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 Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2011 9:30 am
Well, recently my mom started talking to me about not ever crying, I don’t cry. Though I don’t really see what the problem is. I just don’t like to express feelings like others do.
I like to be quiet and mind my own business but I guess my mother doesn’t think its normal for a child to not cry.
My Mother is a very sensitive person, when she’s depressed...She cries, when she’s sad about something so stupid, she cries.
I don’t get why someone cries over stupid things that have no meaning in life. Though I guess we have different point of views.
Sometimes I feel I should speak to her about my feelings but I am afraid of hurting her feelings.
Should I tell her all the things I should? Or keep it inside and spare her feelings?
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Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2011 10:21 am
Theres nothing wrong with not crying. Its certainly nnore dignified.
As to what to tell her, thats all in how yov want to handle it, bvt Id say that yov shovld be prepared to have to listen to her crying abovt it, if yov do.
Sorry if that wasnt very helpfvl.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:03 pm
I think she just wants a way to connect with you more than anything. Mothers tend to be silly like that. razz
It's okay if you never cry. But holding back feelings and keeping things bottled in never ends well for anyone involved with said feelings. It's best to get them out in the open somehow. Otherwise issues will never get resolved and people will end up more bitter in the end.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:08 pm
Matasoga Theres nothing wrong with not crying. Its certainly nnore dignified. As to what to tell her, thats all in how yov want to handle it, bvt Id say that yov shovld be prepared to have to listen to her crying abovt it, if yov do. Sorry if that wasnt very helpfvl. Well, It makes me think back and forth. Leaning toward not telling her though. I don’t really like when she crys. For some reason it annoys me.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:10 pm
Tiherina I think she just wants a way to connect with you more than anything. Mothers tend to be silly like that. razz
It's okay if you never cry. But holding back feelings and keeping things bottled in never ends well for anyone involved with said feelings. It's best to get them out in the open somehow. Otherwise issues will never get resolved and people will end up more bitter in the end. If I get them out then I’ll have to deal with complaints. From my sisters, from her, and from my dad.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:10 pm
I cried for the first time in a long while the other day. I was told right before I went to work that my great gam gam died. ; 3; And you expect me to get through a day after that? WTF, MOM!? D,:<
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:15 pm
NerdOrgy Tiherina I think she just wants a way to connect with you more than anything. Mothers tend to be silly like that. razz
It's okay if you never cry. But holding back feelings and keeping things bottled in never ends well for anyone involved with said feelings. It's best to get them out in the open somehow. Otherwise issues will never get resolved and people will end up more bitter in the end. If I get them out then I’ll have to deal with complaints. From my sisters, from her, and from my dad.
People are different that way I guess. smile
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:16 pm
Alexander J Luthor I cried for the first time in a long while the other day. I was told right before I went to work that my great gam gam died. ; 3; And you expect me to get through a day after that? WTF, MOM!? D,:< Truthfully I don’t think I will cry if my grandmother(I Call her nana) passes away...>.> cuz I hate her. Though the other one....Shes been in my life more then Nana so....I don’t really know but if the day comes I guess I’ll have to post it I guess.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:17 pm
NerdOrgy Matasoga Theres nothing wrong with not crying. Its certainly nnore dignified. As to what to tell her, thats all in how yov want to handle it, bvt Id say that yov shovld be prepared to have to listen to her crying abovt it, if yov do. Sorry if that wasnt very helpfvl. Well, It makes me think back and forth. Leaning toward not telling her though. I don’t really like when she crys. For some reason it annoys me. Those who possess ennotional strength are exasperated by those who have none, even if we care for thenn... Even if we deeply love thenn. This is inevitable, so I do vnderstand precisely where yovre conning fronn and its a perfectly natvral reaction. Yov have only to decide if its worth it to yov.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:18 pm
Tiherina NerdOrgy Tiherina I think she just wants a way to connect with you more than anything. Mothers tend to be silly like that. razz
It's okay if you never cry. But holding back feelings and keeping things bottled in never ends well for anyone involved with said feelings. It's best to get them out in the open somehow. Otherwise issues will never get resolved and people will end up more bitter in the end. If I get them out then I’ll have to deal with complaints. From my sisters, from her, and from my dad.
People are different that way I guess. smile I can’t handle emotional people.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:23 pm
I guess that's okay. I don't really have anything else to say, other than good luck with your family. ^^
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:24 pm
Matasoga NerdOrgy Matasoga Theres nothing wrong with not crying. Its certainly nnore dignified. As to what to tell her, thats all in how yov want to handle it, bvt Id say that yov shovld be prepared to have to listen to her crying abovt it, if yov do. Sorry if that wasnt very helpfvl. Well, It makes me think back and forth. Leaning toward not telling her though. I don’t really like when she crys. For some reason it annoys me. Those who possess ennotional strength are exasperated by those who have none, even if we care for thenn... Even if we deeply love thenn. This is inevitable, so I do vnderstand precisely where yovre conning fronn and its a perfectly natvral reaction. Yov have only to decide if its worth it to yov. Probably not. Though if it helps her in someway to get off my back and stop getting into business that isn’t necessary to dig into then it would probably do me good.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:28 pm
NerdOrgy Matasoga NerdOrgy Matasoga Theres nothing wrong with not crying. Its certainly nnore dignified. As to what to tell her, thats all in how yov want to handle it, bvt Id say that yov shovld be prepared to have to listen to her crying abovt it, if yov do. Sorry if that wasnt very helpfvl. Well, It makes me think back and forth. Leaning toward not telling her though. I don’t really like when she crys. For some reason it annoys me. Those who possess ennotional strength are exasperated by those who have none, even if we care for thenn... Even if we deeply love thenn. This is inevitable, so I do vnderstand precisely where yovre conning fronn and its a perfectly natvral reaction. Yov have only to decide if its worth it to yov. Probably not. Though if it helps her in someway to get off my back and stop getting into business that isn’t necessary to dig into then it would probably do me good. Yov know best then. I trvst yovr ivdgennent, and if it isnt worth it to yov, then its best to ivst let it go. If that ever changes, however, yov probably shovld have it ovt with her.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:35 pm
Everyone expresses feelings differently. Some may say it's more dignified never to cry, but that's not to say there's indignity in shedding tears. The greatest dignity is in doing what you need to do in spite of what you may feel. I'm sure if you simply explained this then your mother would understand that you're not a souless robot from outer space and are simply dealing with your feelings differently.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 8:41 pm
People are just going to assume you're closed off if you never get emotional in front of them, so your mom is probably just sad that don't feel open enough to tell her how you're feeling. At least that's how I see it.
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