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 Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 7:17 pm
So for a while now I've known that I'm bisexual. I've also realized that I have no idea how to come out about it. It's gotten to the point where I know I should just say it, but I'm way to nervous, especially since I know it will make things really awkward between me and everyone I know. I really need advice on how to tell someone, anyone. I don't want to bottle this up anymore.
I'm really trusting the people here to be kind and mature about this. I'm not really active in this guild so I don't know many people here, but I'm hoping that despite the fact I'm a shadow, someone will be able to help me.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 7:25 pm
Truthfully, I never understood the need to tell people your sexuality, but then again I'm mostly straight. The person you really just need to tell is the guy/girl you're attracted to. They're all that matters anyway
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 7:29 pm
Well, I should probably tell my parents, too, you know? That's who I'm mostly worried about.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 7:40 pm
I'm not out yet either. But I don't feel like telling anyone.
I'm being less careful about it, just so they can guess for themselves.
It's not like I have to tell them. Let them figure it out.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 8:06 pm
Hm. I guess that could work. Although, they missed a pretty obvious hint when at dinner I said if there was a zombie apocalypse, I'd hide in a closet, and when I needed food, I would come out. Theeey didn't really catch the meaning behind that...
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 8:10 pm
If your friends can't tell that you're bisexual then they seem a bit oblivious. Most of mine knew before I did and there's a big chance your friends might think you're joking or act indulgent.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 8:50 pm
o8Orobouros8o If your friends can't tell that you're bisexual then they seem a bit oblivious. Most of mine knew before I did and there's a big chance your friends might think you're joking or act indulgent. I don't know, my friends are pretty smart. I guess I hide it well...
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 10:48 pm
I wouldn't worry about it. The day that it all comes out, will be the day that it was meant to come out, but never try to lie about it. It's YOUR life, and YOUR preferences. If people hate, then people hate. If they can't accept it, then either you need to remember that you don't need their approval to be how you want to be, or they learn to accept it. If and when they choose not to accept who you want to be, never regret what happened or happens. You have no control over that. Just try to keep in mind that it's your life, and you deserve to live this life the way you want to live it. 3nodding
By the sound of it, your still pretty young, so you have all the time in the world to wait and pick when you want everything to come out. ^^
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Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2011 9:16 am
Super Katara talk, all the hopiness is fun.
I think that you might have to clarify about being Bi actually, because during your teen years you really just want affection and both genders offer it. But! At that same time, being bi doesn't mean you're attracted to/want to be with everyone. So be careful about it instead of just dating whoever will have you.
Also, being attracted to girls doesn't actually mean you're bi, regardless of what some people might think. It's very normal for Women to be attracted to each other, and Men to Men, but that doesn't equal wanting to be intimate with them.
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2011 10:32 am
if i were you i would just say it. if they're really ur friends then they will be ok with it and stick by you. honestly i wouldn't be surprised if i turned out to be bisexual. and i said that to my friend and she was perfectly ok with it
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2011 10:45 am
Well.. I get how you feel. So far, I've only told my bisexual cousin. Please don't quote me... Dad might see this. x_x
I've sometimes joked about being Bi when talking to my dad, and he said it would be cool. Couldn't tell if her was serious or not...
You don't have to tell the world about it—I'm sure you won't—
And as for your parents... Try what I did... Joke about being Bi, when you actually are. G'luck~
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Posted: Mon Sep 05, 2011 12:06 pm
Artisticalogical Poppy Hm. I guess that could work. Although, they missed a pretty obvious hint when at dinner I said if there was a zombie apocalypse, I'd hide in a closet, and when I needed food, I would come out. Theeey didn't really catch the meaning behind that... I don't think anyone would have caught that. Leave zombies and food out of the metahpor. Zombies are no laughing matter!
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Posted: Tue Sep 06, 2011 6:23 pm
Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter won't mind.
Open up. You're friends and parents should understand (if one of my friends said they were gay/bi, I wouldn't mind).
If your friends have a problem with it, I guess they weren't really friends.
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Posted: Fri Sep 09, 2011 6:42 pm
They say you waste time asleep...
There's no need to have to tell anyone. If they don't ask and you have to say out of nowhere that you're bisexual, that will make them feel uncomfortable. Your parents might think you're in a phase and your peers will likely think that you're desperate for some attention. I would advise against it.
Also, what I like to say is: "I'm bisexual... well, I'm really a pansexual but most people don't know what a pansexual is so I just say I'm bisexual." It alleviates some of the negative connotations with being bisexual, it makes you sound a little smarter, it makes it appear that you have some knowledge on this whole thing so it's not really just a phase, and it challenges the listener to learn something new.
...but I'm just tryna dream.
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Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2011 4:21 pm
o8Orobouros8o Super Katara talk, all the hopiness is fun. I think that you might have to clarify about being Bi actually, because during your teen years you really just want affection and both genders offer it. But! At that same time, being bi doesn't mean you're attracted to/want to be with everyone. So be careful about it instead of just dating whoever will have you. Also, being attracted to girls doesn't actually mean you're bi, regardless of what some people might think. It's very normal for Women to be attracted to each other, and Men to Men, but that doesn't equal wanting to be intimate with them. Agreed 3nodding
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