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 Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2011 4:44 pm
You ever turned the channel to Cartoon Network and spotted a "Dude, what would happen" commercial with those three guys who are talking about bullying and how it's not cool?
(I babysit 4 kids and they love Cartoon Network so I'm GOING to know about that commercial whether I'm watching T.V with them or not. It airs on that station TOO OFTEN with the wrong message!)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqzSDJpc9Jo
(I know there's another one, but I can't find it on Youtube at the moment)
Am I the only one who thinks it's ridiculous?
They're teaching kids to run to the nearest adult and tattle. It'll ONLY MAKE THINGS WORSE.
The bullies will come back with a vengence once detention is over and get the tattle-tale after school!
Late one night I was deleting the episodes my youngest cousin recorded and a commercial came on with this...loud backpack a bully victim can activate to "get help." iSafe backpack.
What is this?
A defending backpack? What'll happen if the batteries die?
Will that backpack keep that kid safe from physical bullying? Do they know kids will laugh even more at him/her?!
On a few dressup doll sites I've found a few outfits that are anti-bully. http://i596.photobucket.com/albums/tt46/missmaya10/th_bullyinglol.jpg?t=1316310831 (There were a few other ones on other sites, but I forgot to copy them. -.-" Before anyone gets on my case about being on a little kid's site, keep in mind that I'm the one who has to monitor everything the kids do on their dad's computer.) They're even trying to put this stuff into cutesy pixelated...clothes as some sort of unity? "We are against bullying! Yay!" :/
What do you think?
Do you think people are taking the wrong approach to bullying or do you think there's a better way to deal with it?
This topic has been bothering me for a while and I would love to read your opinions and ideas. It's like I'm the only one who thinks this sudden disapproval is a bit too strange.
Edit: Is there something wrong with the polls? I had a POLL!!! option and it's not there anymore. I can't edit it. :/
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2011 4:17 am
Only once was I bullied and it actually bothered me, I told my parents about just they asked what happened at school that day. I didn't expect them to do anything about it. Well my mom called the school. My dad, not knowing my mom called, went to the school and spoke the the guidance counselor. The girl was called to the office and never spoke to me again. So yeah, telling an adult can work.
The backpack is just downright ridiculous.
And I don't see what's weird about "Anti-Bullying" clothes. There's shirts about To Write Love on Her Arms. Kinda similar.
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2011 5:37 am
I believe I've encountered two types of bullies in my days as a bullied:
Those who bully somebody to get attention, who may feel rewarded by being told on.
Those who want to feel superior. These guys may find you a suitable target while you're not protected, if you've asked for assistance from adults.
Telling adults 'bout bullies is not necessarily a bad thing, as long as the adults handle the situation correctly. I guess this may be as reliable as having the average American parent help you with your algebra homework in high school.
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2011 8:21 am
Shiori Miko And I don't see what's weird about "Anti-Bullying" clothes. There's shirts about To Write Love on Her Arms. Kinda similar.
I saw one the other day and the message just doesn't speak to me. Anti Bullying. Like...is that an organization? You are anti bullying? Just reminding adults about kids getting picked on? It's like a halfway done message on a shirt similar to the "I like" shirts at my school freshman year. I like WHAT, man?!
I don't know. I just don't get it.
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2011 8:31 am
Gakre I guess this may be as reliable as having the average American parent help you with your algebra homework in high school.
But yes, what I'm saying is...what if the bully does NOT want to get told on? That kid will have to deal with even more problems.
I know this because I was bullied in kindergarten, I asked my mom to have my class changed so I won't have to see this one girl. She asked why and I said that there's a girl who's mean to me. She picked up on what I was trying to say, so she talked to the teacher and the girl got lunch detention. They did not change my class and her friends had fun hitting me with jumpropes.
My mom did what she could, but it depends on what the teachers would do and how the bully is like. That's why I'm annoyed with the telling adults. It won't guarantee safety from even more kids who'll pick on you.
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2011 9:22 am
Princess Monochromicorn what if the bully does NOT want to get told on? That kid will have to deal with even more problems. Getting told on (in an essence) may not be what the bullies want to avoid. Getting into trouble 'cause of you may be something they'd like to avenge; yes. Too many employees working with children treat every bully like some sadistic b*****d, who simply do what they do 'cause they can and need to be put in place. I suspect most bullies start off with some kind of problem: Problems with family, friends, peer pressure and/or something else. And chances are they don't feel comfortable talking 'bout their problems at all. This makes it difficult to both discover and help out with their problem(s), and may require a proper psychological approach.
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 11:16 am
I think that if a kid is being bullied telling an adult is fine, but the conversation should not only be about how the bullies should be punished (such as detention) but how the kid should react if in the future it happens again. The exact advise the adult should give the kid varies depending on the type of bullying. It could simply be for him/her to stand up for themselves, or it could be more complex if there's physical bullying going on then maybe enrolling the kid in a martial art might help. If that approach is taken though I'd say the parents should talk to the instructor and let them know the situation so that they can decide how best to instruct the kid.
Some bullying instances might be able to be dealt with by adults, but in general I don't think that's the case. In many cases the bullied kid might just need to start an activity that will build up their confidence in themselves.
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2011 1:06 pm
I had completely forgotten it until now, but I remember being bullied for the entirety of fifth grade by these popular twins. I ignored it, did my own thing and eventually they stopped. It was all just verbal bullying, I don't remember if I told an adult or anything. I know that a few teachers stood up for me when they'd see it happening, I never asked them to but it certainly was nice of them to do so, and the bullying would die down for a while each time. Being bullied by the other kids really didn't bother me that much, always had a few close friends and just that happiness was enough for me.
Been "bullied" by teachers since the first grade though. P= Specifically, I mean that they'd go out of their way during class to make fun of me and get the whole class into it. Only a handful of the teachers I've had have though. That messed me up for a long time, my parents didn't do a thing about it either.
The shirts and all that are just adorable, I don't think it hurts for kids to wear them or use them on pixel dolls. They're kids, they do goofy things anyway and maybe if enough kids wore them those clothes would make a difference. I think the majority of adults do not want to deal with any problems at all, so maybe the whole "tell an adult" thing isn't the best idea. The iSafe backpack would work just as well as a car alarm, I imagine.
My main point here is that you grow up, get over it, and go on with your life and what's important to you. At least, that's what I've experienced on my own and through the lives of my friends and family.
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