocean waves washing over me, sometimes like little ripples in the tide. Sometimes they come crashing over me suddenly, and sometimes they move slower into shore. Some I can actually ride and monitor, some seem to last longer and linger, some I can feel all over head to toe kinda thing...ahhh...others are centered and I feel it very much "down there". One isn't necessarily better than the other...it's just like the tide. Different and moody, unpredictable , but always glad they came..."
"An orgasm is a little like a sneeze, only much more intense and lasts a good deal longer than a sneeze. . .imagine the build up and eventual release of a sneeze. . .you only feel that release for a very brief moment when you sneeze, but when you're having an orgasm . . .it's like a melodrama. . .it's overwhelming. You can feel the hundreds of nerve endings firing. Not every orgasm is the same. Sometimes it's like one huge wave that swallows you up, and sometimes it's like little waves, crashing in bursts. It all depends on your frame of mind at the time. My orgasms seem to be really intense if I haven't had one for a while. Too many women fake orgasms. It's a real shame. Too many women become seasoned pleasers of men, before they have ever pleased themselves. Sex begins with masturbation. Ask any guy. I like to consider myself to be an exception. I like to think that there are very few women like myself."
"When I orgasm I start to get a strong tingly feeling in my legs. I cant keep them still and they start thrashing about. The tingly sensation creeps up my body,my heart starts beating really fast and I can feel my adrenaline pumping. My breathing gets faster and I get louder and my body spasms. Afterwards I feel totally relaxed. I think women pretty much feel the sensations like the tingling feeling and the heart pumping but women's bodies are different so they react differently."
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