So I want to hear your thoughts on polygamy

[Dusty-Boy]

I'd like to hear these thoughts

personally I never cared much about it, but I feel like the polygamist movement and the GLBT movements have a lot to offer eachother, thinking from a pure civil rights standpoint, I feel like I have no ability to tell people how their feelings work, and I can't say that I've seen proof that a person can't have deep romantic feeling to more than one person.

Also I see a similar trend in polygamist repression as with gay repression, Polygamists are branded as ***** and sexual deviates, often stated that it is only there for the sexual desires of one man to sleep with as many people as he can.

Personally I think it is quite probable that there are legitimate polygamist relationships out there, especially since other cultures have already seen them  

[Taeryyn]

Many people seem to see polygamy as being inextricably linked with child brides and arranged or forced marriages, and that will definitely hold back progress. It's been a hot topic here in recent years, and Canada's current laws against polygamy might not be constitutional. :p So we'll see what happens.

I have no issue with polyamory or with consenting adults choosing to have more than one spouse. I'm not sure how exactly we would revamp our current systems to work with plural marriages, though. Nearly every government form would need to be reworked, and I imagine it would complicate things like income taxes, child tax credits, social assistance, family law...
Basically, a bureaucratic nightmare, and I'm glad it isn't my job. xd  

[ForeverDreamWithinADream]

I am not into it personally as I don't want to share my lover (assuming I ever get one in my life) with another and I already have a hard time finding people I can trust and connect with to really fall in love and I can see where jealously will come into play.

To each their own I guess. If someone can truly fall in love with more than one person and they all agree to the relationship, more power to them.  

[The Bodacious Soul Reaper]

Personally, I do not agree with it. It is wrong to have multiple spouses. And not only at the same time, I disagreeing with divorces. I believe if you get a divorce you simply gave up on a relationship, but as I said that is simply my opinion.
I truly do not like anything that has to do with multiple wives, but I don't want to go on a rant.
The only way I will tolerate it, or not comment on it, is if the family are Mormon's as I would not protest against their religion, I would respect it. No matter how much I truly disagree with it.

 

[[.Silvr-Moon.]]

Polygamy isn't something I am personally into when it comes to relationships, but I respect and notice that it exists out there and I have absolutely no problem with it for other people, as long as they all consent. I guess I'm just too selfish, for I wouldn't want to share my special someone with anyone else, but as long as people are happy and consent to it, they can have as many partners as they'd like! It's just not something for me!

I hope I made sense!  

[Pink Slowpoke]

Personally, I feel that if those involved can create and maintain a functional relationship where everyone is happy I don't see any reason why they shouldn't be allowed to have a polygamous marriage.

Saying that however, I could never see myself in a polygamous relationship.

If it was made legal could it be reversed (woman having many husbands?)

 

[lgtenos]

It's a deal-breaker for me.  

[Dusty-Boy]

The Bodacious Soul Reaper

Personally, I do not agree with it. It is wrong to have multiple spouses. And not only at the same time, I disagreeing with divorces. I believe if you get a divorce you simply gave up on a relationship, but as I said that is simply my opinion.
I truly do not like anything that has to do with multiple wives, but I don't want to go on a rant.
The only way I will tolerate it, or not comment on it, is if the family are Mormon's as I would not protest against their religion, I would respect it. No matter how much I truly disagree with it.

The Mormon religion, I have read, teaches that the color of your skin is based on your level of sins, And that if you do good then jesus will turn you white.... I'm going to go ahead and say that while I support these people's right to believe something... I really wish they'd all die of some horrible disease

Pink Slowpoke

Personally, I feel that if those involved can create and maintain a functional relationship where everyone is happy I don't see any reason why they shouldn't be allowed to have a polygamous marriage.

Saying that however, I could never see myself in a polygamous relationship.

If it was made legal could it be reversed (woman having many husbands?)

well yeah, that would be a given, people associate it with the side that favors men and never really associate it with the side that winds up with one woman married a bunch of times  

[Belethiel]

I don't like it because all I see are these men with total power over their wives. They're all almost sheep-like. These kinds of relationships seem to favor men only. It might be okay if the women were allowed to marry more than one man while still married to their original husband (even though I think this is wrong as well, I don't believe you can be truly in love with more than one person), or if they were bisexual, the wives could sleep with each other. It's weird, but if it's all consensual and they treat each other as equals, it might be okay since it won't hurt anybody... I don't know. I have mixed feelings about it, I'm not to judge anyone, really. If there is just one member of the opposite sex involved, then there could be a lot of jealousy. *rambles* I'm middle ground, but I lean more towards "no."

And I don't think polygamous relationships are common enough so we have to change laws. :/ It looks like just a fringe thing at this point. I never met another person who just went up and said, "Hey, I want to marry lots and lots of men or women!" If people want to love and sleep with lots of different people, they could just stay unmarried or in open relationships.  

[Taeryyn]

If plural marriages were to become legal (say, if the prohibition against them was found unconstitutional...), then we'd have to change laws regardless of how common that type of marriage is.

Spousal abuse and controlling husbands are something that exists in normal marriages as well, which I think indicates that the problem is the misogynistic attitude towards women rather than the polygamous marriage.

I could never be in a poly relationship. It's just not for me, at all. I do know several people who are, though, and they're fine. As long as all parties want to be involved in that way, I don't see the issue.

The Bodacious Soul Reaper

Personally, I do not agree with it. It is wrong to have multiple spouses. And not only at the same time, I disagreeing with divorces. I believe if you get a divorce you simply gave up on a relationship, but as I said that is simply my opinion.
I truly do not like anything that has to do with multiple wives, but I don't want to go on a rant.
The only way I will tolerate it, or not comment on it, is if the family are Mormon's as I would not protest against their religion, I would respect it. No matter how much I truly disagree with it.

Just the Mormons get a free pass (even though mainstream LDS members do not even practice polygamy), but the other religions and cultures that practice polygamy don't? I mean, it's your opinion and that's fine, but I'm a little confused about your reasoning.

Why is it wrong to have multiple spouses? Again, I have no issue with your belief, I am curious as to why you believe it's wrong.

I'm of the opinion that people don't really take marriage very seriously anymore, and end up divorcing as a result. Do you believe it would be wrong for an abused person to divorce an abusive spouse?  

[Sarah_L_Awesome]

Whatever floats your boat. Don't hurt anyone and it's fine, in my opinion.  

[Yoseisame]

I will have to get back to you on this topic. I really don't know what to think. If it was to be legal I feel that it would have to go both ways. So far the only thought in my head is that those would be some messy divorces.  

[HintOfCholera]

As long as does not involve children and no one is being forced then I don't care

 

[Centipedes In Utero]

As long as they're legal and consenting adults, I can't be bothered to care.

The lifestyle doesn't appeal to me in the slightest. Too many people to deal with.

 

[noigel]

Oh God the divorce rates...