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 Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2012 10:57 pm
Hello girls! Is anyone awake this time of night? I'm normally just a lurker in this guild, but I decided to post for once, just because this has been driving me crazy! There are a few non boy-related issues in this, so I'm sorry if I diverge from the topic once and a while!
Okay. So I'm 19. I'm not a virgin, I lost it with this one dude I had this weird-a** FWB relationship with that I now regret horribly. Normally I dont' care too much about relationships, except, well... Recently (2 months ago), this guy I know broke up with his girl friend of FOUR ******** years-- and he's only 18. I've known him since I was in 4th grade, and around 7th grade he said he was interested in me. I turned him down because at the time relationships freaked me out and he was too good of a friend. It was weird.
ANYWAYS. Now that he's single again, we started hanging out more. Last weekend I stayed over at his college dorm (I did it once before, slept over. Nothing happened though we slept in the same bed), and in the middle of the night he starts like playing with my boobs and s**t. Things get a little weird and I'm kinda distant with him the next day until I go home. That night, or the next (i can't remember), I'm talking with him over Steam, a kind of game hub that I also use as messenger, and tell him I like him. He says it's way too soon, and I can totally understand that (again, 4 year relationship, only been two months), and I back off. A few nights later I got kinda drunk and messaged him. That.. wasn't a good idea. Now I'm pretty sure he's avoiding me. Which, again. I can totally understand. It just sucks and I'd like some company. iunno. He's a really good guy, terribly, smart, sweet, pretty good looking. He's in college, studies comp-sci. I'm still in highschool because I got depressed a few years ago and flunked out. Now i"m trying to catch up again. I don't' drive, I don't have a job. I'm pretty behind in life, though come this spring I plan to enroll in some Community College courses....
He's asian. He has asian parents. They used to beat him when he got bad grades. I'm asian, I'm adopted. My parents are white. They didn't really care, save for a "try harder." I just feel pretty damn inferior. Oh. And he doesn't really drink or anything and I do. Pretty sure that, even if he ever were to speak to me again, he'd deserve a girl 10000x better than me. How do you deal with feelings like that?
Oh! And that girl he was in a relationship with? i'm friends with her. Not terribly close, but we used to do group hang outs. She's a sweet girl. Do you think I should tell her that I like him, or just wait things out? I know that, given time, everything will be okay. I just don't know what to do for the next few months until the feels stop. xD
Um. I apologize for the wall of text. If any of you are still there, I'd love to hear your opinions, good or bad.
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Posted: Thu Oct 11, 2012 12:00 am
I find it a really unfair of him to feel you up and then say YOU move too soon by saying you like him. Anyway, I am sure you aren't inferior to him at all, everyone takes their own paths and none are 'worse' then another in my opinion. I suppose just give him a bit of space and time, but don't give up on him if you really like him.
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Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2012 10:39 am
SInce you're not close friend with his ex, I don't think you need to tell her Hey I like your ex !
Also, do you know why they broke off ?
If they both don't love each other anymore, then.. I guess there's nothing to worry about.
Also, he is a bit too ... fast in physical touch with you... Anyways, looks like he is interested in you.
You said that you like him too. So, I guess tell him about it?
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Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2012 3:01 pm
XxAriaxX SInce you're not close friend with his ex, I don't think you need to tell her Hey I like your ex ! Also, do you know why they broke off ? If they both don't love each other anymore, then.. I guess there's nothing to worry about. Also, he is a bit too ... fast in physical touch with you... Anyways, looks like he is interested in you. You said that you like him too. So, I guess tell him about it? I have told him. He kinda dodged around telling me whether or not he liked me back, but I kinda think he does. Or at least did. They broke it off apparently because he was tired of always having to call her and stuff. He said she cried a lot too, but I'm pretty sure she's under a lot of stress. Oh man, they were so cute together. xD I give it six months before they get back together.
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