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 Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 6:35 pm
Ok, I went on a date with a guy I knew when I was a freshmen. On the ride home, I told him I liked him. He then told me that he had been waiting 3 years to hear me say that. In the driveway, he kissed me. I told my best friend that, and he flipped out. Now the first guy wants to join the church and I'm afraid that if things don't work out that he will hate the Mormons. What should I do?
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 6:58 pm
If he wants to join the church, sick the missionaries after him!
If he really does get truly converted, he won't care if you break up with him, anyway.
What was your friend flipping out about, exactly? I personally don't see anything wrong with a kiss.
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 7:34 pm
lordofthecows If he wants to join the church, sick the missionaries after him! If he really does get truly converted, he won't care if you break up with him, anyway. What was your friend flipping out about, exactly? I personally don't see anything wrong with a kiss. Well if it was her first kiss, and he had really been waiting for 3 years, I'd be really excited, too! Actually, I am really excited for you, Samantha! heart blaugh Just talk to the guy, and explain that you wouldn't want him to be joining the Church for the wrong reasons (i.e. just because his friends (in this case you) are there). Explain to him that you want him to make changes for he himself, and not for you solely. If anything, that will probably make him like you more xd Anyway, I'm so happy that you had a good time, and I hope everything continues to go well for you!
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 9:38 pm
I totally agree with lordofthecows, tell him to do it for him, not for you.
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 11:10 pm
I also agree. He needs to learn about the religion before he joins the church. Hook him up with a Book of Mormon. Put a card in the BoM with ways to contact the Missionaries. Let him read it and figure it all out on his own.
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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 1:03 am
I wasn't a member of the church when I started dating my husband. He actually broke up with me because I wasn't! BUT, I heard about the church through him.
He left me, and then I went and learned more about the church on my own. I think the best, though the hardest, thing to do is tell him if he's serious, then to leave you alone. Because if he does such a life changing thing for you, and it doesn't work out (or even if it does really), wrong reasons will only make things worse.
Also, just pray about it! My husband said he'd get soooo mad because he'd pray and pray and knew he was suppose to be with me and it made him so mad. God knows what's going to happen. Trust him. Though, I know you already know that! lol.
Congrats on the kiss though. Those are always exciting when you get up the guts to tell someone you like them.
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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 1:42 pm
Well, the missionaries gave him a copy of the BoM yesterday, and he read thorugh about 13 chapters. He was supposed to meet with the missionaries yesterday, but they didn't show up. He seems to really be sincere about htis, but he seems to be more enthusiastic about being with me, and I only have a few months left before I go to BYU.
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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 3:05 pm
That's good that he started reading it. If he hasn't already called the missionaries to reschedule, he should do that as soon as possible. Did you tell him not to join for the wrong reasons? Does he know your going to BYU (congrats by the way)? You not being able to see him could hurt the relationship.
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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 6:16 pm
I did tell him that he shouldn't join for the wrong reasons, and he said that he isn't, but it seems that he is wanting something I don't have enough time for.
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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 7:39 pm
Samantha_Grey I did tell him that he shouldn't join for the wrong reasons, and he said that he isn't, but it seems that he is wanting something I don't have enough time for. You may have to do what Kidagara's husband did. Tell him that you'd rather play it cool for a while. If you're not meant to be together, then I'm sorry, and if you are, then I'll be jumping for joy along with you. In any event, I know people who joined for the wrong reasons and have either fallen away, or fell away then came back. It's a very difficult thing to do, but he needs to find out on his own, instead of just following you, considering everything that's happening in your life. Speaking of which, what's happening in his life, other than just wanting to be with you? What are his plans for the future? If you don't know, it's a good start to ask him about it!
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Posted: Wed Apr 05, 2006 1:27 pm
I know he is planning to get his GED, other than that, I think he wants to be a marine.
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Posted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 6:33 am
He had his first discussion on Thursday! Yesterday we got invited to a baptism today at the Stake Center, our ward building is having problems with its water, the water comes out green when you try to fill the font.
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Posted: Thu Apr 13, 2006 5:52 am
He set a baptism date. He's getting baptized on the 21st.
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Posted: Fri Apr 21, 2006 11:25 am
listen.. as long as he's not joining for the wrong reasons its perfectly okay with me. but its been strongly adviced against to convert just because you love someone. you must convert for the right reasons. not to keep him away. just make sure he thinks about his decision first.
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Posted: Mon Apr 24, 2006 7:11 am
*laughs*
Hey, what would you do if the brother of the guy you went to prom with told you that you were hot?
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