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 Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 8:25 pm
I'm 12 years old, & right after I started puperty, I've been crying alot.
( BTW, I was molested at age 9---but it doesn't bother me anymore. Much...) I've been attracted to dark colors, depressing punk-rock music and I think about suicide alot. My 6th grade year I've been lieing SOOOOOOO much. I've been grounded back to back. And when I do tell the truth, no one believes me.
I feel like no one listens to me--I have no one to talk to. My step-dad doesn't give a s**t, my mom is "too busy" and she thinks I talk TOO MUCH, and my 4-year-old sister doesn't understand. My parents don't let me talk on the phone--not because of lieing, but they think its "a bad habit" to continueously talk on the phone. And when I thought I got a break, I got a myspace, no--I don't talk to *****, but my two best friends had one and we talked. Then my mom shut it down for no reason. When she asked me if I had one I daid yes and I showed her everything on it--even my friendslist!
I think I'm going to die of boredom--I don't go out to play often, cuzz all my friends moved away and when I'm invited to pool parties, b-day parties, etc. I can't go because "I'm busy on Staurday or I'm tired.." But when they talk about how "anti-social" I am--they say its my fault that I don't get out because I don't ask. stare I've been invited to 5 parties this year, and my mom said no to all of them.
And I'm not anti-social. I'm popular at school--but I don't do anything after school. My mom won't put me in any clubs because she is "too busy."
When I was little, my one dream was to be a girlscout. But I feel like I'm too old & I sometimes feel like I've missed out on a part of my childhood.
Did you know, I've never been to a sleepover--other than my step-dad's close friend's daughter ( AKA Cousin ).
I don't know how to express how I feel to my parents & It bothers me and it makes me cry.
Please reply.
~Bre
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Posted: Fri Jun 30, 2006 3:45 pm
I would go talk to your school counselor. Your mom, by not letting you socialize, is hurting you. You need to be able to talk to friends, go out and do things, etc. She also needs to listen when you talk. If she won't listen to you, and won't let you talk to friends, what the hell does she think you're going to do? Teen years are some of the most important years for learning social actions, and through them, learning who you are as a person. Your mom is jeopordizing your development as a human being.
As far as no one believing you... "girl who cried wolf." In order for people to believe you, you have to stop lying. Are you doing it for attention, even subconsciously? I did, and it sounds like you may be too. I know sometimes lies slip out and you don't even mean to lie, but there it is. If you talk to a counselor (which I highly suggest), talk slowly and make sure everything you're saying is honest.
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Posted: Tue Aug 08, 2006 11:12 pm
Yeah, basically you really need to talk to your counsellar. Counsellar are nice people, i see mine all the time and they really don't judge you. There is a lot of stuff about me and Dawn still talks to me like she did before. nothing fazes them so perhaps you shoudlnt' lie to them. if you stay straight with them then you will know whre you stand and it will be easier for them to help you. Tell them not just how you feel but everything that happens from your parents point of view too. T hat way they get a clearer picure of what is happening.
Instead of saying "i got grounded back to back" and stuff like that explain why you got grounded, like what you did for your mum to get so angry. And what about your step dad? is he too busy too?
my parents are controlling too but I'm turning 16 on the 19/8 and then they have no legal precedence over me at all. but any way, about your problem, tell your mother that if she wants a more social daughter then perhaps seh should let you do more things.
She says she is too busy to enroll you into clubs. Then do a bit of "scouting" into it and get the forms. See if you can get a lift there and back if its too far to walk. Get your own travel arrangements, your own forms. Even fill them out for her so that alls eh eneds to do is sign. if you ahve a job then you can pay your own fees. If she says no to that then sit her dow and ask why. if she says shes too busy to talk then say "just sign the forms adn we won't need to talk." Stuff like that, if you be independant then she can't say shes too busy. i wouldn't be in half the bands i am in now if it weren't for being able to apy my own way and get there myself. (by the way i can't drive yet. tis iilegal!))
hope that helped a bit. sorry for the longish post. Need anything else pm me. i'm good with controling parents.
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