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 Posted: Wed Dec 10, 2014 2:07 pm
Alright, so. I just started identifying as bisexual a month or so ago. I was uneasy (still am) because one, I was raised into a Christian family, and two, If I were to fully explore my sexuality, I wouldn't want to have to hide it if I was with another girl. But now I'm...confused? I'm attracted to trans guys, trans girls, androgenous people, ect. So I guess that means I'm pan? I always hear about how gay/bi/pan people are just going through phases, and that they'll grow out of it. I feel like I don't know myself as well as I thought I did. I never questioned my sexuality before a few months ago. And now I just feel kind of lost. Have any of you experienced something similar to this? confused
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Posted: Wed Dec 10, 2014 2:17 pm
I went through this all through my middle school and high school years. It really hard to figure out but in all honesty you get the best soul searching out of it. Within the years as I grew older I realized that being in love is a magical thing and you can fall in love with anybody at any given moment. So while you are trying to figure out if you just like two genders or not keep an open mind because your heart will skip a beat over and over again when it starts to grow some lovely feelings. You are very young so don't put a label on yourself just yet, because it's okay to date whoever you want. You might be pan, you might be bi, you might be straight though you don't have to worry that much about it. Just let you heart have it's freedom
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Posted: Wed Dec 10, 2014 2:28 pm
bacon jr cheeseburger I went through this all through my middle school and high school years. It really hard to figure out but in all honesty you get the best soul searching out of it. Within the years as I grew older I realized that being in love is a magical thing and you can fall in love with anybody at any given moment. So while you are trying to figure out if you just like two genders or not keep an open mind because your heart will skip a beat over and over again when it starts to grow some lovely feelings. You are very young so don't put a label on yourself just yet, because it's okay to date whoever you want. You might be pan, you might be bi, you might be straight though you don't have to worry that much about it. Just let you heart have it's freedom Thank you! xx There's just so much pressure these days to choose a label, and if you don't have one you're a faker. It sucks to be invalidated just because you don't know where you're at yet. Eh.
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Posted: Wed Dec 10, 2014 11:15 pm
Bisexuality is the attraction to same & different genders.
Pansexuality is attraction based on personality without taking gender into account.
SO being attracted to a trans person doesn't really mean anything in this context. A transguy is still a guy, a transgirl is still a girl. Bisexuals and pansexuals can be attracted to trans individuals.
And I totally get how rough it can be when your family doesn't agree with who you are. I'm from a very conservative christian military family and you can imagine how dinner conversations about who I'm dating often go.
I think that an important thing to remember is that labels are kinda arbitrary. They exist to help you define who you are, they're not there for anyone else. & from personal experience, explore your feelings! As much as it sucks having other people judge you and weigh you down in your life, if they can't appreciate you for who you are then they don't deserve to have a say in what you want to do with your life and who you want to form relationships with.
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High-functioning Hellraiser
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Posted: Mon Jan 12, 2015 10:09 pm
I think that if you're still in the questioning phase, don't put a label on yourself right away. This could only confuse you more. As for being Christian, I personally believe that it's best to not let that get in the way of who you are. There are countless practicing LGBT Christians out there. Many religions (especially Christianity) are expanding their views on LGBT people as well. Religion is a choice, being who you're biochemically programmed to be is not. Be yourself, hun. Figure yourself out on your own time, at your own pace.
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