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I think your thoughts are justified, and it certainly was wrong for you to be called a b***h for having your own opinions...

On this same note,

I'm not sure if it is right or wrong. Being someone who has cut/used general self-harm, and then started smoking as a way of stopping cutting, then had to quit that....

From a secular point of view, it is not good, but the person's body belongs to themselves. I did it as a way to manage stress, as a way to feel like I had some level of control over my life, certainly no one ever knew. It was also a way of keeping myself from getting depressed to the point of carrying out the act of committing suicide. Because this is such a personal issue, I think the answer of if it is "okay" (whatever that means) or not depends on the individual.

From a Christian point of view, if you are a person who considers yourself a Christian, I'm gonna yell "ITS A SIN ITS A SIN ITS A SIN!!!" But, I will say that hun, our bodies serve as houses to the Holy Spirit. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, " Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies." We shouldn't avoid cutting or harming ourselves because of some rule, we should do it out of love for Christ that he suffered and died for our sake, that he says to us "“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.” We are given tasks to overcome in this life, and we are living in a fallen world where things get tough and hard to bear... but he promises us, "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."


But let's say irregardless of a person's religion and irregardless of if they are seeking attention or not: they clearly have something wrong within themselves, and they need help. Maybe the help they need is not the help they want, and it certainly can be that way... But either way, we should help those in need.

This is just my personal experience. And I'll be upfront about that, the fact I swear a lot, and the fact this subject pisses me off. Okay. So.

Some people who hurt themselves y'know, actually might have a problem and are doing so as a way of trying to make people see it. Because let me tell you from experience, try telling someone when bad s**t is going on and you don't know how to deal with it or need help and watch 'em blow you off. Watch them not give a s**t. It's cool and hip to do that these days. When I felt like suicide was my only option years past it would have been very nice if someone had actually ******** listened to me and got me help to work out my problems. I'm still alive today because of my own will, but really. I deal with it every day of my life. Every day I continually question and indeed, see so frighteningly easily still how everyone in my life would be better off without me. I fight it. But it would be great to think I wouldn't have to fight it alone, that if I told someone I wouldn't been seen as an "attention whore", that someone would listen. But see, I didn't get that chance. And a lot of other people don't either. Some are strong enough to survive on their own eventually, like me. But a lot of people aren't. And they matter.

So I sort of don't have a blasie attitude towards it. Sure, some people just want attention and this is one of the ways they may go about it but how exactly do you know who does and who doesn't? And I'm not willing to take that risk.

I personally believe it's just another form of cowardice. It shows a lack of mental stability to think "I hate myself so much it makes me feel good to hurt myself" If they hate themselves so much why don't they try to fix it?

I was born heavily dyslexic AND with A.D.D I was pulled out of 2nd grade to be homeschooled because they very bluntly told me and my mother I was intellectually retarded and couldn't learn past a 2nd grade level.

My mom, being the headstrong woman she is decided, 'Eh, I can't do much worse' and homeschooled me. She gave me a choice my first day being homeschooled, while I was severely depressed and thought myself as mentally retarded. The choice was that I could either not be able to read or write and have a dim future, or I could pick my head up and prove them all wrong.

Now, I'm in my junior year of Highschool, straight A student in AP to college level classes. I'm still homeschooled and am able to write over 30 page papers with ease. I know I've gone through phases where I wanted nothing to do with myself.

I was about to attempt suicide when I was 13 because I couldn't stand being in my own skin. I considered myself repulsive and a complete fool. But when I was sitting on my bathroom floor with the pills in my hand, it hit me. I realized just how selfish and idiotic even considering it was. It also made me think about the teens and kids that cut themselves to feel more 'alive'.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those 'your body is your sacred temple' people, I'm sixteen and already have a tattoo(Parents approved) I UNDERSTAND why someone would cut or abuse themselves, I was at that place in my life once where I was in such a bad place mentally that I wanted to hurt myself, I wanted to punish myself for being stupid or ugly.

But that's the immature way to deal with it. They just want to take the blame for something and take the punishment, they don't want to stand up and fix it, or brush it off and say I'll do better next time. I know it takes a LOT of patience and inner drive to make the stand to say I know I screwed up, but I'll do my best to make it better- not about someone else's stuff or your sibling's brand new toy, but yourself. It's difficult, especially because all humans have a bit of perfectionism in them due to their minds thinking about what SHOULD BE rather than what it has the potential to be.

Sorry about the rant there, I just felt it needed to be said. redface

A bit of history:

-My father was diagnosed with bipolar disorder when I was eleven years old. He has been hospitalized seven times since then, and the last time he went in it was only because he broke down and told me that he had a rope ready in the shed and that if I didn't stop him he was going to hang himself.
-At one point I was a a self mutilator. I hated myself and really believed that the people I loved would be better off without me. No one knew a thing about it for about three years until the point that I found myself ready to overdose. I stopped and sought out help.


There are many reasons that people self mutilate; of course, but in the end I've found that it is often a way of confirming in oneself that you are a victim.. And in some cases, that may even be true. But from experience, it is possible to come out of all of that alive and happy to be breathing.

It's an impractical solution to mental instability. It's like someone turning to alcohol to make them happy: in the end it will NEVER address the root of the problem, and will lead to more negative things.

I think people should try to figure out why they want to cut, is it a mental disorder? Perhaps therapy can help, then. Is it loneliness? Join a support group. Because cutting/self-harm will never solve problems.

First off I would like to make it clear that I do not harm myself, or know anyone who does. The following is pearly my opinion.

I know this was posted a couple of months ago but there are many many reasons why someone would hurt themselves and the first reason that popped into my head was sadomasochism this word actually describes a minority of people that like to injure themselves it means that they are someone who enjoys to give pain and enjoys to receive pain as well. The second reason I thought of was stress, a majority of people under stress often do very stupid things and will do anything to get away from it even if it is temporary, like some people say one pain makes another pain seemingly vanish. it all just depends on how far they are willing to go. One final thing I thought on were attention seekers the "Oh woe is me" type of people who just think there life is horrible when it really isn't that bad all they are trying to do is get the attention of someone important to them. Those types of people may have tried a couple of things but became desperate and began hurting themselves. And again a very small minority of people actually go to that extreme for attention.

Those are just my thoughts on reasons why someone may want to hurt themselves.

I don't think it's right. But I'm not going to start a debate with a cutter. If they're sick enough to cut themselves, they're probably not going to be open to a point of view on their actions outside their own.