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Two days ago, my three brothers and I decided we were going to go play tennis, because we wanted to spend some time together before the two older ones left the next day. So we're sitting in the kitchen, waiting to go, and my dad asks if anyone is 'interested' in helping him make salsa. My one brother, Eric, volunteers to help, but my dad says, 'No, you helped last time. Anyone else?'. None of us say anything because we were already planning on leaving. He says for everyone who isn't helping to clear out so they have space to work. We go and wait on the porch. I come back in just a minute later to grab a water bottle and I hear my dad saying to Eric in an angry tone, "I'm just disappointed that the rest of my kids are lazy-asses that wont lift a finger to help anyone but themselves." Then he sees me and says, still angrily, "Yeah, I'm talking about you. Get out of my house." So I leave. A few minutes later Eric comes out and we all leave. We get back about an hour and a half later and my dad's gone. Eric calls him to see if he'll be home for dinner and there's no answer- never called back. About 2-3 hours later, he gets back home, walks right through the middle of us and stomps upstairs (We all said 'hi', by the way). That was the last I saw him that day.
The next day (yesterday), I he didn't say anything to me (or anyone else that I know of) until my two brothers leave. There, he gave them half hugs and said "Bye. Drive safe." Then after they left, Jeffrey (the remaining brother) and I were outside doing some light yard work for my mom while she's gone- and I go inside for like, a grand total of a minute to grab a bag from under the sink and he tells me to get out of the kitchen.
Then a little later that day, I was in my room and I hear Jeffrey talking to my dad. Jeffrey was being very calm and saying something like, "You should be acting more like an adult" and Dad coming back with him not acting like an adult and being selfish, and Jeffrey said that he was more selfish then the rest of us, and from there, it was pretty much my dad cussing him out and telling him to get out of his sight. At that point, I closed my door and climbed out the window. I had a little bit of an emotional breakdown. Then Jeffrey and I left and didn't get back until about 10pm.
When we got back, he told me that I had to be in bed by 11 and pretty much didn't say anything else to me after that.
And today, he basically hasn't said anything to anyone, and has just been stomping around the house being in a bad mood. And when he left for work, he didn't say anything to anyone and just left (which he never does).

Sorry that's so long... But, is it just me, or does it seem like he's being really immature about us not wanting to help him make salsa? And none of us know why it was so important for him to make that day, either. He said that he wanted to spend time with Patrick and Eric before they left, yet he goes out of him way to NOT be around them? And then freaks out at us when we actually are willing to spend time with them. And he's STILL in a really bad mood about it. If that would have been Mom, she wouldn't have even asked, because she's nice enough and courteous enough to let us spend the last bit of time with each other. Actually, she wouldn't even have wanted to make it that day, because it wouldn't have made sense to.
Does anyone have any ideas about how to make him stop acting like such a baby? I've thought about calling my mom and telling her everything and hoping that she'll talk to him, but she has to deal with enough stress as it is, so I'm not sure... Thanks for reading, though.

That's what I've been trying to do. And if I do ever talk to him, being as pleasant as possible.

Yeah. Usually it's not bad, but for some reason this time, he just blew up. So I've pretty much been hiding, lol

Aw, that sucks. Some people, right? *Shakes head*

That makes sense. Thanks smile

I also wish you luck. Sorry about the whole thing.

It's good that you have your other brother to be with you during times like that. I feel your dad was being very immature about the salsa. Perhaps he wanted to hang out with the two before they left, but didn't want to force anyone to help.. either way I still feel he handled it wrongly. Give him a bit of space, he'll chill out eventually. Is he having a hard time at work, or other stress related things that could be making him lash out?