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Propose? Help please!

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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 5:53 pm

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I've been thinking really hard lately about proposing to my girlfriend (and I am a girl). I'm 22 and she's almost 23, and we've been together for 3 years. It's been a bit of an on-off relationship, but we've managed to stick together at least as roommates and friends for those 3 years, and been dating for plenty of that time to. We're both on the swinging side, and we are each others first steady lasting relationship. Even though I tend to think more with my vigie than with my brain, I feel in my heart such a beautiful feeling when I'm around her, it almost hurts. I want us to be as close as possible, and I don't want to loose her to anyone. I'm almost certain she feels the same as me in that way by the vibes I get from her, and the way she looks at me. But I don't know if we're really ready. I really want to ask her, but I'm scarred that it may not work out, that we still have a way to grow that will pull us apart.
So, do you think I should wait, or just go with it?
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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 6:53 pm

I say you should wait a bit. You even said yourself that you're not sure if you're ready...

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Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 7:05 pm

I don't really know what to say, because I don't know everything... but I can give a piece of advice

I proposed to my first steady girlfriend... and my reasons for doing so sound similar to what you just discribed. The thing is, though, that for a relationship to last, it needs to be based on something more solid than feelings. I learned that the hard way. ones feelings are very ficcal, and so, when thigs get bad, and the feelings aren't there, is there something elts there to sustain your relationship untill the feelings for each other come back... I hope that makes sense

Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 12:33 pm

That's true, there is alot that goes into a relationship besides attraction and compatibility.

Are you guys in college? Do either of you eventually plan to move to another area? Would you be able to follow? just logistical stuff, I dunno, I'm a realist.

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Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 5:27 pm

I can't stress this enough, Mrriage is a serious commitment. it is saying that you are ready to spend the REST OF YOUR LIVES together. no matter what happens. no matter how bad it gets.

that is serious, and not enough people take it as seriously as it is.

now, that said, ifyou have ANY doubt at all... you should wait. don't do it just yet. be 110% sure before you get down on one knee.

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