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 Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2011 6:18 pm
So my ex-boyfriend and I broke up last september. Since then, I've asked him not to talk to me simply because we ended badly and it'd made me feel better to have no contact with him.
It was fine for a few months, then he started talking to me again, and I'd continuously say not to talk to me.
He'd contact me through text message, facebook (which I have no blocked him), his friends' facebook, and leaving notes on my porch.
On my birthday, which was about two weeks ago, he left one of his necklaces on the tree on my front lawn along with a bottle of wine. I kindly decined the gitfs (I don't want his necklace, and i shouldn't be drinking with my medication) and told him to come get them. Since then he won't leave me alone.
On Canada Day, I was working an all-day shift at a snack bar. He texted me from his brother's phone, texting things like "prepare to make ____ a sandwich" He then came up to the counter and asked for one, after i said we dont serve them and to leave me alone.
He wouldn't leave me alone.
And just recently he contatced me again through his friends' facebook.
I'm getting sick of this, and I've told him multiople times to leave me alone.
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Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2011 6:45 pm
Im not sure if that's legally harrassment, though it should be emotionally. If anything you can get a restraining order, and if he goes against it, he'll go to prison. Good luck with your a*****e ex, hope the law works in your favor
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Posted: Tue Jul 12, 2011 7:03 pm
I would call that being a stalker scream . You should definitely get a restraining order for, like, 1 million miles or something. xd
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2011 3:00 am
Be blunt, tell him straight up to leave you alone, and emphasize that if you ever want to talk to him again, you'll be the one to contact him. If that still doesn't work, you should be able to get him a warning from law officials and perhaps a restraining order if that doesn't stop him.
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2011 2:33 pm
maui boy no ka oi Be blunt, tell him straight up to leave you alone, and emphasize that if you ever want to talk to him again, you'll be the one to contact him. If that still doesn't work, you should be able to get him a warning from law officials and perhaps a restraining order if that doesn't stop him. I've been blunt. gonk Last time I talked to him, I said if he contacted me again (in any way possible) I will call the police. The only problem is I don't think a warning from the police or anyone will stop him from doing what he's doing. He basically think he's above the law. you know, one of those people who constantly say "******** THA POLICE" 'cause they got caught drinking underage/smoking pot etcetc.
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2011 2:35 pm
Roxy Hazard Im not sure if that's legally harrassment, though it should be emotionally. If anything you can get a restraining order, and if he goes against it, he'll go to prison. Good luck with your a*****e ex, hope the law works in your favor My dad's been thinking of calling our regional police to see what to do about it. I don't see why it wouldn't work in my favour. I'm a straight-A student, don't have a criminal record, and I try to stay out of trouble. He's been on probation, broke into his old school, and steals all the time. rolleyes
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2011 2:37 pm
world walker 1734 I would call that being a stalker scream . You should definitely get a restraining order for, like, 1 million miles or something. xd The part about facebook and stuff, definitely stalking. It's creepy when he brings up things posted to my wall that only friends can see..
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2011 6:08 pm
Shannon-Jeva Roxy Hazard Im not sure if that's legally harrassment, though it should be emotionally. If anything you can get a restraining order, and if he goes against it, he'll go to prison. Good luck with your a*****e ex, hope the law works in your favor My dad's been thinking of calling our regional police to see what to do about it. I don't see why it wouldn't work in my favour. I'm a straight-A student, don't have a criminal record, and I try to stay out of trouble. He's been on probation, broke into his old school, and steals all the time. rolleyes Definitely try! I'm fairly sure they would agree to help you. Im not positive if you should speak to the police first or a lawyer for a restraining order, but its worth it. And hey, you might get his a** thrown in jail rofl
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2011 7:03 pm
Roxy Hazard Shannon-Jeva Roxy Hazard Im not sure if that's legally harrassment, though it should be emotionally. If anything you can get a restraining order, and if he goes against it, he'll go to prison. Good luck with your a*****e ex, hope the law works in your favor My dad's been thinking of calling our regional police to see what to do about it. I don't see why it wouldn't work in my favour. I'm a straight-A student, don't have a criminal record, and I try to stay out of trouble. He's been on probation, broke into his old school, and steals all the time. rolleyes Definitely try! I'm fairly sure they would agree to help you. Im not positive if you should speak to the police first or a lawyer for a restraining order, but its worth it. And hey, you might get his a** thrown in jail rofl We don't have the kind of money for a lawyer sweatdrop I've been wanting to talk to somebody about it and see what I can do. Regardless of what I do and what happens, he'll tell his friends. His friends will then probably be after me -__-
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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2011 7:45 pm
Well, if he does, then that just proves he's an a*****e. Even if you can't pay for a lawyer, you should definitely tell someone, like the police.
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Posted: Thu Jul 14, 2011 4:27 pm
Shannon-Jeva Roxy Hazard Shannon-Jeva Roxy Hazard Im not sure if that's legally harrassment, though it should be emotionally. If anything you can get a restraining order, and if he goes against it, he'll go to prison. Good luck with your a*****e ex, hope the law works in your favor My dad's been thinking of calling our regional police to see what to do about it. I don't see why it wouldn't work in my favour. I'm a straight-A student, don't have a criminal record, and I try to stay out of trouble. He's been on probation, broke into his old school, and steals all the time. rolleyes Definitely try! I'm fairly sure they would agree to help you. Im not positive if you should speak to the police first or a lawyer for a restraining order, but its worth it. And hey, you might get his a** thrown in jail rofl We don't have the kind of money for a lawyer sweatdrop I've been wanting to talk to somebody about it and see what I can do. Regardless of what I do and what happens, he'll tell his friends. His friends will then probably be after me -__- Alright then talk to the cops. And for his friends buy a gun, or a big dog twisted
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Posted: Thu Jul 14, 2011 4:30 pm
world walker 1734 Well, if he does, then that just proves he's an a*****e. Even if you can't pay for a lawyer, you should definitely tell someone, like the police. Oh I know he's an a*****e. Long before all this s**t even started. sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Jul 15, 2011 1:51 am
Key word being thinks. He can think he's above the law as much as he wants, and the fact of the matter is that everyone is. But in the end you have to suffer the consequences of any actions or inactions you take. Unless he's a complete idiot, I doubt he'll keep at it for long.
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Posted: Fri Jul 15, 2011 3:32 am
You need to go to the police. If your Dad is willing to go with you so much the better, it's another sensible voice who can back up what you are saying. The police will advise you what you are able to do with regard to restraining orders and injunctions. If you can, make a list/timeline of events before you go so that you can clearly make your case and ask to make a criminal charge against him.
Don't wait, you have given this guy more than enough warning sadly you are not left with no choice but to act, the sooner the better. I don't want to totally freak you out but often people who behave like your ex become increasingly possessive over time. Eventually they can become bitter/resentful towards the person in your position because of feelings of rejection, and there are some extreme cases where the possessive person ends up physically attacking the person they are pursuing. I am not saying this is going to happen to you, but it's not unreasonable to play safe and take steps, like going to the police for help now.
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Posted: Fri Jul 15, 2011 8:22 am
village midget You need to go to the police. If your Dad is willing to go with you so much the better, it's another sensible voice who can back up what you are saying. The police will advise you what you are able to do with regard to restraining orders and injunctions. If you can, make a list/timeline of events before you go so that you can clearly make your case and ask to make a criminal charge against him. Don't wait, you have given this guy more than enough warning sadly you are not left with no choice but to act, the sooner the better. I don't want to totally freak you out but often people who behave like your ex become increasingly possessive over time. Eventually they can become bitter/resentful towards the person in your position because of feelings of rejection, and there are some extreme cases where the possessive person ends up physically attacking the person they are pursuing. I am not saying this is going to happen to you, but it's not unreasonable to play safe and take steps, like going to the police for help now. I agree. Talk to the police now, you've already given him time to sort this out himself. Regardless of if you think it will or not work, you need to go. At the very least, it can be put on his record.
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