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Dear Jamie:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White
Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated
from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgiawith a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a
major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider
myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.

I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want
to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in
the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was
because they were considered easy.

The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They
were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost
it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for
someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they
turned to the white girls.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because
they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of
insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by
the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be
more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and
own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more
docile woman. Someone we can control.

I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on
how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want
to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that
not all successful black men date white women.

Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris
Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds,
Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to
flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot
light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted
Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.

I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop
thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.
Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were
ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves
of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with
clubs. Read your history!

It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your
food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your
children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your
babies during slavery.

It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,
husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women
were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman.
And, through all this, Still They Rise!

It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love
and beauty that I could> never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is
not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is
not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that
I love them.

Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women.
Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their
ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what
they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their
highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and
envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you
continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so
proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?
Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with
unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more
voluptuous?

I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have
what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk
over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother
to my children.

Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am
looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately,
you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.

Signed, Black Royalty

True, those are girls and not women, but remember, I'm around black people all the time. Wether they're family, family of friends, people around the neighborhood, or whatever. I have to say that 50-80% of black women ARE loud and argumentive. And just because girls go about things differently than women do, doesn't mean that they don't do the same things in essence.

And you didn't have to look too far into the 'Exceptions to every rule' thing. The bottom line is that you knew what I meant, even if 'rule' isn't the right word to use.

Well, if the shoe fits. The fact of the matter is, white women don't sit there and argue with you over petty things. Black women will. Yes, there are exceptions, but the majority do.

And, yes, a "couple", but I'm happy to say that I haven't had many problems with any of my relationships after those two. That's enough for me.

Yes, I would agree, if the script was flipped. That's how black men are. I don't deny it, as I can be all of the above at times. Though they don't want to admit it, they know they have some of the traits mentioned in the article.

Hell, I was never in the box. I kicked it, stepped on it, and walked all the way around the box. I realize not everyone will agree with my opinions, but that's what I actually feel about the article.

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It's true, I shouldn't date those kinds of black girls. But out of all the black girls I know (which is a lot of them) I have to say, most of them fit the description (except for the 'mean' part). There really aren't many options at all down here. Of course, I'm going on the girls in the South. I don't know what it's like up North.
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I never said ALL. When have you ever heard me say the word 'ALL'? Except for just now, that is. I said MOST. MOST. Most can be anything over 50%. I didn't group ALL black women.

EDIT::

What do you mean? We do take advantage of them. We take advantage of their kindness, and usually use them to get what we want. However, we also give them what they want. Companionship. I never said I didn't agree with that comment. Just because I didn't comment on it doesn't mean I don't agree. After all, I didn't comment on the black women being 'fat' and 'materialistic', now did I?

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