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 Posted: Mon May 17, 2010 9:25 pm
How about them babies?
Do you intend to have kids? When? Would you be a single mom? How many? Do you want boys, girls, twins, ect? And would you adopt?
Mine:
I might want a kid, in my thirties, but I hope the father stays home and cares for them like my dad did. I would not want to be a single mom, I think that would really horrible. And I would rather adopt because giving birth sounds scary and I am sincerely freaked by the whole process.
One boy would be perfect, I liked being an only child.
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Posted: Mon May 17, 2010 10:45 pm
I always tell people I don't want kids - but I think deep down eventually I will. The thing that turns me off the most is that you have to either get a nanny or stay home away from your job to raise them. My mom stayed home for 10 years to raise us and I'm so glad she did.
I can see myself maybe having a baby when I'm 30 (settled down, stable with money hopefully, have a house of my own) and when I'm married. No single mom stuff for me. That way I'll be at least 6 years into my career, and maybe I can be more of a freelance designer from home or something. I would want a little girl because I grew up around girls and I've never really been around little boys until now (little cousins) and they are DEVILS, but I'm sure either way it would be fine.
I would also want my husband to be able to stay home maybe one day a week or something like that.
I will totally spoil my kids to death, I know that for sure. I also want them to be 'cultural' in certain ways I never was. For instance, my parents never really shared with me their personal tastes in music, movies, or anything like that. I did get to travel when young though.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 4:50 am
I don't really want kids. I'm going into education and my partner will probably be an artist of some sorts, so money isn't going to be as... present as I would like. Children are expensive, and I want to be able to be sure we can support them before we think about it.
If we do decide to have a kid, I won't be carrying it. I have an underlying fear of pregnancy and childbirth and it completely scares the s**t out of me. If my partner wants to carry it, cool. If not, we'll adopt. But gay adoption is still illegal in several US states, so that makes it all slightly difficult. And more expensive.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 6:32 am
I want to look into the possibilities of fostering and adoption. I really don't want my own biological children, the whole idea is not only gross but imo, selfish.
In terms of being a single mother, I don't have plans for marriage. I really don't want to be married. But I wouldn't want to raise a child by myself. So before I made decisions like that, it'd have to be with careful consideration of my circumstances.
I just read about a system they have in France called PACS which really appeals to me. Most of the rights you get under marriage, available for same-sex couples, includes all the rights you have to children as a married couple etc. The difference is the level of commitment; you can separate a lot more easily, no need for divorce. I know it sounds really cynical, but I don't believe in any guarantee that I'll stay with a long-term partner my entire life; if I do, then great, but otherwise, I want to make provisions for it. I suppose I feel that way since my parents got divorced and 50% of marriages end in divorce.
Anyway I don't have any real preferences for children in terms of gender, age, number of them etc. I'd probably find out what my preferences were in an adoption process.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 7:35 am
whenever i'm done school and have my own stable job.
i do want to marry, so hopefully i wouldn't be a single mother.
i'm on the fence about having biological children because it seems gross to me. wtf something growing in me for 9 months. alien?
i think i might want to adopt but i also want something that's...mine? i don't know, that sounds selfish.
i want two children. a boy and a girl ideally, but whatever comes out is whatever comes out. if it happens the way i want it to, it'll be an older boy by 3 years.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 7:54 am
I want a boy and girl, cause I want to experience both sides of everything when they grow up. You know boy in sports, the girl's graduation, that kinda stuff.
Probably late 20's early 30's I want to pop them out, cause I always felt my parents were kinda old when they had me and my brother.
hoeeee I also want my man to be around to raise them youngings too.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 8:12 am
I kinda came to the conclusion recently that I don't want kids. I don't like babies or toddlers, and while older children don't bother me so much, you can't pop out an 8 year old.
For a while, my friend had me convinced that I wanted to. I cooed over babies and was convinced that my clock was ticking. But deep down, it always felt hollow and safe because it was a 'not now' desire.
I was able to say that it was in the future, right now I was allowed to do whatever I wanted, when I wanted. I always thought that I would when I was 30, even 4-5 years ago. 30. Yeah. 30 would be perfect. I'd be 45 when they were 15, old enough to deal with hormones and s**t, and 48 when they graduated and went off to college, and still young enough to live it up, but ******** guess what age I'm turning next month?
There is no way. NO. WAY.
I just don't want to be tied down. The thought of living in a house with constant noise, constant need for attentiveness, constantly alert, soccer practice, swim meets, PTA meetings, it really does not appeal.
I think back to working over the summers with my dad, who is a carpenter, and working in people's homes. I remember seeing the kids, hearing the happy screams and the sounds of pounding feet running back and forth all day, seeing the frazzled-stay-at-home-upper-class mom, who was preoccupied with everything child and home oriented and I just don't want that.
When my childhood friends started getting pregnant and having kids, granted I havne't been friends with them in years, but just knowing that they were breeding felt...awkward. Not accidental 'Well s**t, I'm going to man up to this responsibility' pregnancies, but 'We decided to start a family' pregnancies. It felt strange and alien and I couldn't imagine it happening to me. I was secretly glad it was them and not me, and I've only just started admitting it.
I may consider adoption when I am closer to 40, but there again, am I just saying that with the safety of 'not now' or is it something I will actually do?
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 8:21 am
Do you intend to have kids? Someday.
When? After I get my life on track, anywhere from 25-35.
Would you be a single mom? No thank you.
How many? 2 or 3.
Do you want boys, girls, twins, ect? Two girls and a boy.
And would you adopt? If I couldn't have children on my own, yes.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 9:19 am
Yo I know I'm not a lady but I want kids. Eventually. I used to think "meh not for me" but I've been around my friend's nephew a lot lately since he and his parents wind up watching him and he's absolutely adorable. He's like, six or seven and a huge ball of energy and fun.
but uh you know for any of you ladies that want some kids
you know I uh want some too so we could uh
copulate
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 12:04 pm
I would like to adopt a child because I'm terrified of giving birth. And like VC implied (or I think she implied?), I find it kind of selfish to bring another life into the world when there are already so many that are unwanted. I want a girl. And only one so I can focus all of my energy on her. Spoil her rotten, basically.
I don't foresee myself being a single mother but if I was, I guess I would deal with it. I probably wouldn't adopt a child until I was settled in my career and relationship. But I would never be a stay at home mom. Its sad that women have to choose (or think they have to choose) between a career and children.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 1:07 pm
Not only did I imply, I outright stated it was selfish. xD I'm not saying people shouldn't have kids, but I think it's a selfish act to want your own biological children and to bring them about. Not just because there are unwanted children already, but in terms of sustainability and overpopulation...
But I digress.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 3:26 pm
I don't really understand why I'd even want a kid. Kids are horrible investments for how much money they cost and are probably the biggest responsibility in the whole world. Not only would something be living inside me for nine months, but I'd have to care for it for EIGHTEEN years. Who wants that sort of responsibility?
I just don't know if I will ever be at a place in my life where I am willing to sacrifice that much for something other than the person I love. And people say that a mother loves a baby when they are born. Well, that's nice, but I don't really see that happening. A baby is some alien creature that leeches life from me and basically makes me miserable for nine months. How am I supposed to love that?
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 3:46 pm
Like Travis, def not a girl here, but I agree with Morde and Xippy.
Our school librarian is retiring this year, after seven years here, and an entire career before doing other scholastic things. She said the thing she's most looking forward to is the chance to catch up with her husband, since she's spent the past ≈21 years tending to her two kids.
That got me thinking, holy ********. 21 years of your life dedicated to raising someone you'll rarely see (depending on where they move, more so), being a constant source of worry, a physical, mental, and monetary drain? I haven't even been ALIVE for 21 years, and I can barely handle my own emotions, let alone the emotions of someone I'd love. I don't take enough pride in the things I put out to be proud of another PERSON, someone I truly have no control over, only some influence.
I could never do it.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 4:15 pm
I was never really sure I wanted kids. The thought of giving birth totally freaks me out. Buuuut, oops!
I would be a single mom as long as I had help. Ha, actually, when I was younger, I kinda WANTED to be a single mom.
I think I'll only ever have one kid. I guess a second is an option, for the other one to play with, but idk. Pretty sure I just want one, and I'd rather have a girl, although it doesn't -really- matter. I just feel like I'd be able to relate to a girl better. ******** twins, at least not the first time around. >:C
I'd adopt but I'd rather have a kid that's my own or my partner's, y'know? Yeaahh.
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Posted: Tue May 18, 2010 4:53 pm
I'm weird. I want male. MALE. NO FEMALE. UGH.
But I want either one boy, or 7 boys. Weird? Yes.
But it depends on my lovré~
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