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 Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2011 8:45 am
So technically, I guess you could say I'm still in the closet. Well, to my family members at least; the majority of my friends already know I'm gay.
Thing is, I don't know too many gay people. And the ones that I do, I don't hang around too often. I know I am gay but it's like I don't know how to be gay. I don't want to, but I feel like I'm being, I wouldn't say harassed, more like teased about not knowing what clothes go with what, why I don't have that "gay" accent, how to put on make-up, why I don't watch Jersey Shore, acting all flamboyant, etc. I'm not saying all this to offend anyone (I know that not every homosexual person does these things) but this is what some of the ignorant people I know believe.
I don't want to nor do I like being placed in what people believe is the general stereotype for homosexual people. I see it as: Just because I'm gay, doesn't mean I do [etc] or wear [etc] or act [etc]. It especially bothers me when they start asking me dumb or personal questions just because I'm gay. Questions like: What is pansexual? Why do you like guys? What does it feel like to have someone's thing up your butt? Would you turn straight if [this happened]? It usually bothers me mostly because I don't know how to respond.
Anyway, I didn't mean to go on and on. And because I went on and on, I actually forgot my entire reason for making this post. Ugh. I guess you can just respond to this post in anyway you (the reader) feel appropriate.
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Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2011 8:59 am
Archestra Peiyrui I know I am gay but it's like I don't know how to be gay. I don't want to, but I feel like I'm being, I wouldn't say harassed, more like teased about not knowing what clothes go with what, why I don't have that "gay" accent, how to put on make-up, why I don't watch Jersey Shore, acting all flamboyant, etc. I'm not saying all this to offend anyone (I know that not every homosexual person does these things) but this is what some of the ignorant people I know believe. There's popular LGBT culture and the stereotypes that go with it, and then there's being yourself. Any group fits this really- so if you're not the stereotype- that's ok and you don't have to feel bad about that. heart Quote: It usually bothers me mostly because I don't know how to respond. I recommend honesty- "You're making me uncomfortable with your stereotypes and the personal questions. I don't disrespect you by treating you like a mouthpiece for all Straight People, please don't do this to me- it's not ok." Good luck. heart
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Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2011 9:30 am
Esiris I recommend honesty- "You're making me uncomfortable with your stereotypes and the personal questions. I don't disrespect you by treating you like a mouthpiece for all Straight People, please don't do this to me- it's not ok." Good luck. heart
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Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2011 9:46 am
Archestra Peiyrui Of course. How right of me to forget the most obvious thing to do :< Just because it's right- that doesn't mean it is always easy.
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Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2011 12:44 pm
Just be you. :T Don't worry about what people want to you be.
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Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2011 5:24 pm
just be yourself bro, your community loves you no matter what.
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Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2011 11:09 pm
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
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Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2011 2:09 am
Honestly, I'm a very self-conscious person, so this "gay guy" everyone seems to want me to be, I feel as if I should become that kind of person :<
Around new people, I'm very timid and shy, and to me, first impressions really do count. And seconds, and thirds. I'm always going crazy about what I should wear in the morning, and would regularly get into random, unnecessary, and unprovoked arguments with my mother about it.
I'm always thinking: Are my thighs too big? Is my belly sticking out? (I have a pretty flat belly to begin with). Are my elbows showing? Are my ankles showing? Is my hair sticking up in the back? I brushed my teeth but they still feel gross, should I brush them again? Is it time to clean up my eyebrows yet? Are my nails getting too long? Does this shirt match with these shoes and these pants?
I'm always, always, always thinking about these things. Sometimes, I even forget to breathe when I become physically aware of it, and get afraid that I'm breathing too heavy. Sometimes, I just forget to breathe altogether. And now with this whole fiasco of me not being gay enough. Truthfully, I like it when people mistake me for a straight guy (I'm pretty straight in terms of appearance, at least), but it's just for those who know or find out that I am gay.
I might be starting to sound like someone with a mental disorder, but trust me, I don't let these things run or ruin my life. I'm actually perfectly fine. these things just sometimes get in the way.
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Posted: Mon Jun 06, 2011 2:23 am
Archestra Peiyrui So technically, I guess you could say I'm still in the closet. Well, to my family members at least; the majority of my friends already know I'm gay.
Thing is, I don't know too many gay people. And the ones that I do, I don't hang around too often. I know I am gay but it's like I don't know how to be gay. I don't want to, but I feel like I'm being, I wouldn't say harassed, more like teased about not knowing what clothes go with what, why I don't have that "gay" accent, how to put on make-up, why I don't watch Jersey Shore, acting all flamboyant, etc. I'm not saying all this to offend anyone (I know that not every homosexual person does these things) but this is what some of the ignorant people I know believe.
I don't want to nor do I like being placed in what people believe is the general stereotype for homosexual people. I see it as: Just because I'm gay, doesn't mean I do [etc] or wear [etc] or act [etc]. It especially bothers me when they start asking me dumb or personal questions just because I'm gay. Questions like: What is pansexual? Why do you like guys? What does it feel like to have someone's thing up your butt? Would you turn straight if [this happened]? It usually bothers me mostly because I don't know how to respond.
Anyway, I didn't mean to go on and on. And because I went on and on, I actually forgot my entire reason for making this post. Ugh. I guess you can just respond to this post in anyway you (the reader) feel appropriate. i say being gay is just liking guys instead of girls.and the rest is just being you and how ever you normally act and you not going to have a accent just because you are gay and you where what you normally would wear to me there is no such thing as acting gay all it is is liking guys and the rest depends on the person
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