Stress is such a huge issue and business, costing us millions of dollars and earning professionals millions of dollars.
But it such an easy issue to solve, I know it sounds corny and full of myself, and I don’t know what I am talking about, but believe me I know exactly how difficult and harmful stress can be, it nearly killed me- almost killed myself because of stress.
It didn't take a counsellor, or therapy, or pills, or getting drunk, or even doing something outlandish and regrettable. It took a number of things to come together and when they did my world and life is so much better now with little to no stress in huge areas of my life.
Firstly I used to fuss over the chores being done the house had to be clean, neat, tidy and organised, if it wasn't I got angry, hateful, my tone of voice was aggressive, and I was someone you didn't want to be around. I realised what a horrible person I was being and how I was pushing away people I cared for deeply. I am a Christian and I actively turned to GOD and said, help me with my concerns, He said just relax, don’t worry about the chores do them when you have time, relax more, do what you like to do. As I did this, I noticed, I had more time for me, things got done, I slept better, my nightmares went away, I wasn't having any panic attacks things got better. I was living on my own and felt lonely, isolated insecure, and the chores were bugging me but not as much. So again I asked GOD and he said live with someone you trust, who will help you and you would be helping them. I discovered my cousin, whom I cherish dearly lived in the next town and wanted to get out on his own. I asked and he moved in, he has his room and does his own thing but he helps with the chores and all my stress with the chores is done, we talk and hang out, as he pays half of everything, I have extra money to spend/save. Thank you to GOD for helping me get over my stress with needing the chores to be done. My comment to you whom is reading. If chores are bothersome to you and difficult to do, get family members and friends to help they help you with your chores, you help them with yours, if you are single, get a trustworthy housemate and have house rules in place, reward the children if they help you, reward your partner if they help you - it is up to you to decide what the reward is. Another option is to find out where you are spending money unnecessarily and hire a cleaner once a week or fortnight or monthly.
Again it is up to how you eliminate the stress of cleaning from your Life.
Jealousy! Can be stressful, and create tension. Last night my boyfriend was in a very angry sad mood and it hurt me a great deal because for a short time of the night I didn't realise what was wrong, I felt so sad and uneasy. Later I found out I had seen one of my exes, and he was worried, I still had feelings for them and would go back to them and leave him. We talked and I explained my feelings towards the ex and my feelings towards my boyfriend and after I relieved him of his worry, he apologised and all was better. Do not stew on evil negative emotions, speak them out discuss them and destroy them only live in good positive emotions, less stress, more happiness.
Low self esteem and insecurity, can taint the soul and make you think so many silly things and listen to others put you down and you agree with them. It is so hard to stand your ground and be assertive but for your own happiness and the success of your life endeavours, you must ignore those that would put you down, you don't need to be prideful, or egotistical you just need to be positive about what you are good at and what you can do extremely well. Please post here if you need advice or support against those whom would put you down. I'll help as best as I can.
I've come to realise when I am stressed if I don't unwind and relax, my body shuts me down and I can’t move or do anything for a day. So I do the following things which have reduced my illness/days away from work.
1. Get 8 hours of sleep everyday - Body repairs itself, muscle relax, body releases tension, mind shuts down and relaxes
2. Drink water everyday - Cleanses the body removes toxins - be prepared to see the toilet more often.
3. Eat proper portions sizes and have Breakfast, Morning Tea, Lunch, Afternoon Tea and Dinner to avoid body going into starvation mode and using vitamins and nutrients.
4. Have a shower each morning or night, wash off the dead skin cells, and rejuvenate the body as well as promoting skin growth and healing.
5. Reduce the caffeine intake too much caffeine can leave you wired and makes the brain and body work too fast causing the body to overload itself due to excess pressure and demand being placed on the systems.
6. Have nice pictures of where you would like to travel to on your desk and a bouquet of flowers real or fake whichever has the effect of brighten your office space and making you feel happier.
7. Use eye mask at night to relax the eyes from eye strain of the day.
8. Read emails once a day at a particular time
9. Talk to people rather than send emails.
10. Exercise everyday remove your stress by pounding pavement - treadmill, Skiing slops - X trainer, speeding down street - bike, rowing away the stress - rower, beating it out - boxing
try these and let me know if your stress levels increase or decrease.
When you want your partner to do something you enjoy and they don’t want to or aren't ready to. Don’t get angry, Don't stomp about, Don't ignore them, and DON'T tell them nothing is wrong.
Sit down explain how you feel, let them explain how they feel, make compromises, start of with little things eg.
They get you to the event and you get yourself home
They get you to and from the event
They get you to the event, stay for 5 mins then get you home
Build up from there until they are there for the whole event and you are going there together, participating and coming home together.
Be prepared, that they may not like it and it may just have to be a personal interest and quality time on your own, to experience that event and thoroughly enjoy it.
Don't let that cause stress in your life or relationship, the enemy loves making you feel that way, so don't give the enemy power, compromise and enjoy the things you do share together.
