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Well, some of my former freinds used to talk about certain subjects such as that. They tried to include me in their conversations a few times by asking about my views on this or that. When they heard what I had said, they were so "mortified" that I could hold such high standards. I told them that it wasn't a problem for me. They just laughed me off, saying that I couldn't get laid (and this was at a PRIVATE CHRISTIAN SCHOOL). My personal views, although slightly biased by the fact that I'm a Christian, are that virginity should be kept until a marraige is commiserated. besides that, though, it's really nt all that logical to have sex before marraige, because there are the possibilities of STDs and pregnancy, which most teens can't handle, even though they think they can.

Finally, someone to actually say that! I don't think I've ever heard anyone say that before about my views. Yeah, I know. It baffles me how they are even able to sleep at night. I wouldn't be able to if I was like that, but it isn't like they're going to change at the tip of a hat.

*raises hand* Official ugly person, right here. I couldn't get laid even if I wanted to, which, of course, doesn't bother me one teen tiny little miniscule bit. mrgreen

Well, I'm only sixteen. To everyone else, my opinions probably aren't that credible; I'm only waiting 'til I grow older so more people will listen to me.

I think that virginity is highly desirable--at least to asexuals. Maybe not to others. Sex is appealing, yes, but it appeals more to some than others. I guess that sex completely rules some peoples' lives; to them, the price of virginity is a bargain.

I really think it depends on a lot of factors of culture. Location, Religion, Class, Upbringing, School Type, Career... a lot of these factor into who we are and who our neighbors are and such. There ARE still groups out there where virginity is held up on a pedestal of sorts. Just like there are groups out there where it's incredibly uncool to be a virgin. And there are groups that don't care.

In my experience (I'm 22... in college... in Nebraska) it seems those of my parents' age still hold virginity up to be a higher value, and my grandparents even more so. Though it seems a lot of the parents nowadays are at least accepting that their child may have lost his/her virginity (on the flipside, my grandma was incredibly upset and almost angry when my cousin had a son without being married).

It seems that sex gets the most attention in the highschools, and (somewhat sadly) even the middle schools. Granted, that's a natural time of exploring and discovery and hormones and everything, but it's like, high schoolers are so wrapped up in sex this and sex that and what's sexy. Regardless of whether a person is actually HAVING sex, sex is a big deal. It's major gossip of who's with who and who's done what and did you hear?

Wereas, in my college experience, people generally don't care as much. It's like, Okay, you've had sex, big deal. Okay, you haven't had sex... big deal. Let's talk about more important things now.

Though I guess maybe I've been fortunate that most of my friends don't care about sex that much... or at least don't gossip about it. We know it happens, we know some of us do it regularly, and some do it rarely or never. But our world doesn't revolve around it.

We'd rather play video games when we're together than focus on sex.

That's probably true.

You get past the "OMG SEX!" stage. Though I'm not sure if "curious" is the right word to describe some of today's high schoolers... in some ways, it seems too tame. But maybe I'm just pessimistic.

I think you're lucky. I'm the same age as you, twenty two, and while most of the people I hang out with don't treat it as a big deal I do get a lot of unfortunate reactions as well, everything from stares to quiet hushes to friends talking behind backs about things like "they've been going together for "insert amount of time" and she's still holding out?!"

But actually, I was really glad you replied with that because I was worried that the world really had gone mad. I don't really care too much, the people I hang out with, for the most part, are really cool and considerate, but yeah... I think because in highschool it wasn't a big deal, I was surprised it became one in college.

Virgins are made fun of as nerds and prudes as far as I can see. neutral People are forced to say "I'm waiting until marriage because of my religion/beliefs" to get any respect for it at all, and even then they're sometimes laughed at.

Twenty or thirty years ago it was quite a lot different though, and a lot of societies value virginity in women (it's pretty ignored in men).

I don't see what having sex has to do with being "pure" or not personally. rolleyes

Video games definitely > sex for a good time. mrgreen