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 Posted: Tue Apr 19, 2005 8:08 pm
I currently classify my self as bisexual. Recently though, i've had doubts about my attraction to men. My ex boyfriend and I have had sex and i enjoyed it (obviously) but i didn't really enjoy it...mentally. Physically it was fine (though the damn boy always came then stoped so i never got anything good) ANYWAYS... He kissed me yesterday because..i have no idea. The problem is i felt exactly what i always felt...nothing. Does this mean i mearly have no attraction to him, or could it possibly confirm that i am indeed a lesbian and not bisexual?
Also, I've come out as bi to alot of people i know but everytime i say "I'm bi" i get a horrible stomache feeling, almost like i'm lying to everyone. But i've also said (in the confines of my room) "I'm gay" or "I'm a lesbian" and everytime i do, it feels so much more natural!
Have any of you gone through this? Is it natural? What does it mean?! I appriciate your help
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Posted: Tue Apr 19, 2005 9:11 pm
It's very natural, and quite all right smile
As for the boyfriend thing.... it could just be that you feel nothing for HIM, not necessarily that you feel nothing for men in general. I hate to make it sound more confusing, and I apologize if I do. But sometimes, it takes decades to figure out your sexuality (heck, I didn't realize I was bi until long after I became sexually active); take your time, take it one step at a time, and you'll figure it out.
Try exploring the realm of having a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend; there's a possibility you are indeed lesbian, and simply prefer women over men. Go with your feelings; you'll rarely go wrong in this particular area of your life, if you listen to what your instincts tell you.
Good luck! biggrin
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Posted: Tue Apr 19, 2005 10:07 pm
It's natural. 3nodding
For the boyfriend thing, maybe it's because the spark between you two is starting to disappear, which might be why you aren't feeling anything from him anymore. . . ?
Try going out with a girl, and check it out and all. Then sorta compare it with your relationship with your boyfriend and then make up a decision. A tip: go with what ever feels right for you. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Apr 19, 2005 10:09 pm
Dark-Flamed-Angel It's natural. 3nodding For the boyfriend thing, maybe it's because the spark between you two is starting to disappear, which might be why you aren't feeling anything from him anymore. . . ? Try going out with a girl, and check it out and all. Then sorta compare it with your relationship with your boyfriend and then make up a decision. A tip: go with what ever feels right for you. 3nodding I have to agree on this one. Hope it works out well in the end for you.
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Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2005 4:24 am
Maybe you just didnt have feeling for that exact guy? Alothough it does sound like you have lesbian tendancies. Maybe you are just a Bisexual with domanant female fantasy?
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Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2005 7:45 am
Kazlyn Maybe you just didnt have feeling for that exact guy? Alothough it does sound like you have lesbian tendancies. Maybe you are just a Bisexual with domanant female fantasy? Very well said my friend 3nodding 3nodding everything everyones saying in here is true remember everyone knows i'm bi and kinda never told anyone in my school... redface scared too but atleast i can tell u guys cause u won't be mean about it ^^! heart heart wink
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Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2005 12:37 pm
I really have nothing to contribute to this since everyone prety much already said it all, but they're right. If you don't feel anything with/for your boyfriend, end it now before things get worse for one/both of you. Then go from there. Many people follow the "straight > bi > gay" route, mostly because we aren't completely sure where we stand until later in life.
When I began questioning my sexuality, I didn't label myself because I wasn't sure where I was. Let it come to you in time.
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Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2005 12:57 pm
It's natural..
Your body and mind are trying to find yourself, you have to let it all settle down.
Do you still get hot when you see a hot guy? (You know what I mean by hot ninja )
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Posted: Fri May 06, 2005 3:32 pm
Well.. I don't think it has anything to do with your sexuality. Mabe it's just your loseing attraction to him, or that he's just not keeping up to your sexual apeal. Do you love him still though?
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Posted: Sat May 07, 2005 5:05 am
*shrug*
i'm bi and i find that sometimes i'm only attracted to girls
then others i'm only attracted to guys
so maybe you switch about too
i wouldn't worry too much tho, it doesn't help
hope it turns out well for you
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Posted: Sun May 08, 2005 12:54 pm
I've just recently found out i'm bi
I tend to fall for guys more though..
I dunno.. Good luck! wink
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Posted: Tue May 10, 2005 9:05 pm
I know it's confusing... I get the same feeling of being incorrectly labled with anything people throw at me, so I can understand your doubt.
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Posted: Fri May 13, 2005 8:06 pm
I often feel the same way as you do... I've gone out with a few guys and rarely even feel a thing for them. I've always considered myself as bisexual, but to be honest at times I just feel like a lesbian. I've told a few friends that I'm "Bisexual" but all seemed to get angry at the thought that I like girls that way.
I've gone out with a girl and everything seemed more natural to me... Experiment and compare the two experiences. Whatever feels most comfortable for you... If it feels right then you may be a lesbian and there is no shame in that, if not then that is okay too. Just follow your heart and your gut instinct.
I wish you luck.
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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 7:17 pm
Maelynd It's very natural, and quite all right smile As for the boyfriend thing.... it could just be that you feel nothing for HIM, not necessarily that you feel nothing for men in general. I hate to make it sound more confusing, and I apologize if I do. But sometimes, it takes decades to figure out your sexuality (heck, I didn't realize I was bi until long after I became sexually active); take your time, take it one step at a time, and you'll figure it out. Try exploring the realm of having a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend; there's a possibility you are indeed lesbian, and simply prefer women over men. Go with your feelings; you'll rarely go wrong in this particular area of your life, if you listen to what your instincts tell you. Good luck! biggrin I agree with this. good luck also!
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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 9:22 pm
rolleyes I''m 14 and don''t no if i''m bi or what. I mean i really like guys but i like kissing girls and stuff and if i had sex with one(which i haven''t had sex with anyone) I would probably like it. See i don''t no if its because i ain''t getting much from guys and more from my girl friends or what? rolleyes I mean if i had sex with a guy and stuff i would like it to. Is it because i ain''t really around guys and mostly around girl. What it is? PLEASE help me, I''m confused.
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