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 Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 8:39 am
I'm trying to find my dad and I have no idea how to go about it..
I'm eighteen (So, I don't need my mum's permission.. Even though, she keeps telling me to find him, anyways..)
I know his full name..
I know how many children he had before me (And roughly how old they are)..
I know where in the country he was born..
I know what his occupation was when I was born..
The last time he saw me was on my first birthday..
And the last time one of my mum's friends saw him, was when I was about two..
He did drink..
So..
I am aware he could be dead by now..
I would also be nice to see my "other"siblings.. I know they go boy and girl (Could have changed their last name to their step-dad's), boy (Don't know his name) (Has a different mum from the first two)
If someone would kindly give me some advice please..
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Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 8:43 am
You could always hire a private investigator...
But beyond that I really have no idea how you could go about it.
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Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 8:56 am
WhiteWingtip You could always hire a private investigator...
But beyond that I really have no idea how you could go about it. I really don't have the money for that.. Thanks, though..
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Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 9:08 am
well if he's an immigrant, you could look up his immigration papers. that might give you the information you need to do a background check.
Like basically if you had his social security number you could check with the government
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Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 9:10 am
pirulaso well if he's an immigrant, you could look up his immigration papers. that might give you the information you need to do a background check. Like basically if you had his social security number you could check with the government I know.. His borthday would help too, But.. I only know he was born in January and that he's three or four years younger then my mum.. I really don't know that much..
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Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 9:35 am
Facebook.
Thats how my siblings found me.
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Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 11:16 am
Lady Kira X Facebook. Thats how my siblings found me. I tried that earlier.. Five came up and I don't think none of them were him.. I tried that with my oldest half-brother and sister a while back- I had no luck..
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Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 1:09 pm
meh.... it ain't worthe your time. if he wasn't around for you growing up, he won't be a dad to you even if you ever find him. I learned that the ********. if you already know so muh about him there is no point in going to see him. he's not worthe it. no abandoner ever is.
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Posted: Tue Dec 14, 2010 5:25 am
Chieftain Twilight meh.... it ain't worthe your time. if he wasn't around for you growing up, he won't be a dad to you even if you ever find him. I learned that the ********. if you already know so muh about him there is no point in going to see him. he's not worthe it. no abandoner ever is. I'm not looking to be "best friends" with him.. I just want to know if he has other kids and of I can find them.. (And what the name of the boy he had before me is called..) Part of me is just looking for answers.. The other part is just doing it to get at my brother (My mum's son), because he has something to say about everything I do..
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Posted: Tue Dec 14, 2010 10:25 am
ScreamoLunchbox Chieftain Twilight meh.... it ain't worthe your time. if he wasn't around for you growing up, he won't be a dad to you even if you ever find him. I learned that the ********. if you already know so muh about him there is no point in going to see him. he's not worthe it. no abandoner ever is. I'm not looking to be "best friends" with him.. I just want to know if he has other kids and of I can find them.. (And what the name of the boy he had before me is called..) Part of me is just looking for answers.. The other part is just doing it to get at my brother (My mum's son), because he has something to say about everything I do.. hmm... well... good luck then. I went looking for my biological dad back in early Feb this year, purely for answers. I didn't have any intentions of ever seeing him again. and I dunno how I let it happen, but I got suckered into believing he actually wanted to be part of my life, only for him to abandon me a second time. so yeh, I guess I'm biased. but you do have one thing right; certain questions will always bother you if you don't get them answered. for me, it was heritage. I only went to see him because I didn't know my own blood, and I couldn't be satisfied without being fully aware of myself. I had to suck up my Pride and see the guy I never wanted to see. or else I'd never know. now I'm Scottish and Cherokee! xd I hope you get the answers you need. just try not to let sappy emotions get to you. they ******** it all up. damn movies, making these moments look like they might work out. :grumbles.: stare
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 12:13 pm
ScreamoLunchbox WhiteWingtip You could always hire a private investigator...
But beyond that I really have no idea how you could go about it. I really don't have the money for that.. Thanks, though.. 
I've heard they can actually be SUPER cheap & affordable if you know where to look.
I personally don't know much at all about the subject, but I know people who seem to know a lot about how to find information on people & all that, so I can definitely look into it for you.
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 12:19 pm
Chieftain Twilight meh.... it ain't worthe your time. if he wasn't around for you growing up, he won't be a dad to you even if you ever find him. I learned that the ********. if you already know so muh about him there is no point in going to see him. he's not worthe it. no abandoner ever is.
It's totally normal for people who grew up without one or more of their parents to want to find them at some point in their life. & the fact that there's siblings involved, too, I'd imagine greatly increases the person's desire to find their father.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to know your biological family. It's completely natural.
Also, it's definitely possible that the person's father has changed. Maybe he's stopped drinking, maybe he feels absolutely horrible about abandoning his family, maybe he's even tried to track down the OPer but couldn't find him/her. Of course, it's not something anyone should ever count on, but it's possible.
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Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2010 2:06 pm
elyzia Chieftain Twilight meh.... it ain't worthe your time. if he wasn't around for you growing up, he won't be a dad to you even if you ever find him. I learned that the ********. if you already know so muh about him there is no point in going to see him. he's not worthe it. no abandoner ever is.
It's totally normal for people who grew up without one or more of their parents to want to find them at some point in their life. & the fact that there's siblings involved, too, I'd imagine greatly increases the person's desire to find their father.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to know your biological family. It's completely natural.
Also, it's definitely possible that the person's father has changed. Maybe he's stopped drinking, maybe he feels absolutely horrible about abandoning his family, maybe he's even tried to track down the OPer but couldn't find him/her. Of course, it's not something anyone should ever count on, but it's possible.
mehh... it wasn't that way for me, nor anyone else I know who went looking for their deadbeat. the way I see it, it never realy turns out that way. family ain't blood. it's whoever is there for you. ******** race, ******** heritage, ******** blood.
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Posted: Mon Jan 03, 2011 11:19 am
Chieftain Twilight elyzia Chieftain Twilight meh.... it ain't worthe your time. if he wasn't around for you growing up, he won't be a dad to you even if you ever find him. I learned that the ********. if you already know so muh about him there is no point in going to see him. he's not worthe it. no abandoner ever is.
It's totally normal for people who grew up without one or more of their parents to want to find them at some point in their life. & the fact that there's siblings involved, too, I'd imagine greatly increases the person's desire to find their father.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to know your biological family. It's completely natural.
Also, it's definitely possible that the person's father has changed. Maybe he's stopped drinking, maybe he feels absolutely horrible about abandoning his family, maybe he's even tried to track down the OPer but couldn't find him/her. Of course, it's not something anyone should ever count on, but it's possible.
mehh... it wasn't that way for me, nor anyone else I know who went looking for their deadbeat. the way I see it, it never realy turns out that way. family ain't blood. it's whoever is there for you. ******** race, ******** heritage, ******** blood. I agree with the part about family doesnt mean blood my closest family is my friends my blood family is all low lifes that do something criminal one way or another
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Posted: Thu Jan 06, 2011 9:32 pm
I agree with the whole concept that you choose your friends and not your family, but anyhow, disregarding reasons...
Does your mother give you any stories of his hobbies, any letters he might've wrote, anything that belonged to him that might've gave clues (diaries and journals, but I doubt he would have them let behind...). Government, police files, newspapers for any last names that come up that might relate to you or your bloodline, past jobs he might've worked... It all depends on how much information you can get ahold of and just how far that he could've traveled. Out of country, those options are out of the question.
Anyhow, good luck with your search.
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