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I wasn't sure what to title this thread but I'm sure this is, in a somewhat poetic way, what I want to say. I'm warning you now it's a deeper thread and conversation I want to have here.

I'm very lucky to have parents who accept me for who I am and my beliefs. My mother is christian, a very open minded christian, and she has never turned to me and said there is only 1 god. She has never asked if I worshipped the devil and never told me I wasn't allowed to believe and practice as a witch. My dad is aetheist and while he doesn't believe in anything specific he also has enough sence to say just because I don't believe it's there doesn't mean it isn't. He has never told me that I am wrong or stupid only that I have my right to believe whatever I like no matter what anyone else tells me.

But just because my parents have been accepting doesn't mean I haven't met my fair share of hurt. I've lost friends who simply wouldn't be friends with anyone who believed in more than 1 god and faeries. I've turned my back on friends who have cut me deep trying to make me feel stupid for believing that faeries are real. I've been slapped by a strange old woman I've never seen before. These are some of the reason I sought out this guild. This is a place I felt safe to discuss things I knew, things I wanted to know and things I'd experienced without ridicule.

I know that the world outside my home wasn't a safe place to be who I was, I learned very quickly that trust was something that you can't just hand out because there are people who you think are your friends who will cut you if they get the chance. I learned to close my mouth outside and keep to myself about faeries and magic. I am no longer that scared girl though. As I've grown into myself and become who I want to be, or at least started on my path, I've become strong and confident. I talk openly about my beliefs and when I'm shunned or ridiculed for them I stand up for myself and I walk away from them with my head held high. This probably wouldn't have happened though without the support and acceptance of my parents. I knew about the world outside my home and how unaccepting of other beliefs it could be but I also had a safe place to go every day and be who I was and say what I wanted to say and read about what I wanted to read. I had a supportive family who let me believe what I wanted to.

I also know that I was very lucky and that there are lot's of you in this guild who have to deal with parents who can't accept your beliefs and don't understand them....and don't want to understand them. I'm sure there are also those in the guild who had parents who didn't agree with their beliefs and choices but they worked through it. I started this thread so that people could come and ask for advise on how to tell your parents or friends what you believe in and how to stand up for yourself when they don't agree or understand you. This can also be a thread for people to tell their stories about who knows about their beliefs and how you told them.


If any of you have any stories about telling your parents or friends about your beliefs and at first they refused to understand why you believe in what you do or what you believe in but eventually you worked through it and overcame the distance between you. Or stories about people in your life unable to accept you are a witch or that you believe in faeries and you aren't a child anymore but you worked through it. How did you talk to your parents and make them understand? What made them change their minds?

My share is on the same line as Katie's. (Hi Katie! 4laugh )

There's a post here, I forgot which one, but I'd talked about my family history, however to the terms of that topic. Here, this is different. Kim, I'm very happy that you've shared, because I've been meaning to as well.

Without further ado..

I'm seventeen years old. A very, different young person with a tedious attitude to unthoughtfulness (not a word, but it is for today). I keep to myself, at most, when it comes to my own individual growth, spirituality, morals, and intelligence.

I take pride and secrecy into it, in a good way, of course. I love my parents whom are actually my aunt and uncle, and I'm very blessed to have them in my life for all that they've done and do for me, but I just cannot trust them with everything about me, nor do I really want to at times, and this is why.

My family are VERY strong non-denominational Christians, and that's how I was raised. Bottom line, they are against magic, witchcraft, faeries, demons, all of that, and I understand why. Even though everyone in my family knows it real, except for faeries, and are VERY superstitious. I do not practice witchcraft nor do I really want to, but I'm a faery spirit, I'm one with nature. My best friend, who is like a mother to me, is a High Witch. two of my close friends are vampires, one is a werewolf, the other a werecat- but I can NEVER tell them that. My friends are ALL christian. They'd lock me up, send me to a shrink, and pray non-stop thinking the devil has come into my life... I know that many of this goes against my beliefs, but I know my boundaries, and the holy spirit gives me discernment- I can never get "lost" but this is who I am.

It's really difficult...

I can't really think of much else to say, I had more planned out in my head- but it failed to be typed lol. sweatdrop

I for one have not told anyone. I'm kinda... well, not afraid so much as I can't find a way to put it without it sounding insane, even in my own head.

The only thing I feel okay telling people about is that I do believe in (and have had multiple experiances with) ghosts and such. I once saw a ghost in my room, but I was only two and I only know through my dad telling me. He also told me that his girlfriend at the time saw my mother in the hallway. Problem with that? My mom had passed away 4 years previous to then.

But I can't tell people that I have a wiccan stone my friend bought for me, or that I once (and sometimes still) believed myself to be an exiled faery princess that was being hunted down. I'm dead serious, and no, I'm not ripping off kagome_roker's story. This is a true story from my own childhood, told to me by someone I now believe to be a bit insane, but maybe she knew something I didn't.

Maybe one day I'll tell someone. Just not now.

There are/were many times that insanity crossed my thought process, but it's too real for me to ignore it and so be it.

I am in NO need to EVER tell my family my true self, my supernatural life and friends. They will simply never know, because I know, that If I ever did tell, chaos would fall upon my life.. I can't really trust my aunt and uncle, or any of my family with the other parts of my life. They are far too wishy-washy, hot and cold, sweet and sour, all that jazz. I believe in my heart that they would forsake me. I would just have to cope with that.

I do not think, honestly, that I have a past life. It'd be nice to know if I did and it's amazing to hear to a few of you have lives with such mystery and wonder, passion and despair. I'm very happy that I've joined this guild, Kim and Katie, you guys are truly a blessing, as well as everyone else here (whom actually talk/post/reply to people). I want to learn more from you two. As of this year, I'm somehow connected to Katie, she's an exiled Cavonian faery princess and her childhood best friend, Butterflee, with whom I share many qualities with. However, I do not think I have Butterflee's spirit as my Faeistory (totally made that up :]), but that of my own. I am my own faery- I think. Butterflee is my guardian faery, perhaps? I'm also not sure If I wanna call myself, or anyone an otherkin (I've done some extensive research on this), it's sounds so "LARP"ish and too unclassified. Making "otherworldly" people sound insane! Heh..moving on.. >_>

I breathe nature. A lump forms in my throat with melancholy when I see trees dying on the ground after they'd been uprooted from a horrible storm. I smile when it rains, when the sun beams, and the moon shines. I'm not quite nocturnal, nor am I diurnal, but in between, I can understand, telepathically and emotionally the heart-song or life-source of plants and trees- at certain times. (Different, yes. I know) This gifts happen when they happen. (I can't just go up to any rose or oak tree and just feel- but I can sometimes.) At least, I believe so.

I appreciate my gift/blessing. Nice to know nature doesn't mind communicating with me. When I saw a tree that had recently been split, and crushed by lighting, I can go up to it, be near it, I don't even have to really touch it- and and get of flood of its "emotion" and can tell how badly it hurt.


I went off on different topics, but I digress. My family can't know all of me. It feels good to get this off mind, I guess and I want some feedback now for closure, hopefully :]

It's hard to tell your family everything but Katie is right we are a family here a safe family where we can be who we really are because we're all similar. We all have other lives, whether they be past lives or parallel to this one. Lives we keep secret to the people around us, I'm glad that we all have a place to talk about it.

I think that's a great idea...the only problem is we don't live near each other....I for 1 live in Canada and from what I can remember most of you live in the States. I would def's been interested in doing something like that or maybe even getting some form of live chat to get something together and meet until we can plan something bigger. We could plan a small solstice festival (for celebrating the fae and meeting each other not for religious purposes)

where in canada?!

Yes, I live in the States, bur here's a great idea- Let's all Skype each other. It's free video/phone chat!!! Just download, create username and we can all hear/see each other!!!