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 Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 9:00 pm
At what point...can you say you are no longer friends with someone? because I think I have all the reason in the world to get rid of my best friend of 4 years and every one in her family(not murder lol)
Long story short, I tried to contact her because my mom ended up in the hopital in intensive care breathing through a tube, I felt she was ignoring me and I thought she would want to know. so I sent her a message saying she basically didn't care about me ect. she completely flips out on me and she obviously doesn't care by what she said. Her mom sent me a message on facebook and it's mostly none of her business and they tried to drag my bf into it when he never did anything wrong and he stayed up an entire night for me to call him when I would cry hysterically because I was worried about my mom, and they accuse him of not caring.
I just really want opinions but the measures I've taken are I deleted her from all the websites I had her as a friend on, and on face book blocked a few people and removed all of the tags of her in my photos, deleted ones of me and her and removed my tags from their photos. I really don't care if I ever see her again. what do you guys think? try and fix things? or forget about her? and she accuses me of flipping out on her first when it didn't sound like that at all in the message I sent.
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Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 9:44 pm
Honesty; it's
black and white I have kinda the same thing going on. Forget about it unless she apologizes. Like, really apologizes. If I had a favorite,
You know I'd lie.
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 3:08 am
You are the apple...
How many times did you try to contact her before you sent this message?
And the way a message comes off can be subjective. You, as the writer, might not see it as attacking or whatever, but the reader might. I'd have to see your original message to see if the friend's saying you freaked out is justified or not.
and I am your core.
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 5:27 am
I sent her a message over facebook, multiple IMs over yahoo chat thing, myyearbook, and the last one vampire freaks. and here is the message
"or don't talk to me, I see how much I matter. oh and btw mom is in the hospital still with a high heart rate and she is now in Burlington. But if you really don't want to talk to me don't bother to reply."
she replied with
"dude i just called you. i understand that youre upset but dont freak on me please. i just woke up and got all your messages. i wasnt ignoring you. im not always online when it says i am,"
Then I said
"I'm at my grandma's because everyone else is in Burlington, and no I sent u a message on myyearbook and u read it then got offline,"
her:
"I'm done with the bullshit. I'm fed up with it. Why don't you go run to your boyfriend who cares so much and makes you feel like s**t all the time. Don't come crying to me next time he pisses you off or starts his s**t with you cuz I'm done. I have my own problems. I don't need to deal with yours."
I never gave her the # to my grandma's house before and her mom thought that I was mad at her for not calling my grandmas, I deleted the message on facebook because it makes me sick to look at it because I go on facebook quite often and I don't have to look a message some1 sent when they don't have the full story but her mom if I remember right sent some thing like "your boyfriend is bad, me and your mom have told you, he is no good for you." ok ya me him have had problems but that was mostly because well face it I'm still growing up and so is he and things have gotten way better. I only told her things because I thought she would want to know what's going on so she won't have to ask later and feel bad for not saying anything.
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 5:27 pm
Mephistopheles says:
Dear Lady, you said that you were freaked out cuz your mom was in the hospital and she didn't talk so she freaks out? You needed someone to lean on, and she wasn't there. Her mom shouldn't have come into it, and trying to drag your bf into this is just overkill.
But even so, she was sleeping, which was shy she didn't reply. You were freaked out, so you overreacted, but in that state, it's understandable. For her to not see that you've got a lot of stress and worry talking and reply that she's done with the bullshit shows that she's not much of a friend. Yes, you and your bf are growing up, hence your problems here and there, but she went overboard and needs to do some sincere apologizing in person.
For now, though, she was acting like a total idiot and deserves for this friendship to be cut until she forgives.
Don't worry~she's always like that
Lady Kitalpha Hart
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 6:55 pm
I wasn't freaking out, I was more sad because it said she was online and that's how it felt like she was ignoring me, if anything she should learn to turn off her ipod which has the apps to the webtises that said she was online
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 6:59 pm
It seems you've already decided, at least subconsciously, that you dont want her in your life. You are already actively moving away from her and her family. If you're looking for confirmation in your actions, Id say you have a right to move away if you aren't happy the way things are.
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 9:57 pm
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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2011 4:53 pm
well if shes the kind of person who's so immature that she has to go crying to her mommy about a fight she's having with a friend then i dont think u should have been friends with her to begin with. now first i would consider how much ur friendship really means to her and then what it means to u. i mean i realize 4 years is a long time but in my book its not long coz im only 14 and i've been friends with my best friend for 8 years. then if its worth it try and sit down and talk to her. if she's still being mean then tell her off already. don't let her win and be the one to end ur friendship, do it urself! it'll bring at least some joy so see cry. or at least it would make me happy.
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Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2011 7:57 am
lol ya, I agree. I only told my mom about what happened. I didn't have anyone in my family say anything to her. One time she was so worried about losing me as a friend she cried like as if her bf broke up with her. But I'm sure if she really did care she already cried about it and that thought makes me happy smile
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Posted: Wed Jul 06, 2011 12:30 pm
Just talk to her?
I get that it was a bad reaction, but sometimes people have reasons for not being able to deal with these things well. Maybe she was sleeping, and then when she heard from you she was upset because she may very well actually care. If she's close with her mom and she was upset, then her mom could've gotten involved just because of that. It's a lot of drama that was unnecessary but I don't see this as such a terrible thing on her part. Distasteful and really poorly dealt with, but I wouldn't give up on someone for that alone, especially someone I call my best friend.
It's your call. But I would give her another chance and let her explain herself before I made a choice to simply cut her out. Communication is a good thing.
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Posted: Wed Jul 06, 2011 1:30 pm
From what I can see, you are in a bad position to make a call like that.
Before you cut her off completely calm down a little bit and talk it over. It always sucks to lose a best friend, even if you guys were drifting apart.
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Posted: Thu Jul 07, 2011 10:27 pm
Here is an ex best friend story for you.
I had a best friend for 8 years and I ended our friendship because when she refused to come to my bday party when I said I was mad at her for not coming she did nothing but antagonize me and harass me and try to make me feel bad. But she also had a history of lying to me, sleeping with some of my exes and being a huge drama queen. To this day she still thinks I ended our friendship over a party.
But I will tell you this...think about it before you do it so you have no regrets. I don't regret my decision but for the longest time I used to wonder if I did the wrong thing...then when she started stalking me I knew I did.
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:12 am
Well let's just say when she sexted someone it was in my house and whenever she told any other guy besides her bf than she loved them she always came crying to me like I'm a conveinience to her and never talking to me because she is texting other guys and she never listens to me. Recently I've ben having problems because of my bofriends ex, and this guy I had been talking to really likes me so my friend took it upon herself not even knowing the full story told him "She needs a guy like you". I have talked to her but I don't really have intentions of making up that fast because whenever I go to her house I feel ignored and yes I have brought it to her attention but she just doesn't seem to care. And one time last summer when I spent the night she went to summer school, she gets home and goes to her bfs house to spend the night, I'm the one trying to avoid getting hurt, because right now I cannot handle it.
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