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 Posted: Sat May 27, 2006 10:19 pm
Salaamu Alykum
What is the process of muslim marriage? is there an Imam?, if so what does he say. what do I say? how is it all done? does my future husband have to pay dowry before marriage? i just need an explaination of the process and what is said, I am gettin married next year and i want to know it is done....im a revert i would gladly appreciate so help in this
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 9:57 am
muslim_khadijah Salaamu Alykum What is the process of muslim marriage? is there an Imam?, if so what does he say. what do I say? how is it all done? does my future husband have to pay dowry before marriage? i just need an explaination of the process and what is said, I am gettin married next year and i want to know it is done....im a revert i would gladly appreciate so help in this Well o . o;' It's fully arranged. And like he has to sign a contract of marriage. And yes dowry is required. And yes there is an Imam. There has to be xD You actually don't say anything. You just agree to marriage and a contract is signed. Then you avoid eachother until Marriage. On the Wedding day, you just sit next to your husband and enjoy the food and such. Wee. o_o And oh yeah..Didn't Teh Haruka answer this question o_o!
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 1:25 pm
Dalya muslim_khadijah Salaamu Alykum What is the process of muslim marriage? is there an Imam?, if so what does he say. what do I say? how is it all done? does my future husband have to pay dowry before marriage? i just need an explaination of the process and what is said, I am gettin married next year and i want to know it is done....im a revert i would gladly appreciate so help in this Well o . o;' It's fully arranged. And like he has to sign a contract of marriage. And yes dowry is required. And yes there is an Imam. There has to be xD You actually don't say anything. You just agree to marriage and a contract is signed. Then you avoid eachother until Marriage. On the Wedding day, you just sit next to your husband and enjoy the food and such. Wee. o_o And oh yeah..Didn't Teh Haruka answer this question o_o! What do you mean it's fully arranged? Like an actual arranged marriage? Cause my cousin chose her husband (they're actually getting married this summer) Don't worry though, I don't think they touched eachother or anything like that. B:
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Posted: Sat Jun 03, 2006 10:49 am
[I am teh Haruka] Dalya muslim_khadijah Salaamu Alykum What is the process of muslim marriage? is there an Imam?, if so what does he say. what do I say? how is it all done? does my future husband have to pay dowry before marriage? i just need an explaination of the process and what is said, I am gettin married next year and i want to know it is done....im a revert i would gladly appreciate so help in this Well o . o;' It's fully arranged. And like he has to sign a contract of marriage. And yes dowry is required. And yes there is an Imam. There has to be xD You actually don't say anything. You just agree to marriage and a contract is signed. Then you avoid eachother until Marriage. On the Wedding day, you just sit next to your husband and enjoy the food and such. Wee. o_o And oh yeah..Didn't Teh Haruka answer this question o_o! What do you mean it's fully arranged? Like an actual arranged marriage? Cause my cousin chose her husband (they're actually getting married this summer) Don't worry though, I don't think they touched eachother or anything like that. B: Actually o.o... Some families chose to do fully arranged (strict) marriages. That is when the girl can't choose, it's the families decision. She can say no, and then her family will ask her about another guy. But then again I see nothing wrong with a woman choosing her own guy. My Mom was fully arranged (strict). And she was forced too o_o My Grandma was an a** and still is =D
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Posted: Sat Jun 03, 2006 8:18 pm
Dalya [I am teh Haruka] Dalya muslim_khadijah Salaamu Alykum What is the process of muslim marriage? is there an Imam?, if so what does he say. what do I say? how is it all done? does my future husband have to pay dowry before marriage? i just need an explaination of the process and what is said, I am gettin married next year and i want to know it is done....im a revert i would gladly appreciate so help in this Well o . o;' It's fully arranged. And like he has to sign a contract of marriage. And yes dowry is required. And yes there is an Imam. There has to be xD You actually don't say anything. You just agree to marriage and a contract is signed. Then you avoid eachother until Marriage. On the Wedding day, you just sit next to your husband and enjoy the food and such. Wee. o_o And oh yeah..Didn't Teh Haruka answer this question o_o! What do you mean it's fully arranged? Like an actual arranged marriage? Cause my cousin chose her husband (they're actually getting married this summer) Don't worry though, I don't think they touched eachother or anything like that. B: Actually o.o... Some families chose to do fully arranged (strict) marriages. That is when the girl can't choose, it's the families decision. She can say no, and then her family will ask her about another guy. But then again I see nothing wrong with a woman choosing her own guy. My Mom was fully arranged (strict). And she was forced too o_o My Grandma was an a** and still is =D Forcing a woman into a marriage she does not want to be in goes against the laws of Islam. We woman have the right to refuse marriage to anyone. smile But if you are going to refuse, do it in a polite way where your parents won't be hurt. They probably put a lot of time and effort into finding you this potential husband. And... once the nikkah (marriage contract) is signed, the couple is officially married. So there can be flirting and whatever. wink hehe As for the details of the actual wedding, it's different in cultures.
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Posted: Sun Jun 04, 2006 3:58 pm
Dalya Actually o.o... Some families chose to do fully arranged (strict) marriages. That is when the girl can't choose, it's the families decision. She can say no, and then her family will ask her about another guy. But then again I see nothing wrong with a woman choosing her own guy. My Mom was fully arranged (strict). And she was forced too o_o My Grandma was an a** and still is =D There is a difference between family rules and Islamic rules. Families choosing the husband for their daughter (and she has no say in her marriage) is a family rule. If a woman says no to getting married, then there is no marriage according to Islam.
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Posted: Sun Jun 04, 2006 4:10 pm
Hm. The prophet's marriage to Khadija, peace be upon them, certainly wasn't arranged in any way, since she ASKED him to marry her, so... *shrug*. And their marriage wasn't invalidated after Islam came to be, so arranged marriage isn't the only way, as previously said.
But... arranged marriages that were forced WERE invalidated after Islam came to be...
Quote: From Sahih Al-Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 62, Number 69: Narrated Khansa bint Khidam Al-Ansariya: A father gave his daughter in marriage when she was a matron and she disliked that marriage. So she went to Allah's Apostle and he declared that marriage invalid.
Just in case anyone wanted proof... whee
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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 10:07 am
chinkerbell Dalya [I am teh Haruka] Dalya muslim_khadijah Salaamu Alykum What is the process of muslim marriage? is there an Imam?, if so what does he say. what do I say? how is it all done? does my future husband have to pay dowry before marriage? i just need an explaination of the process and what is said, I am gettin married next year and i want to know it is done....im a revert i would gladly appreciate so help in this Well o . o;' It's fully arranged. And like he has to sign a contract of marriage. And yes dowry is required. And yes there is an Imam. There has to be xD You actually don't say anything. You just agree to marriage and a contract is signed. Then you avoid eachother until Marriage. On the Wedding day, you just sit next to your husband and enjoy the food and such. Wee. o_o And oh yeah..Didn't Teh Haruka answer this question o_o! What do you mean it's fully arranged? Like an actual arranged marriage? Cause my cousin chose her husband (they're actually getting married this summer) Don't worry though, I don't think they touched eachother or anything like that. B: Actually o.o... Some families chose to do fully arranged (strict) marriages. That is when the girl can't choose, it's the families decision. She can say no, and then her family will ask her about another guy. But then again I see nothing wrong with a woman choosing her own guy. My Mom was fully arranged (strict). And she was forced too o_o My Grandma was an a** and still is =D Forcing a woman into a marriage she does not want to be in goes against the laws of Islam. We woman have the right to refuse marriage to anyone. smile But if you are going to refuse, do it in a polite way where your parents won't be hurt. They probably put a lot of time and effort into finding you this potential husband. And... once the nikkah (marriage contract) is signed, the couple is officially married. So there can be flirting and whatever. wink hehe As for the details of the actual wedding, it's different in cultures. It was completely different for my Grandma's point of view. She wanted every one of her kids (8 of them) to leave the house. But with her daughters she took a way different approach xD. Yes I know the rules and such, but it's different in my family o_o... I just woke up, so yeah my post sucks e_e;'
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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 10:09 am
[I am teh Haruka] Dalya Actually o.o... Some families chose to do fully arranged (strict) marriages. That is when the girl can't choose, it's the families decision. She can say no, and then her family will ask her about another guy. But then again I see nothing wrong with a woman choosing her own guy. My Mom was fully arranged (strict). And she was forced too o_o My Grandma was an a** and still is =D There is a difference between family rules and Islamic rules. Families choosing the husband for their daughter (and she has no say in her marriage) is a family rule. If a woman says no to getting married, then there is no marriage according to Islam. Yes. I know that e_e;' But when you are in a family that is ran by sexist retarts, things go unorganized instead of following the actual rules of Islam in marriage o_o;' Crazyness. >_>;' "If a woman says no to getting married, then there is no marriage according to Islam." Yep. And that rule PWNS =D
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Posted: Sat Sep 16, 2006 12:16 pm
Salaamu Alykum my brothers and sisters
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Posted: Tue Oct 10, 2006 3:24 pm
I was taught in sunday school parents are allowed to pick a partner BUT they pair must meet in a apublic place talk about goals and life and if they agree after meetings they can get married. If they disagree then parents can not force them to get married. And some parents chose a spouse based on money, fame, stuff like that which is wrong.
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