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 Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2011 7:44 pm
Sup, this post will likely be edited a lot, and I'm probably going to b***h a lot randomly. Probably mostly about missed connections and whatnot, we'll see razz
But, for starters, I'm a dude, should probably get that out in the open right away. I'm married to my wife of (currently) 4.5 years, and we have been Poly for...I think a year at this point, though neither of us has actively dated. I first heard about Polyamory in a sex-ed guild here on gaia, and found it interesting, but assumed I was wired monogamous, as my Wife was the only person I was attracted to. About a year ago, however, I found myself attracted to a friend of my wife, which actually caused me a lot of stress. For several years I had found myself pretty well convinced that my Wife was the only woman I could have feelings for, and then all of a sudden I'm hit with feelings for another woman.
I'm pretty committed to honesty, however, so I discussed my feelings with my Wife, and found out that she had actually been surprised by similar feelings(for the same woman, no less). We discussed Polyamory, and we agreed that it was worth looking into, albeit moving slowly(part of the reason neither of us have really dated). My 'brother'(not actually a blood relative) is polyamorous, and in a triad with his wife and husband, so he was my primary reference until I found Mame's thread in Life Issues. I tried asking the woman out, but she said that she was worried about causing issues with my wife...and then stopped speaking to the both of us. So, probably better off without her, anyway.
That pretty much catches up to my current state in life, at least as far as where I am romantically.
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Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2011 7:47 pm
Oh yeah, and my aim with women sucks. First girl I asked out after coming out poly will no longer talk to my wife or I, second woman tells me she thinks I'm awesome and attractive, but would not be able to share with my wife, and the most recent thinks poly is cool and all, but is asexual. So, yeah, and to believe I thought I had dating issues in High School gonk
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Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2011 8:15 pm
It's good to see you around! heart
I'm sorry things have been rough on the dating end- have you looked into Poly sites or poly friendly sites?
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Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2011 8:34 pm
Esiris It's good to see you around! heart I'm sorry things have been rough on the dating end- have you looked into Poly sites or poly friendly sites?
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Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2011 9:39 pm
X - Citation Needed - X Esiris It's good to see you around! heart I'm sorry things have been rough on the dating end- have you looked into Poly sites or poly friendly sites? A lot of the poly dating sites and poly friendly sites are free- like Ok Cupid is free. And I'm the same way- but I figured maybe trying something new and different might help. sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed Sep 14, 2011 10:34 pm
Esiris X - Citation Needed - X Esiris It's good to see you around! heart I'm sorry things have been rough on the dating end- have you looked into Poly sites or poly friendly sites? A lot of the poly dating sites and poly friendly sites are free- like Ok Cupid is free. And I'm the same way- but I figured maybe trying something new and different might help. sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 12:16 am
Maryann and I were friends first too and we have been together 4 years now so don't lose hope
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 12:18 am
oh and WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 10:30 am
X - Citation Needed - X Esiris X - Citation Needed - X Esiris It's good to see you around! heart I'm sorry things have been rough on the dating end- have you looked into Poly sites or poly friendly sites? A lot of the poly dating sites and poly friendly sites are free- like Ok Cupid is free. And I'm the same way- but I figured maybe trying something new and different might help. sweatdrop You're skipping the obvious solution here, Citation. OKCupid actually sets you as "Available" if you're in a relationship and looking for dating. So, go ahead and select "Married" then, if you think you're ready to look for dating, select that in the looking for field. You will then show up as "Available" instead of "Single" or "Married" or "Seeing Someone"
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 3:43 pm
Saew X - Citation Needed - X Esiris X - Citation Needed - X Esiris It's good to see you around! heart I'm sorry things have been rough on the dating end- have you looked into Poly sites or poly friendly sites? A lot of the poly dating sites and poly friendly sites are free- like Ok Cupid is free. And I'm the same way- but I figured maybe trying something new and different might help. sweatdrop You're skipping the obvious solution here, Citation. OKCupid actually sets you as "Available" if you're in a relationship and looking for dating. So, go ahead and select "Married" then, if you think you're ready to look for dating, select that in the looking for field. You will then show up as "Available" instead of "Single" or "Married" or "Seeing Someone"
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 6:17 pm
gaia_angelleft emotion_dealwithit gaia_angelright
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 7:51 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2011 8:20 pm
So, got a call from Sunreon(that's her online name, so I guess it just makes more sense to call her that on the forums) this afternoon. She said that she got a 3 hour lunch break today, and was wondering if we'd like to get together for dinner. So, we all met up at an Arbys near the Theatre she works at, and got all introduced and stuff. My Wife absolutely loves her, though I'm starting to get worried that I may have a 'type'. Check it: Same height, dimensions, hair color, personality, they even have their glasses are even similar in design. I was barely able to get a word in edgewise O.o
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Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2011 8:05 pm
Just came out to my parents. Very awkward conversation. Now I remember why I wanted to do it in person >.<
"So, yeah, Ro and I are Polyamorous"
Okay. What's that?
Well...uh...it's kind of complicated. I don't like to use the term polygamy, as it has a lot of baggage, and kind of implies -
(My wife, da Nekoro interjects)We're not marrying children!
Well, okay, yeah, that's one point.
I really didn't explain it well, we're pretty sure that they don't know what's going on. They probably think we just opened ourselves up for more sex >.<
At least we have it opened up for discussion, though. If they ask, we can talk about it.
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Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2011 11:33 pm
X - Citation Needed - X Just came out to my parents. Very awkward conversation. Now I remember why I wanted to do it in person >.<
"So, yeah, Ro and I are Polyamorous"Okay. What's that? Well...uh...it's kind of complicated. I don't like to use the term polygamy, as it has a lot of baggage, and kind of implies -(My wife, da Nekoro interjects)We're not marrying children!Well, okay, yeah, that's one point.
I really didn't explain it well, we're pretty sure that they don't know what's going on. They probably think we just opened ourselves up for more sex >.<
At least we have it opened up for discussion, though. If they ask, we can talk about it. at least you can talk to them about it
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