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 Posted: Wed Apr 27, 2011 4:02 pm
Well here's the thing...............My senior prom is coming up so I decided to grow some cojones and asked this girl to prom. She a friend of a friend, and I've talked to her a couple of times, so I only know so much about her. Well anyways, when I asked her if she wanted to go, she said that she would and she did want to go but her mom is iffy about the whole prom deal, so she can't go. Well a couple of friends of mine asked me what she said, I told them, and they said that I should ask her that if I talk to her mom, does she think it will help. I'm really not sure if I should do this or not. So what I'm trying to get at is what would you suggest I do?
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Posted: Wed Apr 27, 2011 10:15 pm
Talk to her and see if you can talk to her mom, make sure it's okay with her first though.
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Posted: Wed Apr 27, 2011 10:18 pm
Midnight Shadows Strike Talk to her and see if you can talk to her mom, make sure it's okay with her first though.
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Posted: Wed Apr 27, 2011 10:26 pm
Locks and Bagels Midnight Shadows Strike Talk to her and see if you can talk to her mom, make sure it's okay with her first though. moms love guys who are willing to meet and talk with them. i agree with both of these guys, just ask very politely and tell her your plans for the night. agree on a time that you will be home by and if she says no, don't argue. just say thank you for listening and cut your losses, it will have a big impression on the mom and you might be able to go out with the girl later. i know you probably won't believe me (XD) but prom isn't everything, there will be other dances other chances to go out. let her mom get used to the idea and try again next time
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 2:36 am
sweatdrop And now I will throw in a pessimists point of view.
Everyone has a point at being polite and a gentleman towards asking her mom. Not only that but it will show her mom that you have courage enough to walk straight up to her and discuss an evening with her daughter. That's would be a bonus in my book, if I were a parent.
But what if this mother is adamant? What if she doesn't want her kiddo even THINKING about men until waaaay after college? What if her mother, being wise as she has experienced a lot more than anyone in high school, knows about the raging hormones in a young man?
I'm not bringing up these questions to discourage you. Far from it. In fact I'm rooting for you. But these are questions to ponder on when talking with her mother.
wink But lets try arranging a meeting with your dates mother. While you can be straight forward and march up like a soldier on a mission, well that will show how determined you are, but doesn't give much on showing the kind of gentleman you can be with her daughter. biggrin So I propose either a lunch date or a dinner date with her mother, and possibly her. Table manners may be a plus on landing you that evening. Not only that but you could then strike up some nice conversation about random topics letting the mom know your opinions and views on things. Make tasteful jokes too. Good humor is always a plus.
sweatdrop Now mind you I am no longer in high school, so all this advice I shared can be scrapped. But do keep in mind that you are a young man asking a mothers child for a date. I know I would be protective of my kids.
I hope this may help toward your goal! If not... stare ...there's always a violent approach...
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 12:40 pm
I want to do this, but idk about the whole lunch thing that you suggested. I was going to ask her today, but when I thought about it and went to ask, I felt sick to my stomach and wimped out. I know that I have to be a gentleman about things, but I also don't want to put extra pressure on here by asking if she would mind me talking to her mom. When it comes to these types of situations, I usually sit back and take the high road because of..........I guess you could call it being scared.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:13 pm
Hobo_Hunter_1 I want to do this, but idk about the whole lunch thing that you suggested. I was going to ask her today, but when I thought about it and went to ask, I felt sick to my stomach and wimped out. I know that I have to be a gentleman about things, but I also don't want to put extra pressure on here by asking if she would mind me talking to her mom. When it comes to these types of situations, I usually sit back and take the high road because of..........I guess you could call it being scared. I was like that too until I started having to be a part of customer service. Don't be scared just because her mom MIGHT say "No". I'm sure you have heard this before but I'll be the broken record like my dad and repeat it. "It's better find out what happens then think about what could have been." Or something along those lines. wink I'm sure her mom won't refuse if you approach her directly. Just be up front and slightly assertive.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:19 pm
tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 I want to do this, but idk about the whole lunch thing that you suggested. I was going to ask her today, but when I thought about it and went to ask, I felt sick to my stomach and wimped out. I know that I have to be a gentleman about things, but I also don't want to put extra pressure on here by asking if she would mind me talking to her mom. When it comes to these types of situations, I usually sit back and take the high road because of..........I guess you could call it being scared. I was like that too until I started having to be a part of customer service. Don't be scared just because her mom MIGHT say "No". I'm sure you have heard this before but I'll be the broken record like my dad and repeat it. "It's better find out what happens then think about what could have been." Or something along those lines. wink I'm sure her mom won't refuse if you approach her directly. Just be up front and slightly assertive. It's not asking her mom that I'm afraid of, it's asking her. I only get like this when I have to ask someone something in person.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:37 pm
Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 I want to do this, but idk about the whole lunch thing that you suggested. I was going to ask her today, but when I thought about it and went to ask, I felt sick to my stomach and wimped out. I know that I have to be a gentleman about things, but I also don't want to put extra pressure on here by asking if she would mind me talking to her mom. When it comes to these types of situations, I usually sit back and take the high road because of..........I guess you could call it being scared. I was like that too until I started having to be a part of customer service. Don't be scared just because her mom MIGHT say "No". I'm sure you have heard this before but I'll be the broken record like my dad and repeat it. "It's better find out what happens then think about what could have been." Or something along those lines. wink I'm sure her mom won't refuse if you approach her directly. Just be up front and slightly assertive. It's not asking her mom that I'm afraid of, it's asking her. I only get like this when I have to ask someone something in person. Oh do I have this backwards...Well not the first time its happened. I thought you already asked your lady friend to prom?
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:42 pm
tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 I want to do this, but idk about the whole lunch thing that you suggested. I was going to ask her today, but when I thought about it and went to ask, I felt sick to my stomach and wimped out. I know that I have to be a gentleman about things, but I also don't want to put extra pressure on here by asking if she would mind me talking to her mom. When it comes to these types of situations, I usually sit back and take the high road because of..........I guess you could call it being scared. I was like that too until I started having to be a part of customer service. Don't be scared just because her mom MIGHT say "No". I'm sure you have heard this before but I'll be the broken record like my dad and repeat it. "It's better find out what happens then think about what could have been." Or something along those lines. wink I'm sure her mom won't refuse if you approach her directly. Just be up front and slightly assertive. It's not asking her mom that I'm afraid of, it's asking her. I only get like this when I have to ask someone something in person. Oh do I have this backwards...Well not the first time its happened. I thought you already asked your lady friend to prom? Ok, I'm going to try to clear up the confusion. I did ask her to prom. That took alot out of me, because I'm a very shy and nervous person. I tend to never ask girls on dates or anything, and when I do I get really nervous to where I can barely ask them. What I'm afraid of is to ask her if she would like for me to talk to her mom about her going with me. I'll talk to the mom with no problem.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:54 pm
Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 I want to do this, but idk about the whole lunch thing that you suggested. I was going to ask her today, but when I thought about it and went to ask, I felt sick to my stomach and wimped out. I know that I have to be a gentleman about things, but I also don't want to put extra pressure on here by asking if she would mind me talking to her mom. When it comes to these types of situations, I usually sit back and take the high road because of..........I guess you could call it being scared. I was like that too until I started having to be a part of customer service. Don't be scared just because her mom MIGHT say "No". I'm sure you have heard this before but I'll be the broken record like my dad and repeat it. "It's better find out what happens then think about what could have been." Or something along those lines. wink I'm sure her mom won't refuse if you approach her directly. Just be up front and slightly assertive. It's not asking her mom that I'm afraid of, it's asking her. I only get like this when I have to ask someone something in person. Oh do I have this backwards...Well not the first time its happened. I thought you already asked your lady friend to prom? Ok, I'm going to try to clear up the confusion. I did ask her to prom. That took alot out of me, because I'm a very shy and nervous person. I tend to never ask girls on dates or anything, and when I do I get really nervous to where I can barely ask them. What I'm afraid of is to ask her if she would like for me to talk to her mom about her going with me. I'll talk to the mom with no problem. Ok I get it. neutral Well I'm going to be rather masculine about this. Not to sound rude but, man up and ask that fine lady out! If you don't someone else will, then your chance will be blown. neutral But I do how nervousness and anxieties can affect a person. Just deep breath and ask her. So what if you stutter or stumble on your words. It may be even be a good thing cause you are having to work up so much courage to ask her out. wink So go get 'em tiger.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:56 pm
tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 I want to do this, but idk about the whole lunch thing that you suggested. I was going to ask her today, but when I thought about it and went to ask, I felt sick to my stomach and wimped out. I know that I have to be a gentleman about things, but I also don't want to put extra pressure on here by asking if she would mind me talking to her mom. When it comes to these types of situations, I usually sit back and take the high road because of..........I guess you could call it being scared. I was like that too until I started having to be a part of customer service. Don't be scared just because her mom MIGHT say "No". I'm sure you have heard this before but I'll be the broken record like my dad and repeat it. "It's better find out what happens then think about what could have been." Or something along those lines. wink I'm sure her mom won't refuse if you approach her directly. Just be up front and slightly assertive. It's not asking her mom that I'm afraid of, it's asking her. I only get like this when I have to ask someone something in person. Oh do I have this backwards...Well not the first time its happened. I thought you already asked your lady friend to prom? Ok, I'm going to try to clear up the confusion. I did ask her to prom. That took alot out of me, because I'm a very shy and nervous person. I tend to never ask girls on dates or anything, and when I do I get really nervous to where I can barely ask them. What I'm afraid of is to ask her if she would like for me to talk to her mom about her going with me. I'll talk to the mom with no problem. Ok I get it. neutral Well I'm going to be rather masculine about this. Not to sound rude but, man up and ask that fine lady out! If you don't someone else will, then your chance will be blown. neutral But I do how nervousness and anxieties can affect a person. Just deep breath and ask her. So what if you stutter or stumble on your words. It may be even be a good thing cause you are having to work up so much courage to ask her out. wink So go get 'em tiger. That's a good way of putting it. Ok one more question, what if I send an email or something if I don't have the courage.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:59 pm
Midnight Shadows Strike Talk to her and see if you can talk to her mom, make sure it's okay with her first though. this but it would take more cajones to talk to a dad with a shotgun by a door ... just saying not to be mean or nothing
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 4:03 pm
Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 It's not asking her mom that I'm afraid of, it's asking her. I only get like this when I have to ask someone something in person. Oh do I have this backwards...Well not the first time its happened. I thought you already asked your lady friend to prom? Ok, I'm going to try to clear up the confusion. I did ask her to prom. That took alot out of me, because I'm a very shy and nervous person. I tend to never ask girls on dates or anything, and when I do I get really nervous to where I can barely ask them. What I'm afraid of is to ask her if she would like for me to talk to her mom about her going with me. I'll talk to the mom with no problem. Ok I get it. neutral Well I'm going to be rather masculine about this. Not to sound rude but, man up and ask that fine lady out! If you don't someone else will, then your chance will be blown. neutral But I do how nervousness and anxieties can affect a person. Just deep breath and ask her. So what if you stutter or stumble on your words. It may be even be a good thing cause you are having to work up so much courage to ask her out. wink So go get 'em tiger. That's a good way of putting it. Ok one more question, what if I send an email or something if I don't have the courage. You CAN but I don't see it being a good idea if you are trying to win her affection. wink Face to face has a higher chance of success! Plus it may raise your courage for future events like these.
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Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 4:08 pm
tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 tina138 Hobo_Hunter_1 It's not asking her mom that I'm afraid of, it's asking her. I only get like this when I have to ask someone something in person. Oh do I have this backwards...Well not the first time its happened. I thought you already asked your lady friend to prom? Ok, I'm going to try to clear up the confusion. I did ask her to prom. That took alot out of me, because I'm a very shy and nervous person. I tend to never ask girls on dates or anything, and when I do I get really nervous to where I can barely ask them. What I'm afraid of is to ask her if she would like for me to talk to her mom about her going with me. I'll talk to the mom with no problem. Ok I get it. neutral Well I'm going to be rather masculine about this. Not to sound rude but, man up and ask that fine lady out! If you don't someone else will, then your chance will be blown. neutral But I do how nervousness and anxieties can affect a person. Just deep breath and ask her. So what if you stutter or stumble on your words. It may be even be a good thing cause you are having to work up so much courage to ask her out. wink So go get 'em tiger. That's a good way of putting it. Ok one more question, what if I send an email or something if I don't have the courage. You CAN but I don't see it being a good idea if you are trying to win her affection. wink Face to face has a higher chance of success! Alright, I'll ask her tomorrow biggrin . The worst that she can say is no about talking to her mom. I thought about what I would say if I talk to her mom, and I think it sounds pretty good. Thanks for the help. I'm glad that I'm not the only one that gets nervous or anxious about things. I'll keep ya posted and let you know what happens.
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