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I'm seriously confused.
My 12 year old friend told me last week that she was pregnant, So i asked her all the questions, when it happened, if she'd taken a test, and well...what the hell she was going to do. Anyway she told me it had happened the week before at a party and she'd taken a test the morning after, it was positive and that she'd taken one 3 days later, that was positive too.

Now i don't know everything about pregnancy but i was pretty sure you couldn't tell the morning afterwards, and as this was on MSN i thought 'Hey maybe she's kidding' but she never said so, i then saw her the next day and she seemed to be completely truthful, and serious about it all. But i still kept thinking 'This doesn't make sense, She went to a party and camped outside when it's freezing cold and frosty, she had sex with some random guy and finds out the morning after that they're having a kid!' She then said she'd told her mother who was quite upset but said she could keep the child if she wanted, but they would have to go to the doctor the following thursday. By this point i was kind of believing her and thinking 'Maybe she is pregnant...' but then i spoke to my mum about it (She's a nurse and works on gynecology) She confirmed what i first thought, That my friend could NOT have known the day after.

Anyway, My friend went to the doctors and came back to tell me that the doctor had done a scan and she was pregnant. She then went on to say that she wasn't keeping it and that she'd been given pills to get rid of it. My mother was in the room as we chatted about this on MSN, And my mother said that the scan wouldn't of picked anything up at 2 weeks and that they don't even do scans at our doctors (She'd have to go to hospital for that) She then asked me to ask my friend about the pills and my friend said it would take around two weeks for it to work, And my mother said that couldn't be right.

So now i'm very confused as i spoke to my friend, I just said i'd done some research and read that the scan couldn't pick up anything at 2 weeks and that the pregnancy test shouldn't have either. She said 'Well the doctor managed to see something, somehow. And he did blood tests' ,

Is she lying?
Or is she really pregnant?

Totally agree with Kalandra's post. 3nodding

You can't test the day after, there's no way you'd have enough hormone to even register on a urine test, let alone a more sensitive blood one.

And there are no 'scans' they do. whee I'm very curious about these mystery 'scans' we're supposed to have gotten. If she's trying to BS about an ultra sound, they don't do those to verify pregnancy. The only time I've heard of them being done early is for high risk and emergency situations where they think you're miscarrying.

And emergency contraceptives do NOT take two weeks to work.

Your mom's right: she's lying. Why? Who knows, but it's still lying. Some people crave attention and drama no matter what it costs them, even if it's friends.

I had a girl in my High School who told everyone she was pregnant. Several months went by, she's still skinny as a stick, people slowly lose interest and stop paying so much attention to her. Suddenly she comes in with news that she's pregnant with twins! All this at 13-14 years old. Months go by and her miracle figure never changes.

A lot of girls, usually ones who have nothing worth of attention about them except their reproductive organs, will lie about this sort of thing.

There are two options you can take.

1) Stop being friends. You don't need this kind of drama in your life. There's nothing worse than a friend who cries wolf because when she actually does do something and get herself in trouble, you look like the bad guy for not believing her. It sucks. It's not something you need.

2) Be a jackass. This is what I did. Basically, humor her. If she tells you something, assume it's a lie but just say "oh really?" in a slightly *too* happy, slightly condescending tone. Never accuse her of lying, never make a big deal about anything she says, just "oh really?" and then change the subject. You might get labelled as heartless, but at least people who believe her will never accuse you of being a heartless b***h who calls the poor pregnant girl a liar. And, of course, it allows you to preserve the friendship while not encouraging her behaviour.

Good luck smile Lying friends suck scream