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Okay, I just stopped my period today and I'm going through another cycle, one that I've been going through for about 2 years now.

Usually before my period and right after one, I become excessively..."horny" ( sweatdrop I hate that word ). When I see guys, all I can think about is sex. This makes things very difficult when I'm around my guy friends. When this first started occuring, I took this as a sign that I was growing feelings for someone but then they'd pass in the next two weeks or so.

Now when I say I get those urges, I mean....I get them BAD. I feel so completely dirty because I feel like I'm worse than a guy. Every other thought I have is about sex! It also affects my work and I can't concentrate on anything. This is also hard because I never see my boyfriend and I find it hard to be faithful. Granted, I'd never cheat on him but I won't lie and say that, during these happenings, I've thought of lots of other guys. I can't help it and I feel so guilty about it!

I wanted to know if this is normal or am I turning out to be some type of perverted sex freak?!? Do most girls go through this? I've talked to my friends about it and they "say" they get that way, but none of them have as bad of symptoms as I do (discomfort just above my "area" like pressure, distractions, spacing off about it, and in extreme cases, I'll begin to mouth what I'm thinking). I find that masturbation helps to a certain degree, but that's the only reason I do it. I really don't find self pleasuring all that enjoyable (maybe because I've only done it a few times) but it does take some of the pressure off....

Don't try to rationalize this in terms of an evolutionary survival trait. This is just about hormones messing with you. That's all. It's 100% normal.

The trick is to acknowledge that you get this way (as you seem to have done) and consciously realize when it is appropriate to act on these feelings and when it isn't.

And remember, you should never feel guilty about how you feel. It's what you do with those feelings that should bring pride or shame. As long as you don't act on it, it's perfectly ok to fantasize or think about men sexually.

You may wish to try masturbating more (or at all) during these times. This can do a lot of relieve some of the frustration.

Personally, I absolutly ravage my poor man while I am on my period. Sometimes, (especially during particularly heavy months) he doesn't even want to be touched for about a week afterwards because I just ask so much of him physically, lol 4laugh

EDIT: When I say that acting on these feelings should bring shame, I mean in a non-healthy way. Like, say, randomly just pouncing on men at the grocery store.

I've asked about it to my physician and he just claimed it was a hormonal imbalance.... stare yeah...that's helpful.

I haven't acted on my urges but each resistance is harder than the next. It's gotten to a point that there are times when I can't even look or talk to my guy friend because I'm afraid of what I might do.

There's no way I'd cheat on the guy I'm with and I'm trying really hard to not tempt myself, especially during these times. I try explaining it to my guy friends but they just don't get it and they want to be around me more to find out what's up!!! Had my boyfriend been around, Lord knows I'd wear that boy out cold for months.

I've tried distracting myself from it but it doesn't work. I've tried sports (I take martial arts), drawing, writing, listening to music, studying, dancing....sleeping NOTHING works. Well...eating does but I can't let myself go nuts everytime I get this way or I'd end up being jinormous.

The only thing i can think of is to get your man to move to u... wink

No! Honey, don't feel ashamedif you're being responsible with the feelings.

Sometimes I went through that. I joke that I have a strong sex drive than my husband. I could do it everyday happily and he would rather do it once or twice a week.

Masturbation is a wonderful key! There are devices that can make it more...satisfying as well.

It depends on the individuals. Some people are grossed out by the blood. Some people feel bloated and just want to be left alone. Personally, I get turned on all the time.

It's not really all that messy. We just put a black t-shirt under ourselves so that we don't get blood on the sheets. Then we take a shower afterwards. It's not a big deal.

Religiously speaking, you can't. If you're a Christian, you're not suppose to think about other people other than the person you're with. It's considered adultery...but I haven't figured out if that relates to marriage only or dating in general. Again, that's just one group's view.

I've got a high sex drive. Had I a p***s, I'd probably be the worst pervert out there...I hate to say this but I hate it. It's gotten me into trouble before and it's too much of a responsibility. Granted, my husband (if I decide to wed) won't have any reason to complain.

That's one of my big qualms with Christianity. The morality is so represive that it borders on the unhealthy. For you to suppressing natural emotions can only lead to something unhealthy. You spend so much time trying to supress your feelings that you become obsessed with them. That's when you start putting yourself in danger.

So while a priest may tell you it's wrong, letting your fantasies (no matter how "wrong" they seem) play out in the healthy and safe environment of your own mind is the best way to deal with them. Not to mention indulging in them with a consenting partner.

You can only be a healthy (mentally and physically) and wholesome person if you acknowledge your feelings, realize which are ok to realize and which are not, and move on. Christianity in it's opressive form stiffles the self and leads to an unhealthy mind.

And remember, in the words of Wordsworth (whose name alone implies great worth in his words!), if God didn't want you to have these feelings, he wouldn't have given them to you. The key is to indulge in moderation and not go into excess.