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 Posted: Fri Nov 04, 2016 6:42 pm
First of all here's a lil' bit of background: I decided to move back to my childhood home with my mom (and brother/bff -- Steven) when my daddy passed away. We all 3 live in the same house and try to spend lots of time together whenever I'm not at work. Mom is now almost 70 and Steven and I are 30 and 35 respectively.
So by and large Mom's always been a bit on the selfish side and always wanted attention, but lately she's been acting more and more loony in the sense she can't remember (or pretends maybe) not to remember things (like names, etc.) and repeatedly asks us to repeat questions/answers (e.g., 4 times in one day she asked me what was for dinner that evening). She also always wants us to spend every waking moment with her or to take her places (I refuse to let her drive since she can't even remember which is the brake and which is the gas/accelerator). She also has no family history of this nor do any of her older brothers experience things like this.
What am I supposed to do? I'm already taking her to her family doctor in December; I just am hoping no one in my extended family hates me for this. They claim nothing is wrong and it's just a part of her getting older. I beg to differ because as I said none of her older brothers are like this.
Well, sorry for the long rant; this helped me to feel better, but I also wouldn't mind hearing some advice from you all! Thanks in advance. heart
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Posted: Sat Nov 05, 2016 7:35 pm
A lot of people have this forgetfulness as they get older and it's nothing.... but for some it can be an early warning sign of something worse. So it's a good thing she's seeing a doctor early!
Don't let anyone make you feel guilty over it. If something is wrong you'll want to know ahead of time.
But I wouldn't worry too much. My grandpas is like that, but he's fine medically. Just a scatter brain lol
If the doctor says nothings wrong, then maybe change up the diet? Less processed carbs and more healthy fats help memory and focus a lot more than you'd think.
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Posted: Sun Nov 06, 2016 11:12 am
Thanks for the help! 3nodding I hope she'll listen to me about the diet if nothing else is the issue. For some reason she's stuck in her ways of tradition and it's like pulling teeth to get her to change. confused
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Posted: Fri Dec 09, 2016 6:29 pm
Okay, here's the update: I went to the doctor with her on Dec. 5; sadly, because I didn't bring up the forgetfulness at the appointment and the doctor didn't get my email until Dec. 9, nothing happened. stare I spoke with his nurse and decided the best course of action is to make her an appointment in March sometime. So we'll see what happens then. neutral
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Posted: Tue Dec 27, 2016 1:05 pm
Bakura Amane Okay, here's the update: I went to the doctor with her on Dec. 5; sadly, because I didn't bring up the forgetfulness at the appointment and the doctor didn't get my email until Dec. 9, nothing happened. stare I spoke with his nurse and decided the best course of action is to make her an appointment in March sometime. So we'll see what happens then. neutral that sucks gonk i don't have your issues my dad just has the ability to control his wallet like a toddler and doesn't understand the term responsibility
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Posted: Tue Dec 27, 2016 4:59 pm
Thanks, friends! Things seem to only get worse and I'm really hoping I can get an appointment in March for her. sweatdrop On Christmas she just demanded all the attention and didn't even care about her gifts it seems. I even tried giving her something I knew she'd want (a calendar and a new watch). She basically told me that she'd have to get rid of her old watches and the calendar (even though it's just like the old/current one) wasn't quite right. stare Really?! Then she wanted to know if any stores were open so she could buy some olives to go with our dinner. Steven & I asked her several times over 3 days "Do you need anything else for Christmas dinner?" and each time "No. I think I have everything." xp My head hurts and I'm pretty sure I'm getting more "tinsel" (read: gray hairs) on my head. whee emo
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Posted: Tue Jan 31, 2017 5:30 pm
Okay, here's the latest update on my situation.
I took Mom to the doctor about a week ago now and the doctor and nurse ran some tests (and did some lab work). The tests determined that she might have some short-term memory problems; she scored 25/30. Also the doctor gave her some anti-depressants (she doesn't know this is what it really is; the doctor told her it was some "nerve pills" to calm her down) saying it might help calm her anxiety as she's experiencing some some higher anxiety than he's used to seeing in her and that might be why her memory isn't as great. I don't buy that, but okay. Also the lab work was for testing her thyroid levels because that might explain why she's feeling a little depressed (in her own words). We're supposed to go back some time next month (February), which reminds me that I'll need to make that appointment. He said that would "be the real test. If you remember to show up." rolleyes Of course she'll show up because I'll make the appointment, but I don't think she'll remember what the appointment is for. Well, there's all I know as of right now.
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Posted: Mon Feb 20, 2017 8:48 am
Bakura Amane Okay, here's the latest update on my situation.
I took Mom to the doctor about a week ago now and the doctor and nurse ran some tests (and did some lab work). The tests determined that she might have some short-term memory problems; she scored 25/30. Also the doctor gave her some anti-depressants (she doesn't know this is what it really is; the doctor told her it was some "nerve pills" to calm her down) saying it might help calm her anxiety as she's experiencing some some higher anxiety than he's used to seeing in her and that might be why her memory isn't as great. I don't buy that, but okay. Also the lab work was for testing her thyroid levels because that might explain why she's feeling a little depressed (in her own words). We're supposed to go back some time next month (February), which reminds me that I'll need to make that appointment. He said that would "be the real test. If you remember to show up." rolleyes Of course she'll show up because I'll make the appointment, but I don't think she'll remember what the appointment is for. Well, there's all I know as of right now. just checking in - any updates?
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Posted: Mon Feb 20, 2017 5:03 pm
Melena Rai Bakura Amane Okay, here's the latest update on my situation.
I took Mom to the doctor about a week ago now and the doctor and nurse ran some tests (and did some lab work). The tests determined that she might have some short-term memory problems; she scored 25/30. Also the doctor gave her some anti-depressants (she doesn't know this is what it really is; the doctor told her it was some "nerve pills" to calm her down) saying it might help calm her anxiety as she's experiencing some some higher anxiety than he's used to seeing in her and that might be why her memory isn't as great. I don't buy that, but okay. Also the lab work was for testing her thyroid levels because that might explain why she's feeling a little depressed (in her own words). We're supposed to go back some time next month (February), which reminds me that I'll need to make that appointment. He said that would "be the real test. If you remember to show up." rolleyes Of course she'll show up because I'll make the appointment, but I don't think she'll remember what the appointment is for. Well, there's all I know as of right now. just checking in - any updates?
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Posted: Thu Mar 30, 2017 3:30 pm
Thought it would be best to update you all again. Well, we went back and some how Mom aced their test this time, but somehow said the year was 1917! eek She still can't remember much of what happens in the mid-term memory books per se. She can remember her childhood and early adulthood with a snap of the fingers, but as soon as you ask her what happened around say 45 or 50 she starts to have trouble. She also seems to forget things that just happened that particular morning, but can remember just 5 minutes ago. whee I am trying hard not to give up on her. I also have her constantly complaining (in different ways) that she wants attention and I'm not giving it to her. She also can't understand why she can't spend her savings money. I try to tell her it's for her own good so she can have a cushion if she needs it in an emergency. Sadly, she doesn't understand and thinks that means my brother and I "will be very rich" after she passed away. Not hardly! xd Anyway, there's the latest...the doctor did up the dosage on her anti-depressants and anxiety pills, but we'll see what happens next.
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Posted: Mon Apr 10, 2017 11:20 am
Hope everything is okay.
Just wanted to add, even if doctors say everything is fine,
go with your instinct.
Soemtimes you have to keep looking until you find a doc who will take your concerns seriously.
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Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2017 3:56 pm
GreenInkling
Hope everything is okay.
Just wanted to add, even if doctors say everything is fine,
go with your instinct.
Soemtimes you have to keep looking until you find a doc who will take your concerns seriously.
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Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2017 6:14 am
It's been a long while since I updated this and I'm not sure who's still following this, etc. *shrugs* Anyway, so I couldn't go to the doctor with her the last time, but from what I understand (because my brother Steven went with her and told me this) everything was kept pretty much the same. I guess they checked some other things and she still kept referring to the year as 1917 or some other year like that. The doctor and nurse laughed it off, but I don't think it's funny nor does Steven. I'm really worried about her. She also claims that I'm "always mad at her." Granted I don't yell, but I do use emphasis and I do get irritated mostly because I've been under so much stress at work (but that is another topic) and then I come home to try and deal with this. rolleyes Sometimes it's just too much. sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Jun 19, 2017 12:41 pm
Bakura Amane It's been a long while since I updated this and I'm not sure who's still following this, etc. *shrugs* Anyway, so I couldn't go to the doctor with her the last time, but from what I understand (because my brother Steven went with her and told me this) everything was kept pretty much the same. I guess they checked some other things and she still kept referring to the year as 1917 or some other year like that. The doctor and nurse laughed it off, but I don't think it's funny nor does Steven. I'm really worried about her. She also claims that I'm "always mad at her." Granted I don't yell, but I do use emphasis and I do get irritated mostly because I've been under so much stress at work (but that is another topic) and then I come home to try and deal with this. rolleyes Sometimes it's just too much. sweatdrop being the parent blows!
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Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2017 11:13 am
Bakura Amane It's been a long while since I updated this and I'm not sure who's still following this, etc. *shrugs* Anyway, so I couldn't go to the doctor with her the last time, but from what I understand (because my brother Steven went with her and told me this) everything was kept pretty much the same. I guess they checked some other things and she still kept referring to the year as 1917 or some other year like that. The doctor and nurse laughed it off, but I don't think it's funny nor does Steven. I'm really worried about her. She also claims that I'm "always mad at her." Granted I don't yell, but I do use emphasis and I do get irritated mostly because I've been under so much stress at work (but that is another topic) and then I come home to try and deal with this. rolleyes Sometimes it's just too much. sweatdrop
And, by the way, recently on a government form I wrote 1917 and needed to correct this to 2017 -- it happens! Now, lucky for me, I live with my bf, aged 66, and we help each other with particular memory lapses, plus he is there to help with my mobility difficulties -- I walk with a cane, ever since my stroke --
and I've had to deal with this. And he is there, right beside me, offering a hand to help me maneuver up and down stairs, and in and out of our Chevy Cruze.
My bf is a wonderful partner, but there are times when tempers flare -- he is afraid that I might lose my balance and fall -- and I think I can "do it myself" just fine -- so I try to compromise and be rational, and try to see things from his point of view from time to time, to keep the peace.
Now, my bf had to deal with difficult time of his life, before I met him -- his mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease and dementia symptoms. So, I guess he could find a lot of what you are going through very similar.
Mild Alzheimer’s Disease
As Alzheimer’s disease progresses, people experience greater memory loss and other cognitive difficulties. Problems can include wandering and getting lost, trouble handling money and paying bills, repeating questions, taking longer to complete normal daily tasks, and personality and behavior changes. People are often diagnosed in this stage.
Alzheimers Disease Fact Sheet
I am not suggesting that your mom has this disease, but if it seems that she has some/several of these symptoms it might be a good arsenal of facts to take to her doctor, for discussion. Good luck, hun. We, at this guild, are all rooting for you! *hugs* Batty
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