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back again. It's....the EX! Now, if you've managed to follow my love life (or lack there of) congrats, but a quick recap. Ex number 1 I posted about when we first broke up cause I was worried about working with him, and I wanted to stay friends but wasn't sure if I could because he was my first love. (and first LOVE, if you catch my drift wink )

Then I hooked up with Ex num 2 and wrote about him cause he made up a retarded excuse for dumping me, something about, his career in the army when he graduates his training in like THREE YEARS and it being to difficult to work when that happens...in three years stare

Right so then I mentioned how ex num 1, who did at first break it off in a text, probably cheated on me, or at least that's what the evidence suggests but I never wanted to accuse him of it. Well this fall, I mentioned he wanted to go biking just the two of us. I never really gave him an answer. I sort of just said, we'll see, and never got back to him and he didn't ask again.

Well I hadn't spoken to him since then. Only this week, I got a text that we were having a lil bike patrol reunion, a night of pool and drinks. Only it got cancelled, and he mentioned that he'd like to go out and catch up just us two. Actually, let me quote here:


I told him to let me know, regarding plans for a pool night in general, since they're suppose to reschedule.

Anyway, I post all this here again, because once again, I am curious about my ability to forgive and forget and be friends with this guy. It's been close to two years now since we broke up. Forgiveness is something that comes very hard to me. Especially when it comes to cheating. And it doesn't help that I keep most of the "evidence" to myself cause I 1. Don't wana seem immature in accusing him without solid proof and 2. Dunno that he would admit to it if he hasn't after all this time. After all, people have varying definitions of cheating. I don't think he actually DID anything with her. But he was chasing after her before he dumped me and lied about it.

Anyways, despite all that. I think we would have probably been really really good friends had we never dated. And part of me misses the friendship we had. I certainly miss the friendship more than the relationship. Although it can be confusing because we started dating very shortly after meeting.

Okay, I'm rambling again. But, I guess I need some advice. We have our history, and it can be difficult to be around him mostly because of the memories not because I have any interest in going back to that. But we still have fun. I think I just need to tell him if he's texting his girlfriend all night I'm leaving. Cause that is what irritated me the most. Like, it's bad enough he dumped me for her, don't rub it in.

Oh, and he got what he deserved when she cheated on him. But they are still together.

And how horrible am I for being happy that he got cheated on?

Oh and I adore his parents. I keep in touch with his mom. I know most people think that is really weird. I've just always been loved by boyfriends moms, I dunno why. But her especially. We use to chat about her animals while he waited for me lol.

Edit: It's also worth mentioning that this month, before I even heard from him. I was going through my room, cleaning, and I took out "Teddy Troy" (a teddy he gave me to cuddle when he wasn't around) from storage. I had put him in a box under my bed cause I couldn't stand to look at him or give him away. Anyway, he's out and it doesn't bother me. So, I know it sounds retarded, but maybe it's a sign I'm finally ready to give this friendship thing a real shot.

well,if you want to you could try being friends with him and see how it goes,I would definitly stay away from anything more than friends,and IDK how well his GF will take him hanging out with an ex,so it might be constant texts X_x but its really up to you,to me,it sounds kind of suspicious,but,Im over cautious XD

YUP, that would be me. It took Cowboy a good MONTH to really trust this guy. Oh, and we decided our official date on the calendar of when we were "girlfriend and boyfriend" was the day I introduced him to Cowboy (on neutral territory with a frisbee and treats) cause that is way bigger than meeting the parents lol, and he already knew my parents when we started dating.

After he dumped me, Cowboy got the memo, and went back to hating him. He jokes with me that I trained Cowboy to attack him with a picture or something. blaugh

@Cowgirl, I don't care what his gf thinks, she's a slut. She stole my bf and then cheated on him. And I know her sister, she had an affair with a guy who had a girlfriend he was with for 5yrs. This may sound stupid, but, it's like the whole family are a bunch of bad apples. And Troy's mom tried telling me that she's a nice girl and I had to bite my tongue. I think that's what made the friendship thing harder for me. I guess I feel crummy that he'd rather be with a girl that cheated on him, even though we never had a single fight or disagreement. It's hurtful, but I know you can't help who you fall for.

I know she will text constantly cause she's a clingy lil piece of work. But that doesn't mean he needs to keep his phone on and constantly respond to them all night. If someone can't spend like 2-3hrs without responding to a text and their significant other gets pissed off there is something very wrong. My ex was clingy but he never got mad or worried if I didn't respond. He just text me after like 2hrs to say he missed me lol.