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 Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:07 pm
I pretty much always knew my sexuality and tried to actually push it away (I'm bi.) A few things still stick in my mind whenI learned to accept it and I came out to friends and family about 2 years ago. The only person I haven't come out to is my older sister who's 20:
Telling good girl friends on a walk:
Me - I'm bi
friend 1 - Really? Haha, right.
Friend 2 - Who's hotter: Christina Aguilera or Britney Spears?
Mom and dad (while in car fighting):
Me - Blah blah I'm bi! So there! Blah blah
Mom - Why can't you just be normal?
After telling guy friend that is gay:
Malachy - I kinda find the concept of bi people selfish. Can't you just like one sex and not feel the need to like both?
Me - I can't help how I'm born. Just because I like both sexes doesn't mean I'm a sex maniac!! I though you of all people would know considering you did say you like girls just a little.
Malachy - Ya, guess you're right.
After telling brother, he talked to my sister (one I haven't told) and she told me later about this. Of course, she though it was a joke:
Ben (bro) - Haha, remember when Krysta said she's bi? That's not true right? She's just joking.
Kaylyn (sister) - You're so friggin gullible!
Mom and me in kitchen, somehow me being bi came up:
Mom - you don't still think you're bi, do you?
Me - Uh, ya! You don't just change your mind!
Mom - But you can't be because you're with Justin (my bf of almost 2 years)
Me - What? (apparently she thinks I have to have a boyfriend and girlfriend at the same time or something? whee )
Ya, so those are the moments. Share yours since I haven't seen much talk on sexuality, and this is a place where we can freely talk about it.
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:11 pm
My parenst found out at a very bad time...i was sudicidal and well they asked me to tell them everything so i did
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:13 pm
xTierx My parenst found out at a very bad time...i was sudicidal and well they asked me to tell them everything so i did Eep. Glad there's a "was" in front of suicidal. I had problems too, but not to that extent with my sexuality. Other things, yes. I am a troubled teen.
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:15 pm
not 100% sure about my sexuality yet. i'm leaning towards bi. the only person i've told was my husband and well, that just added more fuel to his fantasies stare . and i do have an attraction towards a female friend of mine and have told her so. perhaps i'm just curious *shrugs*
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:15 pm
[Huggable_Thorn] xTierx My parenst found out at a very bad time...i was sudicidal and well they asked me to tell them everything so i did Eep. Glad there's a "was" in front of suicidal. I had problems too, but not to that extent with my sexuality. Other things, yes. I am a troubled teen.
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:22 pm
I've always been bi (So very on the eage of les) o.o I've made out with a few girls before it even crossed my mind whee
I came out, last june'04 at school at lunch.
b***h Magen"Are you les?"(It was a random question ment as a joke)
Me "No,...I'm bi"
b***h "Ewwww, thats so gross!"
Friend Joanna "Your kidding? Thats...worng"
Me "No, its not worng or gross, I've always been bi"
Bunch of random s**t happened. I walked away and cryed for a bit because my friends where being homophobs
Later, I come back and the b***h has been telling everyone that walked by stare
To this day she wont let it drop. She uses my sexualty as a insalt. She dosent like me, so she herasses me, even after I told her to stop
My friends are a little...eh about it. I havent really talked or seen them over the summer.
Only two of them treat me like they always have. One is a guy, the other is a girl stare
My older sister(18, les) knows as well as her girl friend. Of corse there happy I feel happy with my self enough to come out so openly
Now, if only I knew how to tell my dad
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:23 pm
Ninjara not 100% sure about my sexuality yet. i'm leaning towards bi. the only person i've told was my husband and well, that just added more fuel to his fantasies stare . and i do have an attraction towards a female friend of mine and have told her so. perhaps i'm just curious *shrugs* I cuddled with my friend and then felt wierd after and she got a crush on me.. We're still friends and stuff but it still kinda urks me. I have a crush on another one of my good friends now and she knows I'm bi, but I'll never tell her. I know how it feels.. Uncomfortable. My boyfriend knows I'm bi, but I don't think he has that "2 girls at the same time" fantasy or he just doesn't tell me because he's knows it'd hurt my feelings. Monogomamy is all I want.
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:26 pm
RevanStar I've always been bi (So very on the eage of les) o.o I've made out with a few girls before it even crossed my mind whee I came out, last june'04 at school at lunch. b***h Magen"Are you les?"(It was a random question ment as a joke) Me "No,...I'm bi" b***h "Ewwww, thats so gross!" Friend Joanna "Your kidding? Thats...worng" Me "No, its not worng or gross, I've always been bi" Bunch of random s**t happened. I walked away and cryed for a bit because my friends where being homophobs Later, I come back and the b***h has been telling everyone that walked by stare To this day she wont let it drop. She uses my sexualty as a insalt. She dosent like me, so she herasses me, even after I told her to stop My friends are a little...eh about it. I havent really talked or seen them over the summer. Only two of them treat me like they always have. One is a guy, the other is a girl stare My older sister(18, les) knows as well as her girl friend. Of corse there happy I feel happy with my self enough to come out so openly Now, if only I knew how to tell my dad I was very careful because if that happend in my school.. Whew. It'd be hell. I'm all for freedom of being who you are, but when your safety is in danger it isn't common sense to come out to everyone you see. Not saying you did but, ya know... Random comment.
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:29 pm
[Huggable_Thorn] Ninjara not 100% sure about my sexuality yet. i'm leaning towards bi. the only person i've told was my husband and well, that just added more fuel to his fantasies stare . and i do have an attraction towards a female friend of mine and have told her so. perhaps i'm just curious *shrugs* I cuddled with my friend and then felt wierd after and she got a crush on me.. We're still friends and stuff but it still kinda urks me. I have a crush on another one of my good friends now and she knows I'm bi, but I'll never tell her. I know how it feels.. Uncomfortable. My boyfriend knows I'm bi, but I don't think he has that "2 girls at the same time" fantasy or he just doesn't tell me because he's knows it'd hurt my feelings. Monogomamy is all I want. when i told my friend i was attracted to her she wasn't freaked one bit. actually she expected it to happen eventually. we're still pretty close friends, nothing has changed between us except my feelings for her.
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:29 pm
[Huggable_Thorn] RevanStar I've always been bi (So very on the eage of les) o.o I've made out with a few girls before it even crossed my mind whee I came out, last june'04 at school at lunch. b***h Magen"Are you les?"(It was a random question ment as a joke) Me "No,...I'm bi" b***h "Ewwww, thats so gross!" Friend Joanna "Your kidding? Thats...worng" Me "No, its not worng or gross, I've always been bi" Bunch of random s**t happened. I walked away and cryed for a bit because my friends where being homophobs Later, I come back and the b***h has been telling everyone that walked by stare To this day she wont let it drop. She uses my sexualty as a insalt. She dosent like me, so she herasses me, even after I told her to stop My friends are a little...eh about it. I havent really talked or seen them over the summer. Only two of them treat me like they always have. One is a guy, the other is a girl stare My older sister(18, les) knows as well as her girl friend. Of corse there happy I feel happy with my self enough to come out so openly Now, if only I knew how to tell my dad I was very careful because if that happend in my school.. Whew. It'd be hell. I'm all for freedom of being who you are, but when your safety is in danger it isn't common sense to come out to everyone you see. Not saying you did but, ya know... Random comment. I came out with my firends, but magen told everyone she could. stare Now, entering high school...I'm scared about herassment. stare I already get herass for different reasons, but this will just be another knife in the bullies hands if you know what I mean
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:31 pm
I've only told my two best friends, and this whole guild that I was bi ._.;;
Me- Um... Can I tell ya something? ._.;;
-kaosin-(first friend to know)- Ya sure. ^^
Me- .... You wouldn't like... hate me or anythin would ya?
Her- ...? No, you know I can't hate you...
Me- I'm bi... ._.;;
Her- ok ^^
Me- ...... You know I'm bi right? O.o
Dysfunction Unknown- Nope. I do now though. ^^
Me to guild (in profile)- Sexuality: Bi...
I felt that last one would make for a nice giggle...
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:31 pm
I never really got "The Talk" from my parents, so I never really learned about sex and preference until 7th grade in health. At that time I was a big chistian moron (Good grief I loathe those days, and no, my parents are not christians. My mom's an atheist and my dad isn't really anything) and I thought the concept of sex was repulsive, and yet, the thought of two people of the same sex didn't bother me. Despite that thought, I always found myself staring at at everyone's a** and being unable to take my eyes away. A pervert was born! One year later, over, of all things, christmas break, I renounced christianity and became an atheist, best move of my life really. When I was a christian, I was always miserable and praying like hell. Nothin' ever got done. So I took it upon myself. I left christianity and stood on my own two feet. I stopped taking ritalin and did things on my own. I did better then I had ever done before, because now, I was believing in myself and not a "diety". Skip ahead about 3 years. I was staring everywhere. No skirt went unpeeked. (I never did anything blunt, I would always just peek from afar and no one would ever notice) and a few girls got their asses touched, again, without knowing it. (I took advantage of tight walkways to make it seem accidental because there was no room.) Then I kinda slowed down a bit and thought about things. I was still staring at guys' asses and having fantasies a bit. I finally realized I was bi. The first to know was my best friend, who also happened to be bi. Then i told my mom and she said that it was fine and she was glad I told her. Another year later, my dad was giving me soe grief about how I had a bit of a breakdown at school and asked me why discrimination towards homosexuals and the like bothered me. I told him it was becaise I was bi and hated the injustice. At first he questioned me, but eventually, even boulder brain got the point and said that he understood me a little better now.
So there's my story.
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:32 pm
bummer looks like all of you got it realy hard when you told some one
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:37 pm
waterdragoonmaiden bummer looks like all of you got it realy hard when you told some one Well... The few people (excluding the guild ._.; wink who know took it lightly... and they didn't really care.. one of them being bi herself lol... and as for the guild... Well... what would be the point in lying to my own sexuality? o.o
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Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 10:41 pm
Ninjara - You're lucky you have a good relationship like that. One in a million. whee
Revanstar - Find friends that are like you and stand strong. Highschool is hard sometimes, but it easier if you have someone to talk to that has similar experiences.
Kujamaru - Cool ^^ You sent me a pm today but I never replied, sorry. I was sorta busy w/ my bf today. Not gonna take the chance explaining details about our post-fight activities. blaugh
Master_of_Shadow - Be careful when you bash religions, you could deeply offend someone. I consider myself athiest too, but I have Christian friends. The whole "bum touch" thing sure opened my eyes. I've had my bum touched a few times seemingly by accident.. eek
waterdragoonmaiden - Well, it isn't easy being different, but someone has to do it.
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