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 Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 1:50 pm
This was over Gaia. I just changed my sig to "wanting true friends". I get a PM saying hello. He didn't have a topic in mind so I chose God. He gets all shocked, like he just poked a fork in an outlet. I understood the shock and apologized and explained my disability. Then,I don't know... He just... Didn't want me because the very first thing shocked him so bad.
He said this "isn't the way to start a friendship" like there's one specific way.
Being trashed isn't t fun in general, but ...
I get it that some are fiercely religious. I wasn't bashing or insulting or forcing, I was just picking something to talk about. If you don't like my topic, you think of one.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 2:15 pm
Aww that sucks<333
i hate when people are rude like that. -hugs-
id say religion or any other hot button issue is a no-no for an early friendship unless thats where you met each other lol.
always start with easy stuff like colors and food and tv shows or something like that.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 2:27 pm
DefauIt Aww that sucks<333 i hate when people are rude like that. -hugs- id say religion or any other hot button issue is a no-no for an early friendship unless thats where you met each other lol. always start with easy stuff like colors and food and tv shows or something like that. but those don't get you anywhere.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 3:16 pm
Green_crayon42 DefauIt Aww that sucks<333 i hate when people are rude like that. -hugs- id say religion or any other hot button issue is a no-no for an early friendship unless thats where you met each other lol. always start with easy stuff like colors and food and tv shows or something like that. but those don't get you anywhere. yeah they do... they give you a feel for what the other person is like. since most of those things fall into certain human patterns. example: if they watch reality tv and wear nothing but pink they are most likely girly and a little self obsessed... but if its not something your good at reading then I can see the draw back of going with those questions. 3nodding maybe try something like their job or area of study in school? a lot of people get offended when you bring up topics like religion.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 3:29 pm
DefauIt Green_crayon42 DefauIt Aww that sucks<333 i hate when people are rude like that. -hugs- id say religion or any other hot button issue is a no-no for an early friendship unless thats where you met each other lol. always start with easy stuff like colors and food and tv shows or something like that. but those don't get you anywhere. yeah they do... they give you a feel for what the other person is like. since most of those things fall into certain human patterns. example: if they watch reality tv and wear nothing but pink they are most likely girly and a little self obsessed... but if its not something your good at reading then I can see the draw back of going with those questions. 3nodding maybe try something like their job or area of study in school? a lot of people get offended when you bring up topics like religion. yea they do. Why is it bad though? I believe this, you believe that. Can't we just find it interesting and not the start of some kind of big thing?? I don't get it.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 6:03 pm
I agree with Deffy, religion is a controversial topic, and you're right, I wish it weren't. But if you want to make new friendships, you should probably try tame conversations like she mentioned.
I know it doesn't always make sense, and if you don't find interest in those things, it can be hard to talk about. But definitely start smaller, and build up to deeper conversations such as religion. :]
Sorry that that happened to you~ don't take it personally. They probably weren't worth talking to anyway
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 6:03 pm
Green_crayon42 yea they do. Why is it bad though? I believe this, you believe that. Can't we just find it interesting and not the start of some kind of big thing?? I don't get it. I think for some people its much to personal a topic to discuss with a stranger, and for other people its just a topic that they normally find stressful to discuss. I used to hate talking about because i didnt like always having to defend myself, so id avoid it. people argue... its just how people are.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 6:45 pm
DefauIt Green_crayon42 yea they do. Why is it bad though? I believe this, you believe that. Can't we just find it interesting and not the start of some kind of big thing?? I don't get it. I think for some people its much to personal a topic to discuss with a stranger, and for other people its just a topic that they normally find stressful to discuss. I used to hate talking about because i didnt like always having to defend myself, so id avoid it. people argue... its just how people are. i know. I like talking about differences and what's cool about them. But others don't. Sigh. I mean "my favorite color is red." "Mine is too." We agree on a color. Fabulous. Ok, that topic is over. Next issss..... I like finding differences. But... Nope. That's not cool, apparently. When I talk about my differences, people get all alarmed. It makes no sense. "Wow ... You're pretty cool---disabled??? Whaaaat?? Ewew...back away!! Ew. Can't believe I almost was friends with that thing!!"
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 6:47 pm
Forelourne I agree with Deffy, religion is a controversial topic, and you're right, I wish it weren't. But if you want to make new friendships, you should probably try tame conversations like she mentioned.
I know it doesn't always make sense, and if you don't find interest in those things, it can be hard to talk about. But definitely start smaller, and build up to deeper conversations such as religion. :]
Sorry that that happened to you~ don't take it personally. They probably weren't worth talking to anyway
i just like differences. Similarities are really almost nothing to dicuss. "I like that dress!!" Uhhm me toooo that's why I got it and am wearing it... Common interests are great but I mean COME ON!!!! Does EVERYONE have to be you to be your friend??? I like plays, you like plays. Do I HAVE to believe in God too???(some extended family is like this) I hope you see my point.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 6:48 pm
Forelourne I agree with Deffy, religion is a controversial topic, and you're right, I wish it weren't. But if you want to make new friendships, you should probably try tame conversations like she mentioned.
I know it doesn't always make sense, and if you don't find interest in those things, it can be hard to talk about. But definitely start smaller, and build up to deeper conversations such as religion. :]
Sorry that that happened to you~ don't take it personally. They probably weren't worth talking to anyway
i just like differences.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 7:26 pm
Green_crayon42 Forelourne I agree with Deffy, religion is a controversial topic, and you're right, I wish it weren't. But if you want to make new friendships, you should probably try tame conversations like she mentioned.
I know it doesn't always make sense, and if you don't find interest in those things, it can be hard to talk about. But definitely start smaller, and build up to deeper conversations such as religion. :]
Sorry that that happened to you~ don't take it personally. They probably weren't worth talking to anyway
i just like differences. Similarities are really almost nothing to dicuss. "I like that dress!!" Uhhm me toooo that's why I got it and am wearing it... Common interests are great but I mean COME ON!!!! Does EVERYONE have to be you to be your friend??? I like plays, you like plays. Do I HAVE to believe in God too???(some extended family is like this) I hope you see my point. I see your point, but I guess I see it as the opposite. If we don't have anything in common, we don't know what to talk about. For example:
"I love watching You're the Best, Lee Soon Shin. What do you like to watch?"
"I like Supernatural. What the heck is YTBLSS?"
"Oh it's this drama about xyz. What is Supernatural?"
"It's a show about abc."
"Oh, that's cool."
"Yeah."
(awkward cricket chirping)
Like, you can present new material to someone, but you can't talk about your favorite characters, or plot, or ways you would react to situations in the show. It's just informing someone about something that they could otherwise read about or watch themselves. It feels more like lecturing to me than making friends.
I mean, I'd get the same amount done with that kind of conversation as I would talking to a wall. Do you see what I mean? I would prefer to talk about similarities, not differences.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 7:36 pm
Forelourne Green_crayon42 Forelourne I agree with Deffy, religion is a controversial topic, and you're right, I wish it weren't. But if you want to make new friendships, you should probably try tame conversations like she mentioned.
I know it doesn't always make sense, and if you don't find interest in those things, it can be hard to talk about. But definitely start smaller, and build up to deeper conversations such as religion. :]
Sorry that that happened to you~ don't take it personally. They probably weren't worth talking to anyway
i just like differences. Similarities are really almost nothing to dicuss. "I like that dress!!" Uhhm me toooo that's why I got it and am wearing it... Common interests are great but I mean COME ON!!!! Does EVERYONE have to be you to be your friend??? I like plays, you like plays. Do I HAVE to believe in God too???(some extended family is like this) I hope you see my point. I see your point, but I guess I see it as the opposite. If we don't have anything in common, we don't know what to talk about. For example:
"I love watching You're the Best, Lee Soon Shin. What do you like to watch?"
"I like Supernatural. What the heck is YTBLSS?"
"Oh it's this drama about xyz. What is Supernatural?"
"It's a show about abc."
"Oh, that's cool."
"Yeah."
(awkward cricket chirping)
Like, you can present new material to someone, but you can't talk about your favorite characters, or plot, or ways you would react to situations in the show. It's just informing someone about something that they could otherwise read about or watch themselves. It feels more like lecturing to me than making friends.
I mean, I'd get the same amount done with that kind of conversation as I would talking to a wall. Do you see what I mean? I would prefer to talk about similarities, not differences.
we both have a point. I feel like I'm talking to a wall when someone likes red too. Common interests are fabulous, don't get me wrong. I love to talk about what I like with someone who likes the same things. It feels like"ok I know it too. we both know we both like it. Can we move along to other stuff please?"-.- I guess I feel differently then most about similarities. But for me, it's more about "what makes you cool? Why should I like you?" In a snobbish kind of way, I guess. I mean, I feel bad that I kind of have them fill out an application, but if everyone is the same, what's cool??
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 7:51 pm
Green_crayon42 we both have a point. I feel like I'm talking to a wall when someone likes red too. Common interests are fabulous, don't get me wrong. I love to talk about what I like with someone who likes the same things. It feels like"ok I know it too. we both know we both like it. Can we move along to other stuff please?"-.- I guess I feel differently then most about similarities. But for me, it's more about "what makes you cool? Why should I like you?" In a snobbish kind of way, I guess. I mean, I feel bad that I kind of have them fill out an application, but if everyone is the same, what's cool?? Lol yeah, I feel ya. But the nice part is that you can make open threads like that, and anyone who wants to join in on that particular conversation (religion or otherwise) can jump in!
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2016 8:02 pm
Forelourne Green_crayon42 we both have a point. I feel like I'm talking to a wall when someone likes red too. Common interests are fabulous, don't get me wrong. I love to talk about what I like with someone who likes the same things. It feels like"ok I know it too. we both know we both like it. Can we move along to other stuff please?"-.- I guess I feel differently then most about similarities. But for me, it's more about "what makes you cool? Why should I like you?" In a snobbish kind of way, I guess. I mean, I feel bad that I kind of have them fill out an application, but if everyone is the same, what's cool?? Lol yeah, I feel ya. But the nice part is that you can make open threads like that, and anyone who wants to join in on that particular conversation (religion or otherwise) can jump in!
i suppose my problem is I don't know what I like. I wanna knit. Oh I love knitting! What do you want to knit? .....I haven't figured that out yet....
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2016 9:56 am
i doodled you while i was bored 3nodding 
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