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 Posted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 5:32 pm
Yeah, I haven't been very active. But...I've been worried about what were to happen if my family saw me in this guild. But, I've been studying Wicca for maybe a year now, but I can't say I've really..."learned anything." For all it seems I may have only studied for a month! But I keep telling myself, "I'll tell my mom tonight. I'll finally tell her."
But the problem is...I've told myself that for at least 3 months. I can't work up courage. And whenever I'm about to say it, either I choke about it and shut up, or she says something that makes me re-think.
I've already told my oldest brother. And he took it really well, but he's the major catholic in my family. ((My dad and younger brother are Presbetarian*sp?* so is my step family and I don't know what my mom is.)) And the odd thing is, I have gotten a dream where I told my mom, and, though she's shocked, is ok with it. And also, her boyfriend is atheist.
But I still can't tell her! I keep envisioning where she throws me out of the house, or hates me, or even worse, calls my uncle ((who was a priest)) and have him do an 'exorcism.' I know if I want to be comfortable around her, I have to tell her, but I just can't! Not at the moment.
If anyone has any advice for me, please share.
BB,
blackgold
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Posted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 6:40 pm
Well, I wouldnt worry about it quite so soon. The best thing is to wait until your'e out of the house. And also, your uncle can't proform an exorsism because he has to have permission from...I think it's like...a main church. razz
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Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 1:04 pm
Well, if you're having a lot of doubts, maybe it is best to wait? It isn't always neccesary to reveal yourself anyway. Around where I live people tend not to ask about others' religion, but when it comes up, I don't hide it. Above all, just be careful how you phrase things because most people are ignorant with regards to Neopaganism and its various religions. Answer questions when asked, for often that's the easier way to play it.
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Posted: Mon Apr 10, 2006 5:39 am
I agree with what's been said already .. ^^;; I would say that it isn't really necessary for your mum to know - at least until the time your ready. I'm surprised she hasn't already caught on though! My dad pretty much figured it out after noticing my alter to Avalokiteshvara. xD He doesn't do much more than makes jokes about things like that, so it was fine. xp
But I'm almost positive she will be okay with it either way - seeing as she is already dating a non-Christian. ^^;
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Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 3:50 pm
Holly Hell , I have been gone for a long time!
I have almost the same problem.
However , Most of my friends know , and ARE pagen.
Its fun to learn about it together.
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Posted: Wed Apr 12, 2006 3:48 pm
It's kinda how I feel. I want to tell them so bad, but I always fear the worst would happen and that they would hate. I'm not just talking about the two people, I mean the whole family. And they're very devout xians.
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Posted: Fri Apr 14, 2006 5:06 am
im lucky... I my famly are pretty understinding.. It just one of my close friends.. she lives away I feel I should tell her but.. I just can't I would rather see her in person...
Isn't an exorcism when they are trying to get rid of a ghost or an evil sprit in someone??
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Posted: Fri Apr 14, 2006 8:49 am
Some christions believe that people that turn away from "GOD" are posessed by demons or the devil. I've meet some of them......scary people eek
On comeing out, I would say test the waters with your mom. Ask her what she thinks of certain popular pagan people or about magic in general. That can help you see where she lies on the subject. My fiance still hasn't told his mom, she thinks anything magical or mythical is "evil" rolleyes She is one of those "born again Christions." I think she knows because I have never tried to hide what I am from her. He just doesn't want to disapoint her.
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Posted: Fri Apr 14, 2006 2:31 pm
There will be a time when it will just come up in conversation. Most things happen that way. I've always been open about being pagan, so my parents have always known. While it may seem hard to get out now, sometime when you and her are just casually talking there'll probably be something that will be a good lead in to you telling her. That's what happened when I found out my brother was gay...only I kinda knew before he told me.
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Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 9:59 am
Just start reading a book in front of everybody...that's how I did it. the only thing my grandma said was to not preach to her. but she says that to everybody about their religion. so I said "ok!".
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Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 6:14 am
If worst comes to worst, Magick is a system, Wicca is a religion. May the Goddess be with you on this one. You could say "Mom, do you believe in Magick?" don't get turned off. And if she wants to exorcise you, there's nothing to exorcise as we wiccans do not believe in the devil or hell.
Goddess Bless,
Archer
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Posted: Sat Jul 15, 2006 12:58 pm
the first person i told that i was a witch was my grams and she accepted me with open arms but told me at he same time to just keep it to myself...
now my mom knows and some of my friends...
but my stepdad keeps on making fun of it but say'ing "can you fly on a broom and can you use magick to help clean the house" and even more but i'm not going to list them down.
sometimes i just shake my head and walk away......
this year will make my 6th year in the craft and i'm still going strong...
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Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 7:07 pm
i really think it would be better not to tell her so soon, especially if you are having doubts. When you truly think the time is right you will tell her. Also, since you have not been studying very long, you might possibly change your mind about your religion (not saying you are) but i didnt tell my dad for about 3 or 4 years after i started practicing. When you do tell her, it will take a lot off your shoulders about not telling her because at least she will know. She might not talke it okay but she might possibly accept it. Tell her some silly rules like " i won't kill any animals in the process" or "i wont catch the house on fire" and allow her to make some rules for you, but like i said, i f you dont feel comfortable dont do it. Maybe you could start by asking her how she feels about non-christian religions. Maybe telling her would be the right thing but maybe not. Just give it some more thought.
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Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2006 7:53 pm
well...I think the best advice I can give is to feal her out like this "what would you say if i were wiccan?" say it kind of as if you're joking, and if she seems favorable about it...get more serious...
it works with a lot of things, and your mother just might surprise you
that's how i came out of a few closets...so to speak...
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Posted: Wed Jul 19, 2006 10:29 am
Shadow_people well...I think the best advice I can give is to feal her out like this "what would you say if i were wiccan?" say it kind of as if you're joking, and if she seems favorable about it...get more serious... it works with a lot of things, and your mother just might surprise you that's how i came out of a few closets...so to speak... yea. that looks like the best thing to do for this. Thats a good idea Shadow_people. good advice :3 nodding Embarrassed
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