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I know someone recently made a topic about this, but what I feel is different than what she described.

I'm asking because I read this in another thread here:


Is that supposed to be true for masturbation, or only sex? Because when I masturbate, I always have one. Or at least, that's what I thought.
The thing I feel, if this helps, is like all of the pleasure has just been building up to this moment and is finally let loose. My v****a seems to contract rapidly, too. o.o;
It isn't something that seems completely overwhealming, though, like I've read it's supposed to be. I never make any involuntary noise when it happens. I've been doing this for maybe two years, though, so it may have been overwhealming when I started. I don't know.

Oh, yeah, and I never have this problem of coming everywhere and staining sheets and such when it happens, like everyone that posted in the Masturbation Stories thread seem to.

I've never had sex.

From what my memory serves, I believe that that comment was issued to intercourse.

Intercourse involves two people (or more) and has a vide range of variables that can cause someone to not have an orgasm (inexperience, lack of interest, etc).

Masturbation has a lot less of these variables and it's just you. You know what works and doesn't work. You're also more proned to letting your inhabitions go and pleasuring yourself the way you know how. Sometimes in sex, people feel obligated to vary technique or what have you and sometimes just one specific motion really does it for you. By yourself, you can be greedy and just do whatever you want to make yourself orgasm.

Bascially, it's much easier to orgasm through masturbation.


As for if you really orgasmed, that's a harder thing to analyze. Everyone has own opinion on what an orgasm is like.. kind of like "what is love."

My experience:

Both ways you feel that mounting tension and then a release, however, there are some slight differences.

Sometimes, I have a release and I'm like "wow, that was nice" sort of thing and I'm somewhat relaxed and calm and I feel good. Sometimes I clenched my legs and so forth. I would say that that's not an 'orgasm' in the sense that it's all-powerful.

Other times, After the release I'm completely drained. This means I'm almost always completely relaxed and often I can just lay there for a while. I often find myself shaking more than clenching and I find that my v****a becomes -a lot- more senstive afterwards in which it is much harder to initiate more masturbation or sex right after. This is what I would consider an orgasm.

But in generally, I would say that if you like how what you're doing now feels... who cares what it's called? It works for you and it feels great. ^__^

I am pretty sure I've only orgasmed once, but even then it's a little iffy for me. It was building up, and then my foot spasmed, and afterwards I felt really spent. sweatdrop So I don't know if that counts or not.

Not a "footgasm" xp , just my foot was tensing up because I was tensing up my body (I do that when I start getting really turned on), and then it just spasmed from all the tension. I had to stop for a minute, and then after my boyfriend was done, I felt spent. sweatdrop

Better than nothing. xd Hey, it was my first time. Practice makes perfect, no?
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it's orgasm.

it isn't what it's hyped up to be, but that's it ^_^

congratulations or something XD

I agree, however i also believe there is incresed pressure on guys to produce it. Also, that seems to me that u had one and iif it was good for you, then i guess it was, because orgasms would be subjective.

Uh...thanks, Liadan. XD For the congrats.

And I concur, as well. I see sex as something that should be very special.

@PrnceTimothy: It seems to me that guys put the majority of the pressure on themselves.