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 Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 7:44 pm
Question 1: Has anyone ever been set up for a blind date? (i.e. to meet a new friend/girlfriend/boyfriend) And if you have did you feel nervous? anxious? uncomfortable? Question 2: What's the most reasonable distance to drive to see a blind date? a. 15-20 minutes b. 20-30 minutes c. 1 hour I've never been set up on a blind date before and I have butterflies. And the fact that the meeting place is over an hour away. Just seems a little extreme to me at least, especially with the way gas costs right now. My boyfriend has been trying to get me to do double dating with friends. And I have more guy friends than girls. Not that it's a bad thing at all, he just wants to see me hang out with more girls. So he set me up to have a lunch date with the wife of a couple we're going to be having dinner with this coming Friday. Which I'm all for and cool with. I guess what bothers me is the fact the distance. I'm working with her lunch hour schedule to meet up with her and that's what's really killing my do I go or call it off? Because of the distance. I'm not asking anyone to fix this, I'm just asking opinions on the matter. I've never met her nor the couple before. If she was willing to meet me somewhere half way that would be great but I know she can't because of the time she's limited for lunch. Opinion help, please? Thanks.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 7:59 pm
Honestly, I think that if you don't know them, at all, then it's kind of much for the distance factor. Driving an hour to meet someone, to me, is unnecessary.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 8:00 pm
Noted Musician Honestly, I think that if you don't know them, at all, then it's kind of much for the distance factor. Driving an hour to meet someone, to me, is unnecessary. Glad I'm not the only one thinking that, thanks for the response.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 8:05 pm
Jzen White Noted Musician Honestly, I think that if you don't know them, at all, then it's kind of much for the distance factor. Driving an hour to meet someone, to me, is unnecessary. Glad I'm not the only one thinking that, thanks for the response.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 8:50 pm
I do not think I would go that far to meet somebody for only a half hour to hour meeting.
If your man wants you to meet her than he should do so in a more convent occasion. Maybe have them over for dinner or a game night.
Meeting your man's friend's wife should not be sit up on a blind date. Blind dates are where you meet people that you are planning on dating not friend's wife. Plus with the price of gas, is it worth traveling to you for maybe 1/2 hour to hour meeting?
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 9:03 pm
Noted Musician Jzen White Noted Musician Honestly, I think that if you don't know them, at all, then it's kind of much for the distance factor. Driving an hour to meet someone, to me, is unnecessary. Glad I'm not the only one thinking that, thanks for the response. Neither have I and to me it's scary thinking about meeting someone that I don't know that's so far away. It's convenient for them because they're close to work. It's inconvenient for me because I live so far away. I'm not a coward by any means, I will meet them only if they are willing to travel half the distance. I think that's only fair.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 9:04 pm
Jzen White Noted Musician Jzen White Noted Musician Honestly, I think that if you don't know them, at all, then it's kind of much for the distance factor. Driving an hour to meet someone, to me, is unnecessary. Glad I'm not the only one thinking that, thanks for the response. Neither have I and to me it's scary thinking about meeting someone that I don't know that's so far away. It's convenient for them because they're close to work. It's inconvenient for me because I live so far away. I'm not a coward by any means, I will meet them only if they are willing to travel half the distance. I think that's only fair.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 9:09 pm
MistyMary24 I do not think I would go that far to meet somebody for only a half hour to hour meeting.
If your man wants you to meet her than he should do so in a more convent occasion. Maybe have them over for dinner or a game night.
Meeting your man's friend's wife should not be sit up on a blind date. Blind dates are where you meet people that you are planning on dating not friend's wife. Plus with the price of gas, is it worth traveling to you for maybe 1/2 hour to hour meeting?
That was the original plan. Meet out on a dinner date, as he said quote un quote 'blind date as a couple' near the end of this week. He's been persistent that I go and meet her first hand before we do the couple date. I asked him why he was being so persistent in me meeting her. And his response was, "I want you to have more friends as in 'girl friends' and feel more confident about yourself. You don't have enough friends."It was a big slap in my face when he said that to me. I have friends! For granted I have more guy friends because of the field I am in. And the departments I work in. Which doesn't bother me at all. I guess the bottom line is, it's bothering him that I'm around more guys than girls. And the office girls that I work with just don't have anything in common to talk with to me. They'd rather smoke their chimney cigarettes and talk about their kids and whatever. I don't have any kids. Well, I consider the dogs, cats and fish of tanks I have as my kids but it's not the same I know. 3nodding Because we have nothing in common per say having kids, they don't have anything to do with me. Unless they have a medical emergency THEN they come and ask me all sorts of questions. I've gotten used to the fact that over the years they don't want to have anything to do with me and I'm okay with that. My boyfriend says that's bad. I guess I don't see that as being bad. Maybe I'm wrong?
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 9:21 pm
You are not wrong at all. If he loves you, than he should understand that you are not all into hanging with the girls. I would ask him why do you believe i need a girlfriend now in my life? Are you trying to tell me I am not your everything? Some women like being around other women and some do not?
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 9:29 pm
MistyMary24 You are not wrong at all. If he loves you, than he should understand that you are not all into hanging with the girls. I would ask him why do you believe i need a girlfriend now in my life? Are you trying to tell me I am not your everything? Some women like being around other women and some do not? Thanks. He told me that he loves me dearly that it hurts. He's so afraid that if something were to happen to him while he's in the line of duty. He's a firefighter. He worries about what I will do. Who will take care of me. Things like that. He said friends are there for you during hard times. But when you really need a friend to stay with or help you out, who can I turn too. Things like that.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 9:50 pm
That is a good reason and I understand fully his concern there. Have you thought about joining a club or seeing if his station has a group for the spouses to attend where you might the rest of the spouses? Does his station offer this service? If not maybe you two should suggest it to the station and find chose a couple of days a week to meet.
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