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 Posted: Wed Jan 04, 2006 8:16 pm
Should all races be free to be able to have relationships with other races or creeds. Or should we all just close ourselfs to old ways?
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Posted: Wed Jan 04, 2006 8:38 pm
It depends on the reasons. If you're dating a certain type of people because you're "only attracted to this race of people" you shouldn't even be allowed to procreate. But if you're dating someone because you love them, and you get along with them, then it shouldn't matter what race they are. But you have to realize that there are a lot of issues inside of an interracial relationship as well as outside of one.
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Posted: Thu Jan 05, 2006 10:25 am
Lupin The Great Should all races be free to be able to have relationships with other races or creeds. Or should we all just close ourselfs to old ways? [...It's not like we really have a choice ("anymore") of whether or not to "allow" different races in the United States to date or have relationships.
I say, of course people should be, and in most cases are, allowed to date outside their race and outside their taught or adopted set of values and beiliefs. 3nodding The people who are discouraged from doing so still have the ability to, whether or not they have to "sneak" and do it.]
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Posted: Thu Jan 05, 2006 10:31 am
ShiaoBella It depends on the reasons. If you're dating a certain type of people because you're "only attracted to this race of people" you shouldn't even be allowed to procreate. But if you're dating someone because you love them, and you get along with them, then it shouldn't matter what race they are. But you have to realize that there are a lot of issues inside of an interracial relationship as well as outside of one. [I have to say I don't totally agree with that. I mean, sure, if you're dating someone whom you love, etc., then that's great. But there are some people who "prefer" to date a certain nationality or color of person. Sometimes that "preferance" might be so prominant that this person may disregard someone outside the race that they prefer, even if this other person would otherwise be someone that they would like, if not for their skin color or nationality. 3nodding ]
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Posted: Thu Jan 05, 2006 7:01 pm
No one should restrict themselves to loving only one type of person. My cousin married a white guy and its accepted by everyone in my family.
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Posted: Thu Jan 05, 2006 11:58 pm
I'm totally for Inter-Racial relationships. It shouldn't matter what race the person you are dating is as long as you both love and respect each other.
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Posted: Sun Jan 08, 2006 6:33 pm
I'm totally for it. I dated someone for about two years that was white and the racism and critism we recieved was horrible it was alot of hard work to stay in the relationship because most of the time we wanted to give up. I have to say that because we loved eachother is the main reason why we dealt with the racism,critism, etc. It wasn't really that bad for me. It was wonderful in fact because he was a remarkable guy and it still hurts me to this day that he passed away. I haven't been in another relationship since.
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Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 1:20 am
Passion_Dragon ShiaoBella It depends on the reasons. If you're dating a certain type of people because you're "only attracted to this race of people" you shouldn't even be allowed to procreate. But if you're dating someone because you love them, and you get along with them, then it shouldn't matter what race they are. But you have to realize that there are a lot of issues inside of an interracial relationship as well as outside of one. [I have to say I don't totally agree with that. I mean, sure, if you're dating someone whom you love, etc., then that's great. But there are some people who "prefer" to date a certain nationality or color of person. Sometimes that "preferance" might be so prominant that this person may disregard someone outside the race that they prefer, even if this other person would otherwise be someone that they would like, if not for their skin color or nationality. 3nodding ]
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Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 7:25 am
ShiaoBella It depends on the reasons. If you're dating a certain type of people because you're "only attracted to this race of people" you shouldn't even be allowed to procreate. But if you're dating someone because you love them, and you get along with them, then it shouldn't matter what race they are. But you have to realize that there are a lot of issues inside of an interracial relationship as well as outside of one. okay...first @ ShiaoBella's comment:
I don't think it's wrong to have a preference to who you want to date. I know guys who only date girls with red hair because that's what turns them on....If you have a thing for dark skinned girls (like a few of my white guy friends ) and that's all that gets you, then there is nothing bad if they reject a white girls or asian girls, because that just doesn't attract them at all. Some people are not attracted to larger body types, and some only like really petit women.
There is no problem with this.
The only problem that can arise from this is when someone treats the person they are not attracted to ( because of skin color, eye color, hair color, body type, or whatever) with malice.
If they turn out to be prejudice towards the person who they are not attracted to, then there is a problem ( I stay away from the term "race" because there is only ONE race: the human race).
My Thoughts:
I myself think that people should love each other regardless of what, I mean I know it's a cliche statement, but if we all took a butcher knife and hacked off each other's limbs, we'd all bleed the same color and have the same internal matter blaugh
But if you have a liking to someone of a certain pigmentation....that may be because of your social upbrining and and construction that causes you to like that person because of their skin color.
The problem is that you should not just like someone because of their skin color...but because of who they are....so you should not really shy away from someone, but give everyone an equal chance. Just because they may not fit your "mold" does not mean that they are not compatiable with you.
The sad news is that a lot of people, black, b lue, white, orange, yellow, whatever...
still do not believe that people should date outside the shade even, of their skin.
An example would be my friend Keia's grandmparents not wanting her to date a darker guy because she is light skinned and her children will turn out darker than her. This is a dumb socially constructed reality in my mind, But that's how people think sometimes.
So, it's up to us, the ones who are open to love people regardless of size, shape, pigmentation, color of hair, how much they own, and how they look period...
Because a lot of people say that "inter-racial" relationships are OK....and turn around and dislike someone because they are "fat", "skinny" , "disabled", or from a certain neighborhood.
ah...I'll get off my SoapBox. I just woke up...too early to make sense ^_^
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Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 7:27 am
PersianTears i'm with you on that one passion....i'm like that...I date mostly hispanic and white guys. i'm not really attracted to black men and i'm half black at it as well (just making latino.black.white the main races around here). there is alot of people out there who are like that and its not because of their skin color or anything its just how it is. There is nothing wrong with being in a interacial relastionship. I believe alot of kids who are mix are more open-minded and can see things differently than others. because they learn that they a part of two worlds instead of one see...I disagree and agree. Some kids do have a broader view of life because of their upbrining, but then again...a lot of kids who are mixed only want to date others who are mixed, or their parents want to keep their light skinned color and teach them that they are better off with a mixed, or white, guy so that their children will be lighter or so.
Like this girl named Melissa I grew up with...her grandmother used to not let them play outside till after 5pm because she didn't want them to be darker, and she taught them that they should date a white man or a light skinned man to keep her "beautiful carmel color"
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Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 10:22 am
Nithiya
My Thoughts:
The problem is that you should not just like someone because of their skin color...but because of who they are....so you should not really shy away from someone, but give everyone an equal chance. Just because they may not fit your "mold" does not mean that they are not compatiable with you.
Because a lot of people say that "inter-racial" relationships are OK....and turn around and dislike someone because they are "fat", "skinny" , "disabled", or from a certain neighborhood.
[I agree somewhat. 3nodding The color or ethnicity of the other person isn't the only concern; you're right: ask those who are pro-interracial ralationships if they also wouldn't care about height, weight or abilities and they might be a little slower to answer positively. razz
Because the truth of the matter is that we all have some prejudice in us. It's human nature to judge a book by it's cover; it's almost as if this is a method of survival. surprised Watch Animal Planet or the Discovery Channel? Animals choose mates depending on what male or female is better suited for this or that. The vast majority of the human population does the same thing.
I watched a show on sex lately; they discussed why certain aspects of females and males are attractive to the opposite sex. Obviously we still have some of our instincts. wink
Some may believe that humans were created in God's image. "Image," maybe, but we're far from being as forgiving and accepting, and we totally fail at "unconditional love." It's almost as if it doesn't exists, except perhaps between a pet owner and pet or a parent and child. It's too much to expect average people to not stereotype or prejudge their felow man. We're all about "conditional love" though. If someone is this way or that way, then we can give them a shot. 3nodding ]
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Posted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 10:20 pm
Oooh I agree with Nithiya. We all bleed the same color, it doesn't matter what color skin we have. I think that people who date inter-racialy should not be taunted, criticised or anything like that just because they arent : black and black or white and white. It shouldn't matter! I mean the guy I like now, is white and he's a sweet heart. So thats my thought! 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 4:48 am
ShiaoBella It depends on the reasons. If you're dating a certain type of people because you're "only attracted to this race of people" you shouldn't even be allowed to procreate. But if you're dating someone because you love them, and you get along with them, then it shouldn't matter what race they are. But you have to realize that there are a lot of issues inside of an interracial relationship as well as outside of one. 
um, i have to disagree here, too. i think i know what you meant by that, but your choice of words wasn't the best.
i find myself mainly 'attracted' to black and latino men, just because that's what i mainly grew up with and around, but that doesn't mean that i don't think that men of other nationalities/races are good-looking (Jeff Goldblum is sexy! sorry, i love the way he looks when he thinks). as far as what's 'worth dating', that completely depends on the individual. a guy could be the sexiest man alive but if he's a complete a**, then he's not worth my time, whether he's black, white, or cerulean blue.
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Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 5:06 am
Crystal Espers I'm totally for Inter-Racial relationships. It shouldn't matter what race the person you are dating is as long as you both love and respect each other. I totally agree with that. I don't care if you're white, black, brown, green, or any other color on the spectrum. If you love them for who they are, then I say go for an inter-racial relationship.
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Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 1:11 am
My momma said if I brang home a white girl she would disown me. She said if I brought home a black girl she would see to it that I was castrated. 3nodding
I never brought any of my girlfriends home. My momma is gangster as hell. sweatdrop
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