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 Posted: Mon Jul 24, 2006 10:35 pm
I start college in a month and I have yet to meet my roommates. Im stuck in a quint (which means im gonna be living with 5 other girls). I'm worried that it could be disasterous because in my high school i stuck out because of being Wiccan, and it could be a lot more different when i go to college. *wonders if any of u have dealt with problems like this and if u have any advice*
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Posted: Tue Jul 25, 2006 10:09 am
Hey,
I just finished my first year of college. I am pagan and I was kind of worried about that too. In the mail soon you should be getting your room mates phone numbers or AIMs or emails. What I did is I called and talked to my room mate. She was really cool and we did not have a problem. Also my RA happened to be pagan and so did about 4 other girls on my floor. I joined a pagan group on campus that I just LOVE. I miss them so much... You will find that in college people are a lot more open minded and you probably wont have a problem. Mostly people are just curious about it and will ask questions.
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Posted: Tue Jul 25, 2006 10:16 am
Yes, most people in college are more open-minded, but not always and it depends on what kind of school you're going to. In general, don't expect to have an altar set up in a dorm room (for one, several altar items are probably banned items, such as candles, weapons of any kind, etc). Nevermind that there really won't be space for one. Talking is definately a good thing. And if things don't work out, there's always transfering rooms.
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Posted: Tue Jul 25, 2006 11:07 am
hehe, yes....
I lucked out with the people in my dorm. Like my RA was pagan and let me burn candles. Well actually some one told on me, because I was taking a shower by candle light after a long day. So she had to take them from me, but later that day she returned them. I also kept weapons in my dorm because I am a martial artist and actually took martial arts classes with my RD so we were on amazingly good terms. (we complained together about the rules of no weapons)
Note that all these things can be do to that I go to SUNY College of Environmental Sciences and Forestry. We are the top environmental school in the united states. We are also number 3 in chemistry in the united states.
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Posted: Wed Jul 26, 2006 7:30 pm
Starlock Yes, most people in college are more open-minded, but not always and it depends on what kind of school you're going to. In general, don't expect to have an altar set up in a dorm room (for one, several altar items are probably banned items, such as candles, weapons of any kind, etc). Nevermind that there really won't be space for one. Talking is definately a good thing. And if things don't work out, there's always transfering rooms. Well yea, obviously, but, ive also learned i cant even have my insense with me at George Mason. Which...by the way...sucks. I'm just worried because when i had my orientation, very few students seemed open minded in my orientation group when they told us to tell the rest of the 20 person group a little about ourselves. I had mentioned that i was a wiccan and many of them started giving me odd looks. Hopefully i dont get this from my roommates. I've sometimes had arguments with people who scream at me calling me a devil worshiper despite the fact that there is so much proof otherwise. I am really afraid that will end up happening if i get paired with a roommate like that.
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Posted: Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:18 pm
PrincessSophia Starlock Yes, most people in college are more open-minded, but not always and it depends on what kind of school you're going to. In general, don't expect to have an altar set up in a dorm room (for one, several altar items are probably banned items, such as candles, weapons of any kind, etc). Nevermind that there really won't be space for one. Talking is definately a good thing. And if things don't work out, there's always transfering rooms. Well yea, obviously, but, ive also learned i cant even have my insense with me at George Mason. Which...by the way...sucks. I'm just worried because when i had my orientation, very few students seemed open minded in my orientation group when they told us to tell the rest of the 20 person group a little about ourselves. I had mentioned that i was a wiccan and many of them started giving me odd looks. Hopefully i dont get this from my roommates. I've sometimes had arguments with people who scream at me calling me a devil worshiper despite the fact that there is so much proof otherwise. I am really afraid that will end up happening if i get paired with a roommate like that. Where is your college located and that is your major? Wow you had orientation already?! I didn't have mine till the week before classes started. It was a week long orientation and our groups where maybe 7 people at most. I actually wanted to be an OL (orientation leader) this year but unforunately so did about 200 other people so I didn't get picked.
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Posted: Fri Jul 28, 2006 7:50 am
I may have a problem similar to this when I go, but I just plan on being myself and if your roommates like you for that, that's cool, but if they don't, that's their loss, and their problem. You shouldn't change stuff about yourself just so you can be accepted by other people.
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Posted: Sun Jul 30, 2006 1:05 am
I found that people are really openminded in college. I just moved to my college dorms as an RA and the only real problem I am faceing is living without my candles for a whole year. crying crying crying I love my candles, I can't do anything without them crying crying crying I can live without my athame and all that, but candles and insence were my thing...ya know...that is the only major concern I have. besides one of the other RA's is Buddist, and he's just a big teddy bear. You'll find college to be alot more open that High School. People learn to think for themselfs.
Fires the only Element I have gotten to work for me and I dont' know why!!! This just......SUCKS DONKEY BUTTTTTT!!!!!!!!
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Posted: Mon Jul 31, 2006 6:51 am
I'm hoping that when I move out whatever college/university I attend will be understanding to my beliefs. My mother refuses to let me burn candles - there's the occasional stick of incense, but....yeah. It's rough not being able to practice the way I'd like to.
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Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 10:50 am
Here's a website that has a lot of good information about practicing as a Pagan in college, including how to manage roomies, etc. Hope this helps. http://www.collegewicca.com/
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Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 4:04 pm
twilight_moon06 I may have a problem similar to this when I go, but I just plan on being myself and if your roommates like you for that, that's cool, but if they don't, that's their loss, and their problem. You shouldn't change stuff about yourself just so you can be accepted by other people. I never said i would change to be accepted by others. If anything, i make them change to accept me. mrgreen all my friends agree, I dont change to make others accept me. I'd rather scare them all half to death than change to make them accept me. lol
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Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 8:55 pm
I agree with all the previously expressed beliefs that colleges are a lot more open-minded than high schools are. My school makes a few allowances for pagan students. We're the only ones allowed to burn inscense. But I too had to live without my candles. My advice is to find a place outside to worship or practice or whatever else you choose to do. I was lucky because right outside my dorm there was a graveyard (i know, pretty stereotypical) that vibed right with me. There was one little boy buried there who i kept company with as often as I could.
Another thing, my campus also had a PSA (pagan student association). That might be something you're interested in if your campus has something similar. I personally found it to be too much of a structured influence on my beliefs, but I'm rare in that thinking.
As for your roommates, I advocate talking to them about it. Its been my experience that those in a higher education setting are (as i and many others have already said) more open-minded. They might not share your beliefs, but I'd be willing to bet that they'll accept them, and might even be interested in them. I know that when I came out of my rather-small "broom closet" (so to speak, for i'm not truly wiccan), I ended up with many of my friends and hall-mates stopping by my room for tarot readings, and just to chat with me about other such things. It was kind of nice and gave me an additional way of relating to the people I'd come to know.
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Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 11:36 pm
TN_Lark Here's a website that has a lot of good information about practicing as a Pagan in college, including how to manage roomies, etc. Hope this helps. http://www.collegewicca.com/ oooh! thanks! biggrin
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Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 11:39 pm
Shadow_people I agree with all the previously expressed beliefs that colleges are a lot more open-minded than high schools are. My school makes a few allowances for pagan students. We're the only ones allowed to burn inscense. But I too had to live without my candles. My advice is to find a place outside to worship or practice or whatever else you choose to do. I was lucky because right outside my dorm there was a graveyard (i know, pretty stereotypical) that vibed right with me. There was one little boy buried there who i kept company with as often as I could. Another thing, my campus also had a PSA (pagan student association). That might be something you're interested in if your campus has something similar. I personally found it to be too much of a structured influence on my beliefs, but I'm rare in that thinking. As for your roommates, I advocate talking to them about it. Its been my experience that those in a higher education setting are (as i and many others have already said) more open-minded. They might not share your beliefs, but I'd be willing to bet that they'll accept them, and might even be interested in them. I know that when I came out of my rather-small "broom closet" (so to speak, for i'm not truly wiccan), I ended up with many of my friends and hall-mates stopping by my room for tarot readings, and just to chat with me about other such things. It was kind of nice and gave me an additional way of relating to the people I'd come to know. thats encouraging! thanks. lol, i know im bringing my tarot deck with me. but gmu wont even let me "have" insense with me on campus.....>_< they call it a firehazard. as for my roommates...im still waiting to find out who they are and i start in 3 weeks.
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Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 7:28 am
PrincessSophia twilight_moon06 I may have a problem similar to this when I go, but I just plan on being myself and if your roommates like you for that, that's cool, but if they don't, that's their loss, and their problem. You shouldn't change stuff about yourself just so you can be accepted by other people. I never said i would change to be accepted by others. If anything, i make them change to accept me. mrgreen all my friends agree, I dont change to make others accept me. I'd rather scare them all half to death than change to make them accept me. lol That's good.
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