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Posted: Mon Feb 20, 2006 9:35 pm
He really is, of what happens when someone cannot be accepted for who they are for whatever reason.
It's also a reminder to keep me in check because I've noticed I lash out more and more violently over the years.
Why? I'm facing too much pressure from my parents for what they want me to be not what I am.
Since coming out as gay it has gotten alot worse, and the fact that I met the girl I've been with for (coming up on) 14 months online didn't help. (I met her IRL, my mom and dad met her IRL and her family so I don't get what the big deal is.)
So yes, I'm being constantly denied the love I really need in my life. I've only gotten to meet with my girlfriend twice, and neither of which have we had any time alone and the last time was September... so I really have this like... I have her at a distance...
She always signs her emails to me "Your Little Christine" too... it's too cute... but a painful reminder.
My parents don't understand my fits of bursting out into tears, melting wax onto my wrists, breaking things, I feel so repressed, and then I get frightened... because I wonder if I'm turning into a small scale Erik...
(My GF is also the one who made me a Phan O_O; So yeah you guys have some stock in this >.<)
Wow I just bore my entire soul out to you guys... so... um... yeah... anyone else think Erik needs to read Dr. Suess?
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
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Posted: Tue Feb 21, 2006 3:18 pm
While I'm straight and all, I do know a bit of the acceptance deal. It's got to be hard to tell your parents something as life-altering as your choice in love. It's hard to tell parents anything like that without them freaking.
I was raised a strict Catholic and then Christian, both my parents very religious and devout. And while I have little against them, I didn't feel that way so I found a religion I believe in more--Buddhism. I've been Buddhist since the sixth grade and only told my parents a year or so ago. My Dad laughed at me and made me cry while my mom went on some hellbent spree to drag me to Church and have me "repent".
Mom's gotten over it, but talking Religion is tender. I even got on her nerves once with something I said and she told me, "well you're going to Hell anyway, so what does it matter?"
But that's all really beside the point. *waves hand dismissively*
We all have an Erik moment, I think. I'm on meds for my temper and depression (you wouldn't believe how hysterical I was during the first month of being away from home thanks to Hurr. Katrina) so I don't go psycho, throw on a mask and my blue bathrobe and stalk the house, booming on the piano in my room.
All I can really say is look at the glass as half full and know you have phriends who are here for you. :3
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Posted: Tue Feb 21, 2006 4:12 pm
To be honest, I'd prefer it if there was religion involved somewhere in this. It'd make sense! But... neither of my parents are that devout... my mom is like... secular Jew woman. My dad was raised Catholic but he's been coming to my Unitarian Church with me lately. But it's just... nonsensical...
I want meds.
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
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Posted: Sun Mar 05, 2006 8:52 pm
Utakan While I'm straight and all, I do know a bit of the acceptance deal. It's got to be hard to tell your parents something as life-altering as your choice in love. It's hard to tell parents anything like that without them freaking. I was raised a strict Catholic and then Christian, both my parents very religious and devout. And while I have little against them, I didn't feel that way so I found a religion I believe in more--Buddhism. I've been Buddhist since the sixth grade and only told my parents a year or so ago. My Dad laughed at me and made me cry while my mom went on some hellbent spree to drag me to Church and have me "repent". Mom's gotten over it, but talking Religion is tender. I even got on her nerves once with something I said and she told me, "well you're going to Hell anyway, so what does it matter?" But that's all really beside the point. *waves hand dismissively* We all have an Erik moment, I think. I'm on meds for my temper and depression (you wouldn't believe how hysterical I was during the first month of being away from home thanks to Hurr. Katrina) so I don't go psycho, throw on a mask and my blue bathrobe and stalk the house, booming on the piano in my room. All I can really say is look at the glass as half full and know you have phriends who are here for you. :3 For a strict Catholic, your mom sure doesn't know her theology O.o The Catholic Church doesn't say you must be a Catholic to go to heaven. There are three requirements, and not one of them says "you must be Catholic/baptized/whatever"
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Posted: Wed Mar 08, 2006 6:56 pm
I just found out that Howard McGillin is gay... that totally cheered me up... *gush*
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Posted: Fri Mar 10, 2006 7:04 pm
Erin Sovenya Utakan While I'm straight and all, I do know a bit of the acceptance deal. It's got to be hard to tell your parents something as life-altering as your choice in love. It's hard to tell parents anything like that without them freaking. I was raised a strict Catholic and then Christian, both my parents very religious and devout. And while I have little against them, I didn't feel that way so I found a religion I believe in more--Buddhism. I've been Buddhist since the sixth grade and only told my parents a year or so ago. My Dad laughed at me and made me cry while my mom went on some hellbent spree to drag me to Church and have me "repent". Mom's gotten over it, but talking Religion is tender. I even got on her nerves once with something I said and she told me, "well you're going to Hell anyway, so what does it matter?" But that's all really beside the point. *waves hand dismissively* We all have an Erik moment, I think. I'm on meds for my temper and depression (you wouldn't believe how hysterical I was during the first month of being away from home thanks to Hurr. Katrina) so I don't go psycho, throw on a mask and my blue bathrobe and stalk the house, booming on the piano in my room. All I can really say is look at the glass as half full and know you have phriends who are here for you. :3 For a strict Catholic, your mom sure doesn't know her theology O.o The Catholic Church doesn't say you must be a Catholic to go to heaven. There are three requirements, and not one of them says "you must be Catholic/baptized/whatever" Oh, I forgot to mention we switched to Baptist. XD But most of my childhood was Catholic. My parents split up and that's when my Mom turned Baptist.
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Posted: Sun Mar 12, 2006 1:21 pm
Bakatulip, it's never fun to come out. I'm friends with a lot of homosexual men and women and they've never had an easy time coming out to their parents and friends. If something is life-altering in any way, it's never fun. Whether proclaiming you are homosexual, your best friend has commited suicide, or your parents are separating because of irreconcilable differences, it's just not easy.
But repressing who you really are can be just as worse. I had to do that when I was younger. Since grade 3, I've had to take medication after medication for my ADHD and later tourette's syndrome. I felt so ashamed that every lunch I went into a bathroom stall and took my pills there, in fear that I might be labelled different. In grade 6, I had to tell my classmates. Sure, they became distant to me, but I felt relieved in the sense that I came out and said, "I do have ADHD, and? Dosen't mean I'm not human, because I am."
Genetics have a role in both our cases, and we can't help that, but we can accept it knowing that even though people might still look at us funny, we know that in our hearts we're being ourselves.
"You laugh at me because I'm different. I laugh at you because you're all the same!" - Anon.
Keep your head up high, you'll get through this, I know you will!!!!
WE LOVE YOU!!!!! *glomps you*
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Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2006 6:01 pm
And since Fallen brought up the being different thing, I'm going to add something.
Erik was born different. He was cursed to be brought into the world in a time where the misshapen and imperfect of form were "touched by Satan" and claimed demon-spawn, forced to the life of untouchables simply because they were not pretty or "normal."
And such in that being said, there are those (myself included) who have the misfortune to be larger in weight than what is considered normal or even attractive. Made fun of because we are big. Ridiculed and labeled simply because we are round.
While unlike Erik we can still walk among society, it is still not a pleasant feeling to have a child ask "are you pregnant?" and exclaim in public that you are "fat". Your own peers prod at you verbally, in front of you and behind your back as I'm sure Erik had done to him. The obese are as big an abnormality now as the disfigured and ugly were then.
Now if there weren't for the kind hearts in life, many of those who are victim to it (even if they get help someway and are relieved of it later in life) would succumb to loneliness and the morbid mindset Erik became consumed by. And perhaps you'd have fat people lurking underground in your churches, I don't know.
But in a way, those who stand out from the "normal"--the gay, the heavy-weight, the short, the diseased (both mental and physical)--all, this is cheesy, have a bit of Erik within them. A little voice that commands the world to make amends with them or be harmed in rage.
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Posted: Thu Mar 16, 2006 5:14 pm
Utakan [...]And perhaps you'd have fat people lurking underground in your churches, I don't know. [...] If we all did that if we felt "different", there would be as many people down below churches and schools and buildings as there would be up here on the surface. gonk
Scary thought, isn't it?
No one's "normal". We can all be "deviants" in some sort of way, but the important part is to not think that you're the only one going through it.
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Posted: Thu Mar 16, 2006 6:59 pm
Fallen_Syrien Utakan [...]And perhaps you'd have fat people lurking underground in your churches, I don't know. [...] If we all did that if we felt "different", there would be as many people down below churches and schools and buildings as there would be up here on the surface. gonk
Scary thought, isn't it?
No one's "normal". We can all be "deviants" in some sort of way, but the important part is to not think that you're the only one going through it.Oh most definately. But might I add society is surely going to bring us all to lurk in the catacombs on this world if they continue on with their nonsense advertising. Sex sells and the beautiful sell it well. The average and unattractive get put down by it. But then again, we all live with buttholes. XD So what am I raving about?
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Posted: Sat Mar 25, 2006 3:19 pm
Utakan [...]Oh most definately. But might I add society is surely going to bring us all to lurk in the catacombs on this world if they continue on with their nonsense advertising. Sex sells and the beautiful sell it well. The average and unattractive get put down by it. But then again, we all live with buttholes. XD So what am I raving about? I am at your service, Uta-Budda... *bows*
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 3:23 pm
Man. I must've eaten Wisdom-Os to have so many people bow to me. O_o
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Posted: Mon Mar 27, 2006 8:01 pm
The beautiful thing about Erik is that everyone can relate to him.
I don't think there not one person who hasn't felt like the "freak" in the crowd. Although some must bear their crosses all the time.
My parents have always made it a point never to judge anyone, for whatever reason. And I've done just as I've been taught.
On the subject of religon-- My mother grew up strict Pentecostal, and my dad (loosely) Baptist. For some odd reason, neither of them felt the need to bring religion to our lives. I have to luxury to choose whichever religion I wish to practice. Which, so far, my beliefs contradict each other between agnostic, atheist, and a little bit of reincarnation.
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Posted: Sun Apr 08, 2007 6:16 am
Well, this is bad. I don't know what religion I am! My mom told me once, but I totally forget! I've never really had a prefrence, so I don't know what to choose! (I would probably choose Erikism, but it's not real.)
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Posted: Sun Apr 08, 2007 6:28 pm
I can understand the bit about sexuality (I'm bisexual) but most of the abuse came from myself. I thought I was sick and perverted because of it. People in school aren't much help either. I'm Wiccan, but most of my family is Catholic. Ever since I came out to my father, he has been trying to bring Jesus and God back into my life (We can be talking about my grades and he'll just make a random remark about Christianity that only loosely pertains to our discussion)
Personally, Erik reminds me of the ugliness within me. I constantly put myself in mental mind ********. But Erik also reminds me that somewhere inside of me, there is something beautiful- even if I can't find it yet.
P.S. Bakatulip, I just want you to know that you've been a role model to me. I wish you all the happiness you so richly deserve- which is tons, in my opinion.
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