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 Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 10:11 pm
I barely eat at work. But the other day I decided to eat lunch there, while I was eating lunch (a tuna sandwich and some cheetos) one of the elderly ladies I work with come in a say, "You know you really don't need to be eating that the cafeteria also has salads and soups. Also did you know that the hospital gives discount at some gyms." And know when ever I am earshot she is sure to mention anything that she sees. "Those colors should not be worn by a person your size" "That shirt looks to small on you" Mind you I work in a pharmacy and wear business attire and the brightest color I wear is mauve. I am 19 and in a stable job and am perfectly happy with the person I am that includes the way I look. How can I deal with people like this? I work with her practically everyday. Does anyone out there have a similuar problem? Help!?!?!?! gonk
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 10:21 pm
When I used to work in retail this woman would always sit next to me in the cafeteria and tell me what's in the food I am eating and if I want to lose weight I shouldn't eat what I was. Usually it would consist of an engery drink, a possiable candy bar (if I was on my period) and a small box of salad. I go to the gym and do yoga. So finally I just said; "Look, I appreciate the helpful tips you give to me and I welcome them as a different idea, but this is what I eat and how I like to live my life. If it bothers you leave. "
So really, let her know to be quite, just do it politely. You shouldn't have to put up with that so be asserted at work. 3nodding Hope I helped.
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 10:27 pm
See I tried asking her to stop I said I really appreciate the fact that you are trying to be helpful but this is the way that i am choosing to dress and eat And i would apreciate it if you would stop critsizing me. And it hasn't worked. I even talked to my boss.
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 10:32 pm
Try avoiding her? If nothing is being done just ignore her or critize her back. (if you feel that necessary.)
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 10:58 pm
(all said with sycophantic pleasantness)
"you know, you should really wear more whites to offset the corpse-like color of your skin."
"You really shouldn't walk so slowly. You need to hurry up! Not much time left to live is their granny?"
"High cholesterol? Well honey by the time I have to worry about heart attacks you'll be dead."
"You know what? Maybe you could just try talking in a gentler tone of voice to disguise the fact that you're a snappy, egotistical old b***h."
"Well dear you really shouldn't were all that jewelry, somebody will think there's a reanimated mummy lose in the pharmacy."
Alright, those are harsh, but there are also some other options.
One is the "glaring spite" approach. When she tells you what not to eat, nod thoughtfully, then shove the biggest wad of chocolate you can fit in your mouth (you should always keep some Emergency Chocolate ready). Try adding in some soda and timing things so you can belch directly at her in response to her suggestions.
Granted, these might not work, but they sure as hell will be satisfying.
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Posted: Sun Feb 05, 2006 3:37 pm
Fuzzy Necromancer Granted, these might not work, but they sure as hell will be satisfying. I agree with you there. And what that woman was saying to you, Sondram, sounded like something my grandmother would say.. that evil little.....
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Posted: Sun Feb 05, 2006 5:34 pm
sondram See I tried asking her to stop I said I really appreciate the fact that you are trying to be helpful but this is the way that i am choosing to dress and eat And i would apreciate it if you would stop critsizing me. And it hasn't worked. I even talked to my boss. Then look at her with light contempt and tell her that you tried being nice to her but you want her to back off and leave you alone. You don't appreicate her criticizing you and if it doesn't stop you might have to be rude. You are bothering me and although I know you mean well you are are only being annoying and nosey. Thank you...but no thank you. ^_^ And follow up with some of Fuzzy's suggestions if she persists. You warned her you might have to get rude.
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Posted: Mon Feb 06, 2006 5:21 pm
I wouldn't go to the extreme of name calling or insult slinging (though it would be VERY satisfying). You don't want to degrade yourself to a grade-schooler. Just politely remind the woman that you have asked her several times to refrain from making comments of that nature and that if she persists to make such rude and discriminatory comments to you, then you will just have to lodge a complaint against her with Human Resources (it sounds like your boss isn't doing anything, so you may have to hop over their heads). If she is not walking up to skinny people and saying things like this to them, then it is obvious that she is discriminating against you based on your weight. Then take out a pad of paper and write down exactly what she said, the date, and time, and tell her that you're going to start keeping a log of what she's saying to you so that you'll have evidence to back up your claim.
Sometimes fighting through the official company channels can be meaner and dirtier than just hurling insults... twisted
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Posted: Mon Feb 06, 2006 6:29 pm
serenaplacid I wouldn't go to the extreme of name calling or insult slinging (though it would be VERY satisfying). You don't want to degrade yourself to a grade-schooler. Just politely remind the woman that you have asked her several times to refrain from making comments of that nature and that if she persists to make such rude and discriminatory comments to you, then you will just have to lodge a complaint against her with Human Resources (it sounds like your boss isn't doing anything, so you may have to hop over their heads). If she is not walking up to skinny people and saying things like this to them, then it is obvious that she is discriminating against you based on your weight. Then take out a pad of paper and write down exactly what she said, the date, and time, and tell her that you're going to start keeping a log of what she's saying to you so that you'll have evidence to back up your claim. Sometimes fighting through the official company channels can be meaner and dirtier than just hurling insults... twisted OO! Thats good twisted
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Posted: Thu Feb 09, 2006 1:43 pm
i used to have a simalar problem, people were always having goes at me about my weight and making me feel bad about myself even though i was happy with the way i was. i lost alot of weight recently and it finaly stopped. i did lose weight for the wrong reasons though. its a shame that people are so negative about larger people, coz larger poeple are often way nicer and kinder than really really skinny ones.
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