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Okay, I'm not really sure where to start with this so I'll give some background info before getting to the point.
Since April of last year my period's been pretty irregular (a few days to two to three weeks late, not really starting early or on time). I just thought it was because my boyfriend had broken up with me and I've been really heart broken and depressed.
He and I have had a... weird relationship since. We didn't talk for a while, gave each other space, but at the end of the summer (somewhere in July/August) he started wanting to spend time with me. We hung out once then and then started hanging out more. My feelings for him never changed, which he knows, and our hanging out would happen more and more, him spending the night some nights. We ended up kissing and more.
My last period started on New Years Eve (which I can't recall if I started early or late). He came over New Years Day and we hung out. He told me how he decided to join the marines which I kind of freaked out about. I drank for the first time (he knew I'd been wanting to experience it) and ended up getting pretty drunk (throwing up, panic attacks, etc). He took care of me before he had to head home.
He was over one day after spending the night and we got close to having sex but I made him stop. I was supposed to start my period on the 28th of January, though I figured since my period's been irregular and I've been stressed from school I'd be late. I didn't start, and he and I had sex on February first (Monday). I had initially stopped him because I knew he wasn't wearing a condom, told him that, and he put one on. It didn't last long, though - he stopped and said the condom came off.
On Tuesday I felt like I was cramping slightly, so I thought maybe my period started or was about to start. I went to the bathroom and thought I had started, though it was more like what you get at the end of your period (brown, clotted blood), and it wasn't really much. It lasted a day or two before stopping.
So I'm not sure what to think. From what I've heard and read, implantation bleeding doesn't occur until about six to twelve days after implantation. I'm not really worried about it but at the same time I am. I know stressing over it won't help any, so.
Any thoughts or input?


And just as a kind of by the way information, I know having sex with him wasn't a smart idea since I know, and I'm pretty sure he knows as well, that it meant more to me than it did to him. It was something we've both wanted for a while, though, and I finally felt ready. There's also numerous other reasons it wasn't a very smart idea but I won't go in to that other than saying he's essentially dropped whatever it was we had and is now saying we're friends.
I haven't brought this (the reason for being worried but not) up to him since I don't know if there actually is anything to worry about or not. He came over Thursday night and is now living with me and my family until he leaves for boot camp, which I believe is in a few weeks.
I've been pretty stressed this week (a bunch of homework for my college classes, I've got three tests I need to study for by Monday, I had homework and I've got work I still need to do due Tuesday, and I had the ACT this morning) as well as feeling emotionally unwell (a bunch of reasons, thinking things over too much, etc), so for all I know those could be contributing to why I haven't started.
I just wish it would start so it'd be one less thing to worry about.

We did use protection, it just came off and he stopped when it did.
The day after he and I had sex I told my mom I wanted to go on the pill (though she doesn't know he and I had sex). She's yet to make a doctor's appointment though.
I'm trying to keep my stress level down, but it's kind of difficult with four college classes plus a fifth class (an elective).
Still haven't started my period. I started feeling kinda crampy a day or so ago but nothing's come of it.

Believe me, I wish I could drive. That would be one less stress to worry about - I hate having to rely on other people to get places.
I'll have to ask her to make the appointment.
What all is done in order to get the pill? When I had asked my mom about getting me on the pill, she said that they'd have to do a pelvic exam, but I've never heard of that being a requirement before.

Eh, doesn't sound too bad I guess. I mean, at some point in our female lives we're all gonna have to get a pelvic exam, right?
When I brought up to my mom about going on the pill, she said that I could either go to her doctor, which would be a first time bill of $100-something, or the health clinic and they'd do it on a sliding scale. [We don't have much money so we'd probably go to the health clinic]
Do they ask whether I'd want a female or male doctor, or does it just depend on who's there or who ever I happen to get?
And I'm assuming I'd have to answer questions and stuff - what would the questions be?

Doesn't sound too bad.
And all of the information the doctors would be told would stay between me and the doctor (doctor-patient confidentiality) - my mom wouldn't have to know?

Clinics are often even more a**l about confidentiality than other doctor's offices are because clinics get a lot teens who are hiding their sex life from their parents, people coming in for anonymous STD testing, abuse cases, etc.

If a parent calls the clinic asking if their teen had been there, for example, the clinic will not give them any information. Heck, I have even had trouble getting my own information from them when I called them. xp

The clinics also usually ask if it is ok to send you mail, call you, or bill your insurance since all of those things could tip parents off that their teen had been there.

I could be wrong, but I think the biggest difference between the inexpensive tests and expensive tests is how easy they are to read and how early on you can take them. Other than that, I think they're about equally reliable. So I think it is safe for you to get a less expensive one.

Just make sure you read and follow the directions. If you get a negative result but still don't have a period in a week, you can test again if you want. Because sometimes it takes a bit longer for it to show up.

You can also see if the clinic will give you a pregnancy test. That way you might be able to get it for free.


Your best bet would probably be to call the Health Department and ask in that case. They might offer abortion services but not widely advertise them. Or they might be able to refer you somewhere else. Family Planning, for example, does not do abortions or biopsies, but they will refer you to someone who can. I have had two biopsies done through (but not at) Family Planning. They were both done at hospitals, not clinics. But Family Planning still covered it! So they might provide the same type of deal for abortions.

Yeah, if you needed to go somewhere else for an abortion, that would be a bit harder to hide from your mom. In that case you might have to be honest, take a bus, or get someone else to drive.