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I guess it would depend a little bit on whether you are a virgin (which you said you've had sex twice) and how many times and how often this has occurred.

Regardless, that doesn't sound normal and I would discuss it with a doctor ASAP.

Go see a doctor. 3nodding

I've only heard of breaking your "cherry" once. I'm not sure if you can do it multiple times. You should really fo and see a doctor.

Then perhaps you should stop masturbating with the toy until you're able to go see a doctor. Because the bleeding isn't normal, and it'd be foolish to continue to do it without seeing some sort of medical professional who can help you.

Refusing to see the doctor is a foolish thing to do, to be rather blunt. What you're describing is in no way normal and you need to be checked out to find what the issue is. A bunch of opinions on the internet is no substitution for a check up.

We all have fears, we all hate pelvic exams and do them anyway. I know I've been going for 10 years and it's still uncomfortable and I hate it with a passion. But I do it. Sometimes you just need to put on your Big Girl pants and suck it up to make sure you're healthy though.

It's worse not to know what's going on at all.

That's understandable, but really a bad excuse. There are millions of people who have deep set fears in seeing a doctor, but to risk your health over something mental is just not good in the long run. There ARE ways to work through that, MANY MANY people do it everyday.

Get some professional help either though a psychiatrist or even a counselor at school to help you understand why. Talking about it can help you more than you would think.

Also, let the doctor know AHEAD of time about your fears. This means calling in, setting up the appointment, and telling the receptionist to please make a note of it. Try to get there early for your appointment so you can sit down with the doctor and talk that out a little more. It's not an uncommon fear, they do have techniques to work through it. I've found female GYNs tend to alleviate my nervousness quite a bit, especially since mine talks to me to get my mind off of it. If you don't trust them extremely, then get to know your GYN to make it easier.

I think you're building this up much more than it is. I don't know if you've ever been to a GYN, but if you haven't, it's not that bad. With a good Gyn, that you've done all those steps with, the whole actual uncomfortable exam lasts less than a couple minutes.

Of course, you can always ignore the problem, never conquer this fear, potentially have a serious problem, never have sex or masturbate for the rest of your life.

A doctor can't help you unless you're willing to help yourself.

What do you fear most? Having some sort of cyst or infection inside your v****a that you don't know about that can cause major permanent damage (or even death if left untreated for too long)? Or spending 5-10 minutes in a doctor's office and being healthy?

A lot of people have a fear of doctors. My fiance, for example, spent his entire childhood in the hospital because of a bunch of problems. They did all kinds of horrible and painful things to him during that time (PM if you want the long story). He used to get a panic attack just seeing doctors on TV, let alone actually going to see one. But you know what? It's a stupid fear. It's ok to avoid snakes or spiders, but you HAVE to see a doctor. It's a fear you just have to get over. You can do it in steps if you like. Do see a doctor and just talk without letting him/her touch you. Build up your confidence. See the same doctor often. This can also help because you can build a good trust relationship with them. Before I go see a doctor regularly, I always have an "interview" with them to make sure it's a doctor I trust with my body.

As for the fear of having your genitals touched, that's legitimate but, again, stupid. You NEED to have a full gynecology exam at least once a year. It's like taxes. It's unpleasant, but you just have to suck it up and get it done. Again, there are ways you can help make it less stressful such as spending time with the doctor first and getting to know them.

An important thing to remember is that they see vaginas all the time. You are not special or unique. There is nothing about you to arouse any particular interest for a doctor. You are just another patient, that's all.