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 Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2011 11:35 pm
Ok, well I am 6ft 7in. And I don't really want to give out my weight, but It's close to 260(Although I prefer that then being tall and anorexic). I know not a lot of guys are this big, and I know there are lot who are bigger, but my body just makes me so mad.
For one, I'm freaking two feet taller than the majority of the girls in my school. Im also more than twice their weight. I have to BEND DOWN to kiss a girl. And two, I hate the fact that alot of girls want their guys to be attractive and fit and s**t like that. I am a bit atheletic (Im not a bum who lays around all day). But most girls wouldnt even give me a second thought. I don't get it. Sure, there are alot of girls that aren't like that. But I'm finding it harder and harder to find these girls.
I know we all want to be in a relationship with someone who is attractive, but I find it appaling how no one seems to care about personalities. All the guys want to date blond, Dcup, tight a** bombshells and the girls want tall(not too tall...dammit), tan, and muscular. (Sorry if I seemed sexist or something, but it's the truth. You know it, I know it, they know it.)
I want too know, fellow Gaiains and BURN members, is there anyone out there with a shred of decency? Do any of you girls find tall, 'stocky' guys attractive? Am I the only guy who doesn't give a fudge about what my girl looks like, as long as I love the person she is inside?
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2011 11:45 pm
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2011 11:57 pm
It depends on the girl. My 'sort of' sister is fairly tall - about 6 feet - and has a thing against dating shorter guys. She prefers tall guys. And she has a pretty hot body. smile
You mentioned you are in school. I think the farther you get out of school the less you will find it to be a problem. A lot of people are 'all about looks' in school. As they get a bit older and into 'life in the real world' most of them figure out that hot looking assholes are still assholes and they start caring less about the looks and more about the person inside.
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Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 12:08 am
I'm only 6', pale skinned since I'm a Brit, I have white hair due to some genetic disorder similar to albinism... I've always been outcasted, called "emo" and whatnot. I don't quite get it either. But hey, when someone likes you for who you are, not what stereotypes you best fit in for, then that girl is someone you should keep with. Try finding someone who likes you for... you.
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Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 1:43 am
As a girl dating a 6'5'' nerdy guy, I can tell you this much: Personality is king :]
When I met my boyfriend, we had nothing in common at all. However, his personality was just so unique and special to me that I couldn't let the guy go. He's the sweetest, nicest person I have ever met in my life. We've been dating for nearly 4 years now too.
David2074 is right. A lot changes when you get out of school or at least when you start looking for relationships outside of school. I'm not sure what kind of area you live in, but try meeting people in an interest based hangout. For example, if you're a gamer, go to an arcade or something.
Unfortunately, in this day and age it seems like most relationships start online. If you don't have anything against long distance relationships or online dating, that's definitely a great place to try. Girls get to see your personality first.
As far as the tan, muscular part goes.. I'm not going to lie, I do find it sexy, but it's completely unrealistic. Most of these girls grew up with Ken and stories of handsome, fit princes and now that's what they want in a man.
My boyfriend did have a few points I find unattractive, but I spoke to him about it honestly and he changed them. (In case you're wondering, long hair on guys and unibrows are gross when put together). In return, I grew my hair out.
Why do you hate bending down to kiss a girl? My boyfriend loves it!
Also, if you hate your body so much, change what you can. It's not that hard to get a tan/lose a few pounds. You can still weigh a good 220 or so without being "anorexic"
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Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 7:08 am
__DX__4__Lyfe__- I want too know, fellow Gaiains and BURN members, is there anyone out there with a shred of decency? Do any of you girls find tall, 'stocky' guys attractive? Am I the only guy who doesn't give a fudge about what my girl looks like, as long as I love the person she is inside? Saying you don't care what your girl looks like is fine and all, but in reality everybody has their standards. You're just more willing to make a compromise on that, compared to other people. Look, the chances of anyone getting a long-term relationship with someone from when they're in grade school is very slim. So don't worry about it too much--what you should be worrying about is your future overall in moderation.What do I mean by "in moderation?" Some people geek out on their hobbies. Others end up being so focused on their careers. Some more are likely to end up learning useless skills and never finding what it is they want to do in life. Some others get so worried about not being able to find a partner yet they will never compromise on looks or whatever, never expose themselves to situations where they can meet said girls, never learn how to attract those girls (in a genuine manner, I don't mean being a "player") and end up losing their virginity to a prostitute. There are many skills one needs to be able to do well to "win" at life. Having a partner is about that: companionship. If you want a girl to spend the rest of her life with you, then your (shared) life better be damn good enough for her to be stuck on the same boat with you 'til death do y'all part.
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Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 8:41 am
Don't worry about finding a girlfriend at the moment. Seriously, there are things that are way more important.
Everyone has different aesthetic tastes. That, and not everyone values aesthetics more than personalities. It's easier to find girls who do outside of school, and personally, I think are easier to find when you're not strictly "looking" for them.
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Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 7:31 pm
Thanks for your advice, guys. I've nearly given up on relationships. Then I guess I can't wait for graduation...
And, sure, it might be easy to tan, but when your my size, it's kinda hard to lose weight. I've been trying but its tough.
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Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 7:47 pm
Well, let's see. Tall guys are awesome (my whole family is tall so if a guy isn't taller than me, then its hard to consider them a man...). My first boyfriend was a 6'3" heavy guy. Turned out to be an a*****e, but not the point. I guess my point is you may not be looking at the right girls. It seems the less popular people are, the more open their minds are. Oh, and everyone has their type. I like semi anorexic-looking punk boys; nothing against big guys, I just hate muscle heads So I tend to go the opposite. Good luck in your love quest, I'm sure you'll have a meet-cute soon
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Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2011 11:53 pm
HERO Lissuh Don't worry about finding a girlfriend at the moment. Seriously, there are things that are way more important.
Everyone has different aesthetic tastes. That, and not everyone values aesthetics more than personalities. It's easier to find girls who do outside of school, and personally, I think are easier to find when you're not strictly "looking" for them. I don't think I could have said it better. But, I would like to add; You're in school. When I was in school, relationships were one big popularity contest. See who could get the fittest guy, or who could bag the hottest girl. I know you would love to have a girlfriend that would accept you, for you and not because they think you're fat, ect. But think about it... How many relationships in school usually last? I know of two and that's it. One in a million. There's no harm in waiting. People change once you leave school. They're different and they don't just want you for your looks. Just... Wait, yeah? Wait it out and see what comes.
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Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 8:23 am
Well when I was in highschool, there was lots of girls and guys taller than me and I was 6 foot. Ha, I guess it's all about where you are.
Highschool really isn't a time for relationships anyway. There was very few ones that lasted longer than a month. What most people did was be a couple, have sex and then end it so they could do someone else. All the popular girls and guys must have seen each other naked I imagine.
I understand it's tough but wait it out and you'll find someone of worth. And if your body bothers you, maybe try and change that, although 250 for that height doesn't sound unhealthy
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Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2011 6:48 pm
Personality is my big selling point in a potential mate...looks and etc take a back seat xP
Personally i prefer someone with a bit of meat...im 174cm tall (around 5 foot 7 or cool and 65kg (umm i think thats around 130 pounds) i dont think i could be with someone overly skinny, i mean...bone on bone hurts >_<;
At any rate...the stereotype you described dont sound very appealing >_>
OH I know your solution...come to Australia...heaps of people i know love your body type (creeper moment xP)
But seriously...stick it out...youll find someone, probably when you least expect it <3
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Posted: Sun Aug 07, 2011 11:19 pm
@angel Maybe I should go to Australia lol.
And I know it's going to be easier to find a girl who loves me for ME after school, but when you're as lonely as I am, you'd understand. I just don't like the fact that I'm still growing and I'll be twice everyones size when I'm an adult. Bit of an overstatement, but you get it.
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Posted: Mon Aug 08, 2011 2:04 pm
__DX__4__Lyfe__- @angel Maybe I should go to Australia lol. And I know it's going to be easier to find a girl who loves me for ME after school, but when you're as lonely as I am, you'd understand. I just don't like the fact that I'm still growing and I'll be twice everyones size when I'm an adult. Bit of an overstatement, but you get it. That's not nessecarily true. I knew a bunch of people who stopped growing in highschool. I'm taller than them now.
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Posted: Mon Aug 08, 2011 7:50 pm
pirulaso __DX__4__Lyfe__- @angel Maybe I should go to Australia lol. And I know it's going to be easier to find a girl who loves me for ME after school, but when you're as lonely as I am, you'd understand. I just don't like the fact that I'm still growing and I'll be twice everyones size when I'm an adult. Bit of an overstatement, but you get it. That's not nessecarily true. I knew a bunch of people who stopped growing in highschool. I'm taller than them now. Maybe not. But I could possibly keep growing until im 21 so that gives 3 more years.
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